It looks like the OP is not coming back any time soon.
Yeah that's the case for pretty much all of the older threads. This forum has seen a lot of prolific and insightful posters come and go. It's a gold-mine of advice and ideas though, well worth exploring. I find sometimes there's an idea that speaks to me, and I can bring into my next session. Even threads I've read before, some detail might stand out in a new way, or be the right idea at the right time, or come at the right stage of the journey.
I still find the concept of super-O elusive. Could it mean different things to different folks?
It does, and it's been a slippery term for a long time. Part of the trouble is not being able to compare our internal states, like maybe the best orgasm I've ever had is what someone else would consider a small prostate orgasm. And since both of them were "outside of your normal frame of reference", they'd both qualify. It then gets chopped up into "mild super-o" and "intense super-o". There isn't a universal consensus, there are many of us who define it chiefly as "When it happens you'll know". Like you won't be showing up to the forum asking "Did I just have a super-o?", you'll be shaking and in disbelief, and you won't know what else it could possibly be called.
Another reason for the loose criteria, is that it's considered by many to be counter-productive, to have this holy grail of an orgasm that "happens exactly like this" and if you don't experience it, then you haven't "made it" yet. That leads to people discounting their own experience/progress, and chasing outcomes that by their nature can't be forced. So while there's truth to that, I think people are adults, and we should be able to give peak experiences a name.
I've been here years and still can't get a clear definition of "involuntary contraction". Contraction of what? I feel all kinds of different things contracting. 😛
but I also think if anyone can call it "super", they must be comparing it with other orgasms that are "not super". So what are the distinctions to you?
Honestly, I don't even use the term. By some definitions I have super-o's every session, but compared to other super-o reports, I could just as easily conclude that I've never had a super-o. For example, I've never had the moaning, bucking, crying, complete loss of control. Or the sense of a minutes-long dry ejaculation. Or merging with the universe (except one time when I was riding stoned - but that doesn't count IMO).
But then, I have had full-body orgasms without the big spasms, where I just felt locked in place... multiple dry orgasms, and once-off prostate jolts that were extremely satisfying beyond anything I imagined possible. Then other times it's just a slow roll of very nice squirmy pelvic pleasure that I can ride for an hour. There are different kinds of experiences, and I can't call one a super-o and another one not.
I suppose the loosest definition I'd use is a sensation better than traditional masturbation in strength or duration.
But that's not my personal definition, mine is constructed from both my own experiences and a patchwork of other people's super-o reports, and it exists for me as an ambition, which I think is possible. It consists of extremely satisfying prostate spasms that repeat on themselves, expand, and create a level of pleasure that becomes so overwhelming that your can no longer think, and once your thinking mind is out of the way, the pleasure cascades and crashes into an intense full body orgasm that can't be stopped, you no longer can control your movements or vocalizations, you feel intense emotions, and you're basically along for the ride until it runs its course.
That's a very high bar, but I believe other people have experienced exactly this. I have experienced enough components of it, to have very little doubt that it's physically possible.
How did you achieve that transition?
There are two sticky-threads on this forum where people mention their breakthroughs. "My First Super Orgasm..." and My Best Super-O and How I Did It
It can be a long read, but if you're looking for those transitional moments, there are a fair few mentioned.
What progress I've made, I experienced as a series of minor transitions. I consider it something like a mixing desk in a recording studio, where someone has come in and set half the knobs and sliders to random values. Over time and observation, you notice that one thing or another is slightly off, and you slide that setting back towards something that sounds better. Not everyone has the same set of errors, so not all advice or corrections are going to be relevant at all times. I believe there's also a level of body-learning that happens, that you can't think or technique your way into.
