Can you Aless during intercourse?

It depends on what you consider Aless. If you just consider aless to be prostate stimulation solely through pelvic floor clenching and awareness, it could be difficult but it is definitely possible. If you have a broader definition of aless to include orgasms from skin stimulation (e.g. nips, lips, and fingertips), as well as more psychological orgasms (e.g. an upwelling of love for your partner, or mental stimulation from various D/s games), then there are plenty of possibilities to have aless orgasms as the penetrator during sex.

As for how to have these orgasms during sex, it is a good first step to reliably have them alone.  The next step would be to be to communicate with your partner about your journey and to have them present during a few sessions. This way they can learn what stimulates you, and they can see what the build up to your non-ejaculatory orgasms looks like. Then, during sex, they can see the signs of your pleasure and help push you over the edge.  My partner knows that the moment she puts her hands on my breasts I will change from an active state of trying to give her pleasure into a more passive state of receiving pleasure.

Also it helps a lot to communicate during sex.  With my partner we use two separate words for dry and wet orgasm (in French: jouir and gicler). That way when I am about to have an aless orgasm, I tell her so concisely and sexily: “I am going to come,” and she affirms my pleasure with words and caresses.  Or alternatively she might see me approaching the brink just by my facial expressions or moaning, and she will tell me to come in the sexiest way imaginable, while touching me in ways I like. I am sure you could also use terminology from the forum, but I personally find it to be a turn off.

Another useful thing to learn is slow penetration. If you learn how to bring things to a near standstill, and how to play with slow moving pressure changes, it can help change sex into the same sort of meditative states as solo sessions. If your partner doesn’t see the pleasure in this, they can use a vibrator or rub their clit/jerk off at the same time.  Slow sex is much more propitious to aless orgasms in my experience.

You can also learn to share your partner’s pleasure. When they cum, revel in the beauty of their climax, in the sights and sounds and smells and sensations and oh my, how sexy it all is!!! See if you can work your mind into a sexual frenzy alongside their trembling and moaning body, even if physically you aren’t working your prostate...

Anything is possible,I’ve been on the cusp a few times but couldnt stop the penis taking over. Had many PO during for play,l and peggings etc But straight up A-Less PO sex has eluded me so far. But I’ll get it someday.

I have prostate-centered Os when my wife gives me blowjobs, not all the time, but they happen for sure. Once I had 3, if I had a fourth I was going to blow up in her mouth and we still had some sex do. Not sure I've had an Aless while having intercourse with her. I've had prostate Os when I've had a toy in me while we had sex. Maybe I can have one, I'll try to think about it next time we get it on 😉

Posted by: @helical

During penis in vagina (PIV) intercourse, I’d love to have an Aless, and then in a bit, have a traditional wet orgasm.  Is this possible?

Yeah absolutely! But that doesn't mean that it's easy. 🙂

@divine_o gave some good advice already. Your best chance is slow sex indeed. See, you can't really shut off the ejacualtion reflex, which seems to be hotwired to your penis. The ejaculation reflex "likes" fast in-out action. MMO prefer relaxed, slow and steady. With slow, shallow PIV, you'll give yourself a lot of time to build up a-less sensations, since it won't trigger your penile ejacualtion response so much. Just resting inside her and refraining to clenching your pelvic muscles is a very nice excercise as well. She can feel you swelling up during a clench and may react with a clench herself.

You can also try to re-wire your penis, so that you are not working around it, but use the penis itself to trigger energy orgasms:

https://community.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/any-idea-how-to-have-a-multiple-traditional-orgasm

https://community.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/just-for-advanced-users-penis-as-a-generator-and-capacitor-for-sexual-energy