Hello everyone. I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying great sessions. So actually I'm not a newbie I have been doing prostate play for over a year now. I have spent close to $3,500 on various different kind of sex toys. I have the aneros helix syn v, vice 2 normal plastic helix and mgx and eupho and a progasm jr. Other than that I have almost any toy you can imagine like njoy njoy plug and basically any word that was recommended on prostate play subreddit on Reddit. I have tried rotating toys I have tried almost everything very sincerely but I absolutely just do not feel anything and the starting it was discomfort but now I don't feel discomfort if I do it regularly but if I take a break like a week or 2 discomfort on insertion returns. The discomfort is not like pain but just kind of irritation in the rectum.
I think I just want sad a hands-free wet orgasm with the toy called phanxy wave motion a few months ago and that is all. I have been trying to reach it again but no results.
I have read a lot of the discussion series and I know that I am not supposed to aim for anything or teach anything or try anything. I have been abstaining for orgasms for like weeks in a row trying to make the frustrated experience more pleasurable but now I kind of feel like I'm just wasting my life because you only have so much time on this planet and you are only going to get so much orgasms and if you are not even enjoying that to read something that is probably not possible I think it's just a waste of time and energy.
I really really want to do chief any kind of pleasure no matter how certain from aneros but that has not been happening. I have tried the crimson Wolf method I have tried to do nothing method but I think the problem is that you need to be somewhat rewired in order to achieve anything from those things I just do not know how I can rewire. I have not been able to quit porn but there have been times that where I haven't watched porn for a few weeks to months at a stretch but I haven't been able to quit it completely. Some of you might say that that might be a reason holding me back but I don't think I can really quit it.
I do not know how to really rewire that is effective. I just think my brain is broken because I have not been able to rewire. Please someone tell me it gets better because I just cannot keep going like this I feel like I'm just going nowhere. I haven't particularly used aneros a lot but I have at least used it at least once in 2 weeks. But I have made sure to use some other toy at least twice a week so basically I'm having prostate play twice a week for the past year and I think my condition is still the same as the day I started. I know that I am not supposed to chase anything I am supposed to enjoy the journey but imagine this if you have had like hundreds of sessions but receive absolutely zero pleasure and even sometimes mild discomfort would you still keep going?
I just think that I was since I was 13 I have been watching porn a lot and masturbating now I am 20 and I think years of that has destroyed my brain and desensitized to me to such an extent that I rely upon those things too achieve any kind of satisfaction.
I do not really know where to go from here on so if there's anyone who has had like a similar journey in the starting but has had gained success later would you please share any exercises that I might perform or any tips that might help me to get rewired because I think the problem here is the reviring. I have also ordered a chastity cage so that I do not touch myself whatsoever.
Thank you everyone in advance you guys are an awesome community and you are really nice people who help each other even if you don't get anything out of it and I really love such a positive and impactful community and I love being a part of it thanks for being here.
if you have had like hundreds of sessions but receive absolutely zero pleasure and even sometimes mild discomfort would you still keep going?
I wouldn't have even started. The first way I explored when I heard about prostate massage and became curious about it, was to explore up there with a finger. I did this for a few months, and the results were pretty good. Only then did I decide to invest in a product, and even then the bar had been set low. I figured just about any device would be useful considering how tired my fingers/wrist were getting. I haven't had instant success or consistently amazing results, but it has been enough of an enhancement to keep using for the many years that I have. I have had a few incredible sessions, which piqued my curiosity enough to keep this interesting in the long term.
If you're looking for suggestions, the first thing I'd say is stop trying to throw money at the problem, and buying new devices. If your prostate isn't coming out to play no matter what you do, then there might be something else you need to go back to basics on. Speaking from my own experience, I spent a few years using cannabis to enhance my sessions, which worked well at the time for orgasms (but worsened my life in several other ways that I decided wasn't worth it). After I quit smoking weed, my sessions flat-lined horribly for a long time, which was very eye-opening, considering how much I thought I knew. Perhaps a glimpse into what some other people were experiencing, that no matter what you do, or what mindset you adopt, that maybe there's something else lacking. That maybe all of the advice in the world isn't enough.
These days I'm not chasing it. I'm working on getting into better shape, and sorting out my priorities. I think it's worth asking one's self whether this kind of hyper-stimulation and obsessive pleasure-seeking isn't some kind of escapism. If your instinct is to abandon the search, then I'm not going to tell you otherwise. Trust your gut and take care of yourself. ✌ There's always next year.
I thought I would just add my thoughts. A bit late but I've only just re-registered with the forum.
Totally agree with everything @Clenchy has said. What comes across in your post is desperation and obsessive pleasure seeking which does come across as some sort of escapism.
I had incredible results when I first used my Progasm many years ago now, experienced pretty much everything you will find described here from Super-O's to valley orgasms, at times I felt like I was wrapped in cotton wool and in a state of total ecstacy, I could will any part of my body to orgasm for hours at a time. I was going through hell in my marriage, struggling at work, and it seemed like I had found the answer to being happy at last. Then it stopped. Just like that I couldn't do it any more, the withdrawal was hell, I felt 10 times worse than before, spent days and days desperately trying to get it back again but nothing. Eventually I gave up and put my progasm in a drawer and it stayed there for many years. What I experienced was pure escapism, it was like a dream come true for as long as it lasted, but it was like taking drugs, not real life and it ended badly.
I'm not saying don't keep trying but from my experience I know that it's not the answer to being happy and desperation will not give results.
I've just come back to it now. My mental attitude is that it was pleasant and it would be nice to experience even a hundredth of what I had before, but it's absolutely never going to rule my life again like it did for those incredible few weeks.
I wish I was some sort of expert - I have no idea how I achieved what I did back then, so I have no magic insights. I think I was just lucky and had very few preconceptions about what to expect, and that was probably part of it. I'm trying to adopt that mindset again now.
Mental health and attitude play a massive part in how this works but there is no magic formula. When I lost my ability I tried meditation, counselling, Reiki and crystal healing. Nothing worked.
I would suggest a long break.