Aless training

Could it be you’re overusing some muscles in your training? Hope you get to enjoy your alesses without downsides. 

Hi @Qwiksting, I know a dumb feeling I wouldn't call an ache any longer since knowing it's only telling me that my prostate is engorged. If we men get aroused we can have a kind of inner erection in our abdomen that's gonna be starting something like a penile erection or not. I can imagine, that some men might consider it to be an ache. Thinking about this and just tensing my pecs, I also can tell that I can feel them much more than usually. What I'd like to explain is that you might overrate a feeling here, you could be fully okay with. Since my rewiring I sometimes get erections that become so strong that I still get frightened from the pressure and ache in my penis. Perhaps, if you try to welcome that feeling of ache around your prostate more and see it as a sign for your inner excitement, you get more accustomed to it and don't consider it an ache anymore.

If you're instead fed up with excitement and want the feeling to subside, I'd suggest to try an inner talk to your gland and to tell it, you're not in the mood and don't want to be bothered by that feeling for now. Guess what, my own gland just relaxed only from writing those last lines.

Since my early mantra "I will do myself no harm." when I felt overpowered and frightened from my first multi-orgasmic experiences, I've learned to talk to my body and especially to my gland and can tell it really worked for me and helped me a lot on my personal journey.

If your mind still worries about those aching feelings in your abdomen, your subconsiousness will not let you find this feeling okay, but will stay in alarm mode. Including your sore feeling from your Aneros usage it may be the best idea to get some medical examination to soothe your mind and subconsciousness and thus fuel a peaceful mindset that lets you enjoy your Aless and perhaps even the usage of your Aneros tools again. Otherwise subtle fears about your health might keep frightening the alarm system of your subconsciousness and hinder you from enjoying your sexuality.

From Mantak Chia's "The Multi-orgasmic Man" I can refer about a simple exercise he finds supportive for our sex life and health. It deals with our muscles around our anus and shall even help with hemorrhoids which can be a reason for sore feelings in the anus too.

Strenghten Your Anus (Exercise 19)

1. You shall exhale fully through your nose, then pump, meaning compress and relax all muscles around your anus, escpecially your sphincters and your glutaeus maximus.

2. Then you shall inhale and relax.

3. He recommends to to repeat this once, twice or 9/18/36 times respectively until you will begin to feel warmth in your groin and anal region. This energy can - step by step - reach out up to your head and back down to your navel or you can purposely drag it into your tailbone und to your sacral bone and from there up your spine to your head, this again 9/18 or 36 times. If you perceive too much energy, touching your palate with your tongue will help you to let the energy flow down to your navel.

Only my ideas and reflection from my unique journey and personal view as food for thought.

Best wishes and good vibes!

Mart

@sowithoutaneros, having been a student of Manka Chia's great book earlier on in my rewiring process,  you've touched on several points I had forgotten and as a result neglected to exercise.

Thanks for the reminders and your wisdom.

@Ggringo, like you I neglected to exercise and also had forgotten some of Mantak's great advices. Rereading his book in German - my mother language - helped me with better understanding and internalizing his wisdom! 😉

Best wishes! Mart

@sowithoutaneros

Thank you for mentioning Mantak Chia. I'm soaking up his guidance right away! Very interesting whole-health regime he preaches.

Thank you for your input, I have been trying to “Tame my Prostate” the last month or so. It is a battle!  I have lost sleep over this, and almost wishing it away. It will wake me up in the middle of the night with involuntaries and a feeling of a drum pounding. Rolling back and forth. I had this Friday night, 230 am, did not get to sleep until the next night around 9 pm (after taking Flomax, neurotic and smoking some weed) just to make myself pass out and let my prostate do what it wanted. I just wanted sleep, badly. It eventually subsided some on Sunday, but yet again, it started last night and I had to just get out of bed walk around.  I have tried warm baths, cold baths, ice pack on my taint area, even weed oil CBD on my taint to try and calm it. The only thing that somewhat works for me is the warm bath then cold bath. I have tried talking to my inner self about not wanting it, not being aroused and trying to literally run away from it.  I have question myself to just give into it and see if the ache/pain/involuntaries would just disappear. I dont know where it would take me. I have had a dry O  about a week ago, and thought i was gaining the upper hand on my prostate, but it re grouped and came back stronger with a different feel to it.  It is a struggle not to give in as it feels sooo good, but my mind tells me there is pain and ache behind the feeling.  My prostate is a Bitch!

Would it be wise to “manually” masturbate to release some tension or would that invite more problems?

I found the womanizer premium on autopilot applied to the nipples almost automatically sets things in motion after a couple to 20 minutes. 

Posted by: @qwiksting

I have been trying to “Tame my Prostate” the last month or so. It is a battle!
...I have tried talking to my inner self about not wanting it, not being aroused and trying to literally run away from it. I have question myself to just give into it and see if the ache/pain/involuntaries would just disappear. I dont know where it would take me.

Perhaps taming a prostate is somewhat like taming a tiger. Bill Watterson said "You can take the tiger out of the jungle, but you can't take the jungle out of the tiger." It is a wild beast over which you really have little, to no control and trying to force it into submission may have negative repercussions (see the tragic tale of Roy Horn). It is illusory to think you have total control over your body's organs and their functions, at best you may temporarily influence their performance but it is only temporary. Trying to dictate to your awakened prostate is like trying to dictate to that tiger, it doesn't work, you have to learn to respect what your body wants and is willing to provide. Coercive thinking just doesn't work.

Our subconscious desires/drives are far more powerful than we acknowledge. Learning to manage them and keep our sanity is just part of the human condition but trying to repress them almost always leads to unsettling consequences. I detect a certain level of fear associated with your inability to allow yourself to "Just Let Go !" and enjoy what your Aneros device can induce. None of us really knows where our Anerosessions may take us but that mystery is part of the adventure and all we need is the courage to explore this sensual jungle in which we are immersed.

Posted by: @qwiksting

I ... thought i was gaining the upper hand on my prostate, but it re grouped and came back stronger with a different feel to it.  It is a struggle not to give in as it feels sooo good, but my mind tells me there is pain and ache behind the feeling.  My prostate is a Bitch!

Wow, there's some real cognitive dissonance being illustrated here. Why are you even trying to suppress what your body is trying to express to you? Why do you think there is "...pain and ache..." instead of good feelings underlying the experience?

Posted by: @qwiksting

Would it be wise to “manually” masturbate to release some tension or would that invite more problems?

At this point, it seems to me that a manual release would seem appropriate, at the very least a prostate milking is in order. I don't think that will invite more problems, instead it may provide some temporary relief to allow you quiet time to resolve some of the internal conflicts you are apparently experiencing.

Good Vibes to You!

Maybe Tame is not the right word. I havent found the “off” switch to my prostate. I think that is what is frustrating. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the feeling it provides, just can’t seem to turn it down a couple of notches. It always really gets going when I lay down. Sometimes it is wanted, and other times not at all. If there is a way, a trick, to turn it down or even off when it is unwanted, that would be great! Unfortunately, once the bell has been rung, it can not be un rung. That is where I am at. Not trying to nursing it, just turn it down so I can sleep. Thank you for your input and test there is a conflict going on inside.