Hi everyone,
Im new to anal and prostate play. I've only recently ordered my first aneros toy, the helix syn V. Before, i've experimented a few times with other prostate massagers. As a cis married male in a loving but vanilla marriage i was blown away already by the first experiences. Subsequent reading about the possibilites that prostate play can bring im very eager to explore this.
Having read quite a lot on the aneros wiki and posts here on the forum, I eagerly started my journey just 3 weeks ago. Although its still very early and i know that patience is important I already have quite a few questions. I hope someone here can help me out.
Firstly, I excercise with my aneros every other day for about 45min. I make sure my breathing is right and i perform my pelvic floor muscle contractions. Eventhough ive only been using my helix syn V for a few times now i already think i can feel something. Its hard to describe and it feels very elusive. its a faint feeling of pleasure building inside, somewhere distant somewhere where i cant seem to reach. Its a bit like the feeling when you get the first tingles when you know a "normal" orgasms will be coming, but its more distant and less obvious. Its nice feeling but also a bit dissatisfying because it leaves me hanging there, it doesnt lead to anything yet. Also it comes and goes. Sometimes leaving me the rest of the session without any pleasent sensations. At those moments I try not to be frustrated, but I am a bit because the feeling is so nice and relaxing. Is this normal, am i going in the right direction? Any tips on how to proceed from here?
Also, i discovered that during this play i feel the need to move my arms, legs, hips and head. I become kind of restless. Is this also normal? I try to be still because the moving distracts me from the nice buzz im feeling. What are your experiences? Also, i feel the need to be vocal. Hearing the sound of my own moans seems to increase the nice feeling.
When i get into that nice, tingly feeling, i kind of zone out. My mouth is wide open, sometimes Im almost drooling and my eyes just seem to stare into nothing. I loose all sense of time. Maybe it feels a bit like a sensual high after smoking weed... Thats the only metaphor i can think of. Is this good, or should i be more "mindfull" not trying to get into that detached state?
And lastly, i thought that the arousel would make my penis grow hard and throb, like it does when im watching porn. The opposite is true. When im enjoying the nice warm feeling during prostate stimulation my penis shrinks to almost nothing, leaving me with just this tingly feeliing at the tip. Do others also experience this?
I hope someone here can help me out. Im almost 50 years now and I whish i had descovered the aneros decades earlier. It feels so liberating and - without trying to be dramatic - transcendent. I struggled with a porn addiction since i was 15 years old and had periods of ED because of it. Already i dont feel the need to go online and watch endless streams of pornography anymore.
Thank you,
Robert
