Rewiring Help Please

Posted by: @newbie2023

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if you have had like hundreds of sessions but receive absolutely zero pleasure and even sometimes mild discomfort would you still keep going?

I wouldn't have even started. The first way I explored when I heard about prostate massage and became curious about it, was to explore up there with a finger. I did this for a few months, and the results were pretty good. Only then did I decide to invest in a product, and even then the bar had been set low. I figured just about any device would be useful considering how tired my fingers/wrist were getting. I haven't had instant success or consistently amazing results, but it has been enough of an enhancement to keep using for the many years that I have. I have had a few incredible sessions, which piqued my curiosity enough to keep this interesting in the long term.

If you're looking for suggestions, the first thing I'd say is stop trying to throw money at the problem, and buying new devices. If your prostate isn't coming out to play no matter what you do, then there might be something else you need to go back to basics on. Speaking from my own experience, I spent a few years using cannabis to enhance my sessions, which worked well at the time for orgasms (but worsened my life in several other ways that I decided wasn't worth it). After I quit smoking weed, my sessions flat-lined horribly for a long time, which was very eye-opening, considering how much I thought I knew. Perhaps a glimpse into what some other people were experiencing, that no matter what you do, or what mindset you adopt, that maybe there's something else lacking. That maybe all of the advice in the world isn't enough.

These days I'm not chasing it. I'm working on getting into better shape, and sorting out my priorities. I think it's worth asking one's self whether this kind of hyper-stimulation and obsessive pleasure-seeking isn't some kind of escapism. If your instinct is to abandon the search, then I'm not going to tell you otherwise. Trust your gut and take care of yourself. ✌ There's always next year.

I thought I would just add my thoughts. A bit late but I've only just re-registered with the forum.

Totally agree with everything @Clenchy has said. What comes across in your post is desperation and obsessive pleasure seeking which does come across as some sort of escapism.

I had incredible results when I first used my Progasm many years ago now, experienced pretty much everything you will find described here from Super-O's to valley orgasms, at times I felt like I was wrapped in cotton wool and in a state of total ecstacy, I could will any part of my body to orgasm for hours at a time. I was going through hell in my marriage, struggling at work, and it seemed like I had found the answer to being happy at last. Then it stopped. Just like that I couldn't do it any more, the withdrawal was hell, I felt 10 times worse than before, spent days and days desperately trying to get it back again but nothing. Eventually I gave up and put my progasm in a drawer and it stayed there for many years. What I experienced was pure escapism, it was like a dream come true for as long as it lasted, but it was like taking drugs, not real life and it ended badly.

I'm not saying don't keep trying but from my experience I know that it's not the answer to being happy and desperation will not give results.

I've just come back to it now. My mental attitude is that it was pleasant and it would be nice to experience even a hundredth of what I had before, but it's absolutely never going to rule my life again like it did for those incredible few weeks.

I wish I was some sort of expert - I have no idea how I achieved what I did back then, so I have no magic insights. I think I was just lucky and had very few preconceptions about what to expect, and that was probably part of it. I'm trying to adopt that mindset again now.

Mental health and attitude play a massive part in how this works but there is no magic formula. When I lost my ability I tried meditation, counselling, Reiki and crystal healing. Nothing worked.

I would suggest a long break.

I'm pretty late with an answer, but I would suggest a long break, too. You're only 20 and you have a looooong time to do other stuff before coming back to prostate play. Even if you achieve some Super-Os, this will not have a lot of carryover to "real life", like even if you can orgasm for an hour no one will know, you won't become a chick magnet or Superman in bed just from doing this. Well, at least it did not work out that way for *me*, hehe. 

I would advise stopping with the semen retention stuff, ejaculate at least 2-3 times a week. If you were in a relationship and your partner wanted sex everyday, would you be into semen retention ? I hope not ! Just don't make it 2 hours a day of pulling the pod and you'll be fine. 

Porn is not the Devil, but it's not the best habit to have. My advice is to make sure to use as little as possible. Pick a clip and get it over with. Like if I'm with a naked woman, I'm going to have sex with her for however long it lasts, not 2-3 minutes with 20 different women looking for the perfect *soemthing*.  I think it's better for the brain that way. Just a theory, of course.  

I pivoted to watching only amateur stuff, with more average "woman next door" rather than enhanced supermodels top 1% girls, now I look for women who are really enjoying themselves and are sharing their videos because they enjoy being watched. I might be kidding myself but I look for honesty in my pornography and it feels much better. So even if the woman is not my dream partner, she's masturbating and having fun, I'm masturbating and having fun, and that's it. I'm asking myself : would I be friends with benefits with that person, or video chat with her? If yes, that's good enough as far as porn goes.