Bragging post here, but I’ll try to add in advice?
The last few times I have had penetrative sex with my wife I have been having dry orgasms at will. Before I could do this occasionally during sex, maybe one in several times I’d hit the wave and surf. But now it is practically flawless (in this case a flaw is me saying “argh, stop!” and pulling out to avoid accidental ejaculation). Just orgasm after orgasm, usually together with her, until she is ready for me to ejaculate or stop if I am on a semen retention day.
My advice to get there is to learn how to have prostate orgasms, learn how to have non ejaculatory orgasms during masturbation (to feel penile stimulation with climax but no ejaculation), semen retention, and regular practice (i.e. fuck). Also we have taught each other to cum on command with vocal cues (as simple as saying “cum, baby” or “I love you so much”).
Last night I had my helix syn in from beginning to end. We started with me on my side in a fetal position, balls between my legs so accessible from behind. She sucked my balls while caressing my ass, making me orgasm over and over, chewing on a pillow, my cock pathetically poking out shiny and crimson between my thighs, until my balls were sore after about ten minutes. Then I ate her pussy with her on her back, pinching her butt (she gets the equivalent pleasure with butt pinching as I do from having my balls sucked, and can have orgasms from that alone) until she had had a few orgasms. After that we fucked for about 20 minutes, sort of doggy style but on our sides. We both came multiple times and had to take a break.
After a glass of water and a giggle, she went after my balls again for another ten minutes or so (that’s my limit in one go with my balls, unless I’m high or especially in the zone), this time with her fingers as she sucked and caressed my neck, chest and armpits. This second time around it was especially intense. Then we went at it missionary, which I like because i can look her in the eyes, see her beautiful curves from the front, and she can caress my chest and just barely reach around her massive butt to my balls with her perfect petit hands, making me growl and scream. Cum, rinse and repeat.
After a while and a couple position changes it seemed she was getting to the point of exhaustion (which I was already at but hey, her happy means I’m happy!). I asked her if she wanted me to éjaculate on her, as we don’t use birth control. She said yes, but first fuck me some more. Yes ma’am. She brought her legs together lying on her back and I lay on top her, both of us straight as logs like two Lego people. This is her favorite position I think. It creates pretty wild sensations what with my penis being slightly bent by awkward angle and her pussy being generally jam-smashed with my cock (that’s the technical jargon, I believe), and the stiffness of our bodies bends eroticism towards the absurd. Not much to tell here, I think she saw god and I could hardly see from my eyes dancing rumbas in their sockets. We kept saying let’s cum together but for some reason we were misaligned and came one after another in leap-frog fashion. Finally I pull out and jerked off on her soft belly as she eagerly tugged on my balls with her fingertips. Four days semen retention followed by and hour and a half of shenanigans, that leaves a mighty mess to clean up!
Anywho I think I will give up all sex after this, because it seems like it’s a waste of energy and it’s pretty repetitive. However, just to be sure I’ll try one last time…
Anywho I think I will give up all sex after this, because it seems like it’s a waste of energy and it’s pretty repetitive.
After reading about your adventures (which can only be referred to as fantasies to dudes like me who are stuck in a sexless marriage) I'm left wondering if I would or could ever take it for granted LOL!
Thinking of giving up all sex...; hell, given this opportunity, I would love to 'waste my energy'.
Wow!! Thank you for sharing!!
If bet you feel like king of the world!
@the_bishop u betcha!
@ggringo nah I was being sarcastic. It’s the most interesting aspect of my life at the moment. Won’t be stopping any time soon.
Should you change your mind back, could I get her phone number. lol
Won’t be stopping any time soon.
I really didn't think you would lol. You're a lucky dude!
Good vibes to you
The last few times I have had penetrative sex with my wife I have been having dry orgasms at will.
It’s really something isn’t it. I trained and trained for it and found the right balance to focus on. It’s probably the hardest part of my whole journey. Good work,now that you’ve got it up,keep it up 😉
That sounds amazing! Thanks for sharing
I’m new in the Forum, but have been using Aneros for a good year now and since I opened up to my girl about it, we’ve had similar sessions to what you are describing quite beautifully. Really makes me want to go for it now hahaha. Nonetheless I have two questions:
1. About the birth control - are you confident enough that this is safe? I have been thinking about this too, as any form of birth control isn’t great for hormones etc., but still kinda doubtful..
2. What’s your take on Semen Retention? How do you find your perfect rhythm? Sometimes I don’t even feel the need to ejaculate after fucking with my girl for 2 hours and I wonder if I should ever let the energy out, as it usual leads to a little dip in my energy levels..
Happy to be part of this community and that we can relate with eachother in this forum!
@namuh hmmm birth Control the best birth control for a guy is vasectomy bottom line. I did it back when I was 21 after my kids where born. I’m 55 now had many girlfriends and two wives. None of them said I’m pregnant??? Their is no better piece of mind then having sex and finishing the way you want with Zero worries. Best thing I did in life! Cheers.
good to hear you are having success with your gal!
for birth control @newtoy is right, nothing beats a vasectomy. I don’t want to get one because I don’t like the idea of cutting things up down there (it can go wrong, rarely, but it’s possible). I don’t really have precum, didn’t know what it was other than a word until I joined this forum, so that cuts down on the risk I think. And I am very very good at controlling. I can have sex for hours without ejaculating, surfing on the edge and nowadays having dry orgasms. When I do slip up, and I feel a drop coming out, I promptly pull out and have a pee and wash up before starting over.
I do approximately 4-6 days retention and 2-3 days ejaculation. I ejaculate one in two times during sex approximately, if we are having sex twice a week, with the second time usually kicking off my ejaculation days.
great to have you as part of the community!
@divine_o lol a vasectomy was nothing. I just had a Penile Plication surgery in October. My penis was bent to 67’ straight up couldn’t have sex and even hard to urinate. They cut my penis all the way down from under the head to my balls. Then cut four slices out on each side. Gave me 16 dot lace stitch. It’s straighter then it’s ever been now and I’m back to a normal sex life. This was caused by a Seadoo accident I had Year an half ago. I lost over a inch in length but hey I can use the dam thing now.
I 2nd the motion of @Newtoy on Birth Control - vasectomy is a breeze, and less stress on the women's system and chemical balance. I did it at 37 after our 3rd child, and my wife and I have enjoyed the freedom, let alone the joys of my lubricant spewing everywhere.
Last year (my age now is 73) I needed to deal with my enlarged prostate after a few years of trying drugs (no way!), physical therapy for pelvic floor (no impact to urination frequency), and advice to install an electronic stimulation implant (also, no way!). The risk of surgery was dry ejaculation. My wife and I discussed, and I did the HoLEP surgery and pee like a race horse. The dry ejaculation is fun, as she says the mess is minimal to nothing. I do drip precum in foreplay, nice for lubrication and she says my orgasms are much more intense than before surgery.
I also massage my prostate with a Helix Syn V, and have wonderful feelings in there and continue with the pelvic floor exercises and deep belly breathing to get things started, learned from a physical therapist. My wife loves the benefits too!
Congratulations on your success with your surgery! That's a milestone comeback! (...or cum back, really!)
@golfing1 thanks. It was a rough road for over a year. I’m 55 now an I had my vasectomy at 20 right after my daughter was born. It’s been the best thing I did in life . No worries! I’m still doing my pelvic floor exercises also. I loved my physical therapist she really knew how to get all my nerves working again. She thought me how to get an an erection and with out it being able to do that I wouldn’t been able to have the surgery. Good luck on your progress and keep up the PT exercises .
How did she teach you to get an erection (if you don't mind me asking)? My erections are still there when needed, and in the morning waking up, but not as spontaneous as when I was younger. Massaging my wife's ass during foreplay always produces the desired results.
I seem to focus on arousal as I have read about that on this forum. This forum is very valuable, by the way.. Many great people here.
I would be interested to hear how the practitioners teach this. Thank you!
@golfing hi well my penis and pelvic floor was smashed it felt like I was sitting on a two inch fence pole. I couldn’t feel my penis at all. She worked internally a lot. She released pressure points all around my tail bone. Those muscles supply blood to the penis for an erection. Then she would massage the nerves just above the penis on the pelvic bone. These nerves go right to the tip of the penis.
when she did that she had me lay my head back right between her breast and she would reach down and very very lightly move the skin above the penis and around down to the perineum muscle. She did that for 16 weeks along with my pelvic floor exercises.
during the week the urologist and the therapist wanted me to masturbate every day. That help break up the scare tissue in the penis.
the first ten minutes with my therapist we sat down and talk about how my erection are coming I’m I masturbating? I’m getting hard? How long do masturbate? When I cum is it creamy or discoloration does it hurt? Just talking about it would make me feel like it’s getting an erection. My wife said she’s glad I have her doing it. My wife is a nurse she didn’t want to do that. My wife said I have a Monday night girl friend. Lol
Again, amazing "cumback" from what you have been through in your life. Happy that you are enjoying the joys of sex and health now. Cheers, Golfing
@golfing1 thanks. After everything that’s happen I told my wife I really enjoyed the therapist working internally. I would like to find something that feels good. She asked like what. I told her about aneros. She said get one . I like my vice 2. She does too. That’s how I got here. Using the aneros relaxes my pelvic floor muscles.