**Update on using Aneros & Chastity**

Yes, finally somebody asked. 🙂

I have been waiting to have my husband have to answer this question. He dislikes talking about it.

I will have him answer this as to why this has happened in our relationship.

But to answer this question from my view, Yes, he consumes everything he deposits into that condom.

Why?

Because before we started our WLM he was playing the dominant male role, and of course for years he would make comments on how it was my wifely duty to give him blowjobs and swallow his cum. He told me a good little wife does that.

Well, have you ever tasted cum, its not the best stuff out there, but I did it because that was what we were doing.

Now, that the tables have turned, and he is in the wife role, I demand the same from him.

What was good for the goose is now good for the gander.

I love that he has to do it now. If I actually had a real cock, I would be making him give me blowjobs all the time. 🙂

Rebecca

How far into the realm of S/m do you go?

I'm curious. How does the aneros force him to have orgasms? I can't have one when I try!

I am posting a couple of articles (not written by me) about living in a relationship with male chastity.

These articles really hit home for me and are what really brought it together for us.

Life is too short for vanilla sex

Unbeknownst to most of you, I am more than a Dominant,
kinky woman who's obsessed with male chastity. I have a full-time,
highly demanding job that sometimes requires me to travel for weeks at a
time. When I finally return home after a long trip, the one thing I
look forward to the most is reconnecting with my hubby, both on a
physical and emotional level. We'll usually enjoy some 'vanilla' type
activities like having a romantic dinner together, catching a movie or
maybe going for a couples massage. That's about the extent of 'vanilla'
in my relationship.

The act of sexual intercourse is highly satisfying to him as it
culminates with 'orgasmic euphoria'. It also serves to fulfill a primal
need inherent to all men which is to spread their seed and reproduce.
As a woman with a penchant and need for size, I find intercourse with my
inadequately endowed hubby less than satisfying which creates an
imbalance in our sexual dynamic when it comes to vanilla sex. Hence the
reason I have virtually eliminated traditional sex from our
relationship. It has nothing to do with my physical attraction or love
for him. My decision is based purely from a physical and mental
standpoint. In a way, it levels out the playing field in our
relationship and affords us both the opportunity to find equal pleasure
and satisfaction in our sex life.

I gain far more excitement, satisfaction and pleasure in maintaining a
constant desire and craving for sex and orgasms than actually
delivering the acts themselves. Chastity is an essential component of
our relationship. Hubby is kept in chastity at all times, even when we
play or if I'm out on a date with my Stud. His sexual energy and desire
for 'all things me' is always peaking which affects the way he behaves
around me. Seeing my naked body, with all it's imperfections, is a major
turn-on for him. He is more than willing to service me in any way I
desire whether it be orally, with toys, or penetrating me with my
favorite strap-on.

When I do agree to vanilla sex (which isn't very often), it's usually
over quickly as his little dicklet is unable to control itself for more
than a minute or two. This is quickly followed by a significant drop in
his interest for any further type of interaction, whether it be
physical or emotional. On the contrary, kinky sex can last for hours
without any loss of desire. It also has the ability to stimulate me in
ways that traditional vanilla sex with my hubby can't. There's never a
focus on his little dicklet when we interact sexually because it's
locked in chastity. If his cage were to be removed, his immediate focus
would change to one that is more self-serving in nature - something I
don't want.

Because he hasn't been permitted an orgasm for several months, his
senses are heightened and new erogenous zones have developed. A
willingness to try new things that he would normally wouldn't be ok with
also develops. The mix of pent up sexual excitement and frustration
becomes euphoric. Through visual, physical or mental stimulation, he's
able to receive immense pleasure without ever having to worry about
reaching orgasm and experiencing 'drop-off'. Once a man has experienced
this level of arousal, he will BEG you to take his cock and orgasms for
life.

This is where the fun begins for me. I love the teasing, the control
and the look and sound of desperation that exudes from him. My attention
soon becomes focused on his labia (scrotum/balls) and 'pussy'. A mix of
pain and pleasure soon follows that takes him on a sexual rollercoaster
and gives me a rush like nothing else can. When I'm
completely satisfied, I'll usually get him off by burying my she-cock in
his pussy until he 'cums'.

When a man has not ejaculated for an extended period of time and is
penetrated anally, there will usually be a slow release of pre-cum that
can create quite a mess. While not a true orgasm in the sense that there
isn't a forceful ejaculation of semen followed by a refractory period,
it still can be pleasurable to a chastised male. Many refer to these
type of orgasms as 'sissy-gasms'. These type of orgasms suite hubby and
our relationship well for obvious reasons.

It's wonderful to have found a life partner who is willing to share
in my interests and allow me the freedom to explore my sexuality outside
of my relationship without any repercussions. Prior to meeting my
hubby, I had always felt that there was a sexual void in my life. Well
endowed lovers were easy to come by, but none were willing to entertain
my kinky interests. Most were only interested in vanilla sex. Don't get
me wrong, vanilla sex can be amazing with the right cock and lover. But
that type of sex only fulfills one part of my sexual needs. Fetishism
and kink occupy the other half.

You're probably wondering what's in it for my hubby? Great question.
One that we've had conversations at length over. I'm a woman who can
provide him with an outlet where he's able to put his apha/Type A
personality on snooze and find some balance in his life. Sure if he had
it his way, his little dicklet would be free and he would incessantly
masturbate throughout the day. Some would say that he made a deal with
the devil, in that he's traded his orgasms for a sexual dynamic that
provides him with comfort and balance in his life. IMO this is a small
sacrifice that has paid big dividends for him.

I don't require vanilla sex with my hubby to connect with him on a
physical or emotional level. Kinky sex offers a much deeper connection
for each of us.

When it comes to vanilla sex I say NO THANK YOU! 🙂

Here is the other.

[h=2]Chastity Should Be A Condition of All Marriages[/h]

I am a firm believer in the benefits of male chastity and have
been practicing a chastity lifestyle with my hubby since we began
dating. In fact, it was a condition of our relationship and marriage. I
have ZERO interest in being involved with any man not open to chastity.
Most are uneasy about it when it's introduced as more than just a kink,
but ultimately find a way to embrace it when they realize the happiness
it brings their partner and how it improves their overall relationship
and sex life. Yes, I said sex life - male and female.

Keep in mind that a 'good' sex life for most men isn't tied to a
specific number of orgasms, but more so the frequency and variety of sex
they are having with their spouse. My hubby and I have sexual
interactions most nights of the week. Some of these interactions can be
as simple as a 5 min make out session or foot run, while others can be a
multi-hour session filled with our favorite kinks and fetishes.

And guess what? 98% of these sexual interactions take place without a
need for his penis. I choose to keep his penis locked during these
interactions as it has the added benefit of keeping his focus on
everything else available to him at that time. I want him to thoroughly
enjoy my body without dwelling on the idea that at some point he's gotta
stick his little dicklet inside me and have an orgasm. I also want him
to focus on his other erogenous zones like his lips, neck, nipples,
balls and 'man-pussy'.

Chastity can supercharge a couple's sex life and maintain a
consistent, high level of arousal in men - even in those with low sex
drives or ED.

Other benefits include..

• Prevents chronic masturbation which is an addictive and selfish

behavior. It teaches men that their orgasm is primary and hers is
secondary.

• It keeps his sexual focus on his spouse.

• Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it encourages him to honor her, respect her and please her.

• It gives him time and the opportunity to improve his oral skills.

• It teaches him that sex with his spouse doesn't necessarily have anything to do with his penis.

• It will soften his sharp edges and make him more generous, kind, caring and respectful.

• It helps to prepare him for anal penetration. Because his penis

isn't being stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning his anus
and prostate into erogenous zones. With patience and persistence, he can
be trained to orgasm from a strap-on, albeit a small sissygasm which
doesn't kill his peaking state of sexual arousal.

• Within a week, he will do just about anything to cum. It's at this

point that you can push limits and explore new kinks and fetishes.

I used to limit my hubby's orgasms to 3-4 each year. Good behavior on
his part has increased his frequency of orgasms to about 8-10 per year.
If chastity were a condition of all marriages, I truly feel that the
rate of divorce and infidelity would be much lower than it is today.

It's an interesting perspective. One I would not share because it's obvious you prefer the dominant role in a relationship which if you have a partner who fits this lifestyle that you are blessed indeed. As you said in the beginning you would not have interest in a man who would not submit to chastity.
I would welcome you to allow your mind see the roles reversed then if a man shares your proclivities because they seem biased. I do believe in taking an empathetic approach to another person's shoes.
From my personal position I desire my lover's submission and in that I become generous and caring and loving and attentive. As a lover I am responsible for her pleasure and I am always seeking strong emotional psychological and spiritual connection with our lovemaking.
I view my orgasms as my own to enjoy and control as I see fit and have mastery over them.
So I see your point on chronic masturbation as addictive and selfish as an opinion only. I would not begrudge her some personal fun as long as she doesn't replace me for it. Nor would it be an issue if I needed to ease my tension in the middle of the day.
This belies the issue of what I see as mutual respect. When I hear words like sissy and dicklet used it to strikes me as a lack of respect to the other person. Again maybe it's just because I am a natural dom. But even so I have a natural outpouring of affection in my dominance whether we are vanilla or a little aggressive 😉
Ah well its just as I see it, but caging me and controlling me would actually produce the opposite effect you described in regards to fidelity.

How much of it is control and how much of it is revenge?

I am curious from a psychological/social perspective if any studies were done on longevity of female led relationships. From a personal opinion and based on the position of relationship therapist Gary Chapman that men need respect by nature. A generalized statement but if they aren't getting that at home sooner or later someone else may come along and like a breath of fresh air may offer it and steal that man's heart. Or on the other hand a woman losing respect for her man will seek out one with whom she does. Just wondered if any studies were done on this issue.

@yankeecowboy I don't know of anyone in my local BDSM community that has had a full on D/s relationship that has lasted longer than 8 years.

@yankeecowboy, there are different levels of playing the chastity game. What sherri is posting is the extreme version including a female led relationhip. I've played chastity with my wife and im more dominant in nature also. It was fun. It was kinda like extended foreplay in a sense. Sherri also seems to be talking about humiliaiton(dicklet) which is another component of the FLR. Some guys do enjoy that I guess but again were are talking on the extreme end of the spectrum. Some people really do live like this but I think most of it is fantasy for the most part. I think there are very few guys out there who would like to be in 24/7 chastity, no orgasms, while being humiliated, pegged, cuckolded.

Of course I understand that end and I seek to empathize with that position that the writer has taken and perhaps the thought process of the ideology. I also see the broadstroke brush applied in the case of personal opinion and why the belief is held. Simply matched that opinion from the prospect of the opposing side that I'm one of the same class but of the other gender where as I see the same treatment applied would not garner the same results experienced. It wouldn't be in my nature, my identity and without that sub missive quality the end of that expiriment would be disastrous for any relationship. As I said if they found a person that complements that identity then they are blessed.

I didnt realize when I posted those articles it would receive such responses.

I did not write these articles, I found them on the internet and they are what got us into this. I don't agree with everything in them, but I do agree with the overall basis of it.

I don't humiliate or degrade my husband. He is not a sissy or does he have sissygasms. But he does take it in the ass from me, and doesn't get many orgasms, and i locked in chastity 24/7. It doesn't make him a sissy, it makes him my husband, we both love it.

Its no different than a relationship where the man is the dominant one.

I want to move him to the next level and have him experience anal orgasms.

We have been together for 11 years and 10 of them have been a Female Dominant one.

Sherri

I would have to agree that men do need respect by nature, but women do as well.

I respect my husband & he respects me. I just happen to control his sex life, which is what we both want.

Humiliation and degradation are only a small form of FLR derived from horny men men posting images on the internet. I know many people involved in dominant relationships and not a single one of them humiliates or degrades the other. Whether its a Dom or Domme. They have just chosen to have a relationship based on Dominance & submissiveness.

I cant force my husband to be in Chastity, he can easily just remove it, but he doesnt because he wants it as much as I do. I dont force him to do anything, he does it because he wants to. He may be embarrassed because he secretly likes it ( example, eating his cum), and doesnt want people to know, but I am not forcing him, I am not holding a gun to his head. I want him to do it, and he does because he likes it.

Now I also agree with the whole basis of what Sherri posted, my husband is not a Sissy either, I may make him (Wifely Duties) eat cum, take my strapon, give me oral, lick my ass, tie him down and force him to have anal orgasms, and more.

Does that make him a Sissy? I think not. He isnt doing things with other men, he is doing them with me.

I think it makes him even more of a man because he does do them. Most men are to insecure with themselves to allow themselves to enjoy things because of the fear they will be considered gay.

Cuckolding is different, it can truly test a couples strength. It can easily be taken apart because of someone else fucking his wife, the fear that she will leave him. In some cases its true, in others thats the thrill. For us, it was a phase we did, we stopped after discussing it and decided we didnt want the risk anymore.

Every relationship is different, I think everyone should whatever feels best for them.

Rebecca

My husband will be commenting on how he feels about eating cum tomorrow morning. 🙂

Rebecca

@sherri @rebecca, well I think its great what your doing. Sounds like everyone inolved is happy 😉 I'm sure its alot of work keeping your husbands happy, but great rewards too!

Again I just hope I was understood, the success of the type of relationship in my opinion tends to run on complementary identities. One simple broad stroke statement was made on if all marriages involved chastity. Empathizing with the position of the writer, but strongly disagreeing as my identity/personality type just doesn't work with the role of the submissive. Such a position if an attempt were made on me, ultimatums given or such, it would be destructive to the relationship. For My nature the position is intolerable. And if indeed you have a partner that complements your nature then you guys are blessed. Many blessings if it works for you. In general with many men it would not maybe because of their concept of masculinity. Not so for me. Obviously as I use aneros. But I also identify as a Dom by my nature and straight as well. I have few limits between consenting adults but for real damage to my love or bringing in another person. I wouldnt ever risk that as she already said doing that would damage her perception of how I see her. As I make her feel treasured beyond belief even if she were tied or punished. I make her feel special and bringing in someone she feels would break that. It's just a perspective though.

@sherri @rebecca, well I think its great what your doing. Sounds like everyone inolved is happy 😉 I'm sure its alot of work keeping your husbands happy, but great rewards too!

Thank You.

Its not a lot of work if your having fun doing it. 🙂

Rebecca

Again I just hope I was understood, the success of the type of relationship in my opinion tends to run on complementary identities. One simple broad stroke statement was made on if all marriages involved chastity. Empathizing with the position of the writer, but strongly disagreeing as my identity/personality type just doesn't work with the role of the submissive. Such a position if an attempt were made on me, ultimatums given or such, it would be destructive to the relationship. For My nature the position is intolerable. And if indeed you have a partner that complements your nature then you guys are blessed.

You are very correct with your statement, not all marriages should include chastity. It is something that will only work for some couples. Although it does seem to be gaining more popularity recently. There is much more of it around.

Some couples are destined to live out a"vanilla" life, to me, its boring, but for others, it works. So, yes, that article is biased towards the writers opinion.

Cuckolding can be very destructive if its not something that both people can handle or has agreed upon. This is why it is probably still considered a "taboo" lifestyle.For some, its a way of life. From what I have its mostly in older couples 40+, that have strong established relationships already.

Rebecca

I am Rebecca's husband Steve, and for the past 4 years I have been eating my cum when Rebecca allows me an orgasm. It is my way of saying Thank You for allowing me to have an orgasm.

Yes, I do like eating my cum.

Before I asked Rebecca to look at taking control of my sex life and be in charge of our relationship, I was a very selfish lover. I expected her to give me blowjobs and swallow my cum whenever I wanted it. I had told her it was an unspoken rule of marriage, it was the wife's duty to suck cock and swallow cum.When we had sex I was interested in what I wanted then making sure I was satisfying my wife. This went on for almost 3 years.

Now things have changed.

After Rebecca agreed to take control, the first thing she did was introduce chastity.

After that, she took to it like she had always been doing it.

Towards the end of the first year is when she started requiring that I consume everything when she allowed me an orgasm.

The first time I had no choice, I was tied down and she was on top. She was riding me and asked if I wanted to cum, of course I said yes. She said she would let me, but I had to clean her up afterwards. I agreed figuring I would somehow be able to wiggle out of it and not do it. But, after I came, she didnt untie me, she just moved up and sat on my face, I was panicking when I saw what was happening. I was helpless to stop her. She sat down and then pinched my nose shut. I had no choice but to swallow.

It wasn't as bad as I had imagined. in fact, I started getting turned on again and so did she. So much, I was hard again. She noticed after she came. Thats when she said that I must like eating cum because my cock got hard. I tried to deny it, but she wouldn't have any of that.

The next day she informed me that from now on I would have to eat all my cum if she allowed me an orgasm. If she was going to be in charge and be in the husband role, than I would have to do this because it was my wifely duty and to remember how many times I had made her do so.

I put up a little argument about it, but in my head I was really turned on by the fact she was being so dominant with me. Plus it wasn't that bad.I think she saw through me.

It was around 3 months later that she had granted me another orgasm, I was so turned on by the fact that she was going to make me eat my cum afterwards. But, wow, right after I had cum, I lost all desire to do it, It repulsed me. I didn't want to do it. But, I was tied down. We all know what happened then. Halfway through I was loving it and was turned on again.

That did it, she noticed again and told me that I did like it, and that I was lying to her.

Well, its been 3 years, and it wasn't bad in the beginning because she hadn't discovered the Aneros yet, so I was only orgasming around 4-6 times a year. But, now the Aneros has allowed her to make me cum with the chastity cage on, I am now orgasming maybe 30+ times a year.

Yes, only 4 of them are from actual intercourse. The other 20+ are from her using her strapon and making me ejaculate into a condom while still in my chastity cage. Which afterwards Rebecca requires me to consume my cum from. It is an unlubricated one. She also makes sure to turn the condom inside out and suck the condom clean.

After 3 years its still difficult to do right after I cum. But Rebecca loves that part.

I don't know if I like eating my cum or if its the fact of her requiring it, that I like?

I think its both.

I love that my wife Rebecca has brought me down this road with her. I love that she has made me her Wife.I love that she has required me to eat all of my cum.

I wouldn't ask her to change a thing, my only regret is that I hadn't ask her to take control sooner.

Steve

Good job Hubby.:)

Its been 3 years now, you still have some catching up to do before you will have swallowed more than me.

Dont worry baby, we will get you there. 🙂

For as long as I am in control of our sex lives, I will not be swallowing anymore cum. Whether its mine or yours, all of it is for you my love. Enjoy. 🙂

Speaking of him eating my cum, that is another great thing about him in chastity. Plenty of time for him to give me oral sex. Remember the blowjobs I gave him, well now its his turn to take care of me.

TONGUE IS THE NEW COCK!! 🙂

Rebecca

To Rebecca , I guess I would ask did you not enjoy the cum yourself?

At the end of the day if it's truly consensual and makes you both happy what's not to like? From eating cum to something extreme as a "crown of thorns", you can't really knock anyone else' kink.

To Rebecca , I guess I would ask did you not enjoy the cum yourself?

Have you ever tasted cum yourself?

Its not the best tasting stuff. It wouldn't bother me if I never tasted it again.

The whole problem in my relationship with cum is that my husband, (before they way we are now), made it into a chore and an obligation for me to swallow it because I was his wife and he felt it was my duty.

So now that we have reversed our roles, i feel now it is only fair that I make it his obligation to swallow of the his cum from now on..

If he hadn't done what he did years ago, we wouldn't be where we are now, but we also wouldn't be as happy as we are now either.

Rebecca

PS: I really think he likes the fact that I make him eat it. I would like to encourage everyone to ask him questions about it. The more embarrassing the better. 🙂

At the end of the day if it's truly consensual and makes you both happy what's not to like? From eating cum to something extreme as a "crown of thorns", you can't really knock anyone else' kink.

I have never heard of the crown of thorns before, what is it?

Rebecca

a Crown of thorns: a number of hypodermic needles are put into the head of a cock to make it look as if it's wearing a thorny crown (like Christ on the cross). It's very painful and on the extreme for S/M.

http://www.femdom-resource.com/crown-of-thorns-with-lady-lydia/

Ouch!!!

No, we are not into things that extreme.

Rebecca

I have a few people send me messages asking exactly what I did to make Steve orgasm while I fucked him with my strapon.

So, I will give you a step by step process that worked for me. I started this the next day after Steve had his first Aneros orgasm while lying on the bed.

Step #1. (7 Days in a row)

I tied Steve's writs to his ankles so that he was tied in a doggy style position on top of the bed. (This way he could not move). I had put the Aneros in and then placed a blindfold and the earbuds playing White noise in his ears. (This way he had no distractions).

I placed an unlubricated condom over the end of his chastity cage. (To catch his orgasm). If you dont have a condom, you can use a large plate or large bowl. The cage can sometimes misdirect where everything goes. A large plate or large bowl increases the odds of success. We don't want to make a mess on the bed now do we.

I then told him I wanted him to have an orgasm for me, and that he was going to stay in that position until he did.

After about 5-10 minutes, the Aneros started doing its thing and Steve started making noises and bucking his hips. So I knew it was going well.

After about 20 or 25 minutes it happened, Steve had an orgasm and he came right into the condom. 🙂

It was incredible to see, it had worked just like I had hoped it would!!!

I told him how proud I was of him and that he did a great job.

I untied him and then had him remove the condom. I told him that he had to swallow the contents of the condom to show me how grateful he was for me allowing him an orgasm. He did so, and I told him to turn it inside out and make sure it was clean because he will need it again for tomorrow. 🙂

I repeated this process for 7 days. Every day. This worked great for Steve, it taught him how to cum from having something in his ass and with no contact of his penis.

Why tied that way?

Because I want him to learn how to cum in the same position I will be fucking him in later on.

This is the end of Step #1.

I will post Step #2 tomorrow, getting Steve to orgasm with my large cock in his ass.

Rebecca

BTW, the above position I have Steve tied in, is very effective for other things. Such as spankings, ball massages, ass fuckings and of course forced milking. 🙂

Rebecca

To Rebecca I can't say I have tasted but my girl loves mine, and it gets her off like crazy if I do. I've heard every guy is different. But I don't force her, she is greedy for me 😡

Ouch!!!

No, we are not into things that extreme.

Rebecca

Not as yummy as a good spanking I have to admit. Ermmm...I felt really good afterwards though.