**Update on using Aneros & Chastity**

Sorry for the delay on Step# 2. I will have it tomorrow morning.

But, looking back on step# 1, I forgot to mention one thing. If at all possible, have them do Step# 1 more than once a day. Once in the morning and once at night, if time allows. It will help speed up the process.

Also, if possible repeat maybe 3 times a day on the weekend.

Rebecca

I don't know if you mentioned it but which tool did you use.

Steve uses the Progasm.

Rebecca

Oh my :O you went gusto on him from the beginning!. Any issues with it ever sliding out? I accidentally sneezed once and it shot out like a cannon

Why not, he was already taking my strapon which was much larger. I consider the Progasm tiny compared to what is normally in there. 🙂

It hasnt yet, but be careful not to shoot your eye out. 🙂

Rebecca

With wrists tied to his ankles, does he sit up right or does he bend down. I've tried to imagine the position and without the hands free he would have to be on his face or forehead? Assuming he is face down.

Rebecca,

Have you ever thought about getting furniture for the task? Whipping stool, sling etc.

Is Steve able to end it?
Can he say "no more"?
If he says "I want a divorce" will you punish him, keep him locked up throw away the keys?
Do you think you have become selfish, just like he used to be?

Is Steve able to end it?
Can he say "no more"?
If he says "I want a divorce" will you punish him, keep him locked up throw away the keys?
Do you think you have become selfish, just like he used to be?

I think they'd more than likely sit down and have a good chat about it before it even got as far as "i want a divorce". Negotiation and consent are what D/s relationships are all about. Even more so than vanilla ones.

So now that you play the husband role, do you cheat on your husband? Not that all husbands cheat, but do you do it?

Is Steve able to end it?
Can he say "no more"?
If he says "I want a divorce" will you punish him, keep him locked up throw away the keys?
Do you think you have become selfish, just like he used to be?

She has commented that if he really wanted to end it he could.... That she cannot actually force him to keep the device on if he's determined to get it off.

curious what this white noise is that you listen to?

With wrists tied to his ankles, does he sit up right or does he bend down. I've tried to imagine the position and without the hands free he would have to be on his face or forehead? Assuming he is face down.

He is bent over with his face pushed into the mattress. Just as a woman would be if she was taking it from behind.

Rebbeca

Rebecca,

Have you ever thought about getting furniture for the task? Whipping stool, sling etc.

I have, but would our friends and family say about them?

Benches can be large. 🙂

Rebecca

Is Steve able to end it?
Can he say "no more"?
If he says "I want a divorce" will you punish him, keep him locked up throw away the keys?
Do you think you have become selfish, just like he used to be?

Steve can ask to end it at anytime, but he wont. This is something we both want. He needs this, its a part of him.

Yes, I have become very selfish now because of this!! We are both enjoying it too.

Rebecca

So now that you play the husband role, do you cheat on your husband? Not that all husbands cheat, but do you do it?

I dont anymore. 🙂

We used to have that type of relationship, where Steve was my Cuckold, but after a couple years, we have moved away from it.

It was a great time, and at times I really miss it.

Rebecca

Is Steve able to end it?
Can he say "no more"?
If he says "I want a divorce" will you punish him, keep him locked up throw away the keys?
Do you think you have become selfish, just like he used to be?

She has commented that if he really wanted to end it he could.... That she cannot actually force him to keep the device on if he's determined to get it off.

This is very true, if Steve wanted that chastity cage off, I am very sure he could get if off. It stays on, because its what we both want. He may not like how long he goes in between orgasms, but Hey, that's my call not his. He agreed to obey my rules, and he does.

Rebecca

curious what this white noise is that you listen to?

White noise? Google it, its what the TV channels used to play at night before there was cable.

All music Apps have it.

Rebecca

So, onto Step# 2.

Only move onto Step# 2 after you have successfully had him have the "orgasm", for 7 days in a row and of the 7 "orgasms" they should happen in under 5 minutes. So, time him ladies, or guys. 🙂 Just keep him trying , with encouragement, he will get there.

In Step# 2 it is time to move him onto "Cock". 🙂 By that I mean big dildo. 🙂

Pick the one that you will be using on him later. (As I mentioned in earlier posts, bigger is better). 🙂

Have him assume the same position as he was in with the Aneros plug, but instead of the Aneros plug, insert the "Big Cock".

Now, here is the important thing, in this step you are only replacing the Aneros with the "Big Cock", you are not going to start fucking yet. You will need to either hold it in place or use your strapon harness and push it in.

Remain still and let him know to try and have the "orgasm" with the "Big Cock" in his ass. He should be able to by now. Once he has, tell him how proud you are of him and how much he must like "Big Cock" in his ass by the way he just "orgasmed". Also let him know that he is now one step closer to becoming the "wife" in this relationship.

Oh, I almost forgot, now that he just had an "orgasm", What Else Do Good Little Wives Do? 🙂

Step# 3 soon.

Rebecca

Rebecca,

Have you ever thought about getting furniture for the task? Whipping stool, sling etc.

I have, but would our friends and family say about them?

Benches can be large. 🙂

Rebecca

Stick it in the bedroom and chuck a throw/rug over it?

Glad I checked back up on this thread haha

Our bedroom isnt large enough to support such furniture.

Rebecca

Have you thought or tried about about a locking buttplug during the day ?

The only ones i have seen, have a key lock on the bottom and look like it is not possible for long time use.

It doesnt appear you would be able to sit down with it in.

Rebecca

Answer 😉

http://www.mr-s-leather.com/D039S/deluxe-garment-locking-buttplug-harness.html

That is a much better solution. I like that. 🙂

Rebecca

So, i got an email from someone asking why I put my husband into chastity.

I can tell you it was for 2 reasons:

1. To stop his masturbation habit
2. To make him appreciate sex.

When you realize the potential to masturbate has been removed through
long term chastity, you naturally have less desire to engage in this
destructive male habit. For me, chastity isn't a form of kinky
play..it's a lifestyle.

I didn't place my hubby in chastity so that I
could constantly listen to him whine and beg about how horny he is and
how much he needs to cum. I did it so that he would learn to appreciate
sex more.

Because orgasms are essentially out of the question for him,
when we do have 'sex' he has a true appreciation for the entire journey
and is not focused on 'destination orgasm'. He no longer mentions his
orgasms when we're together and finds pleasure and satisfaction in
pleasing me and all the foreplay and kinky play we regularly engage in.

The desire to masturbate is gone for most men after 3-4 months in
chastity.

When my hubby does get to cum (3-4 times a year), it's takes
just seconds and is sexually unfulfilling for him. In chastity he is
able to remain at the brink of orgasm for hours which I love. It's like
an orgasm that lasts and lasts without any crash.

Rebecca

Another question from an email.

Does my husband know when he will be getting an orgasm?

I have made it a habit to never discuss the frequency of my hubby's orgasm or divulge to him when his next one is coming.

There's no blanket formula for deciding how long is the ideal period
of lockup for a chaste male. There are many factors to consider when
making this determination. For one, the more often a man orgasms, the
more often his body will expect orgasms. This will lead to chronic
whining, begging and attempts to negotiate orgasms - something that I
don't want or tolerate.

Men do not 'need' orgasms. The primary purpose of male orgasm is to
initiate ejaculation for the purposes of procreation. If procreation is
not desired, there's little reason for men to regularly experience
orgasms.

Once a man climaxes, he experiences a let down and his enthusiasm to
serve the female is greatly diminished. A 'sexually satisfied' husband
is a LAZY and UNMOTIVATED husband. He's also much less obedient and not
as easily aroused.

Women who practice chastity eventually come to realize that a
sexually satisfied man is a selfish man but a denied man is an obedient
man. Men are much easier to control and dominate when you deny them
orgasms. Plus it makes the entire D/s lifestyle more pleasurable for the
man if he is denied and sexually frustrated.

We have a saying around our house. Sex is for the woman's pleasure.
We practice it and the denial process makes this a reality. My hubby has
been trained to find fulfillment in knowing that I am being fulfilled.
My husband's penis serves no role in pleasing me sexually,
and is one of the reasons he's kept in chastity when we do engage in
sexual activities.

At one point in our relationship my hubby asked me why it was ok for
me to masturbate and enjoy orgasms and he could not? I was quick to
point out that the female orgasm is much different and most women don't
get hooked on the habit of masturbation the way men do.

If a couple has agreed to a D/s enforced chastity lifestyle, then
frequency of orgasms should be limited to every 3-4 months. This type of
schedule minimizes any down time experienced by the male after an
ejaculation. It also creates an intense burning desire in the male where
he actually craves his wife. He craves her scent, her touch, her taste,
the sight of her naked body, and the thought of penetrating her. When
she further denies him these cravings, he craves them (and her) even
more. This causes him to crave sexual intercourse with me more
than anything else. Once he has an orgasm, all those cravings dissipate
and I go from being his 'obsession' to being his 'wife.' 🙁
Rebecca

Anyone interested in Step# 3?

Rebecca

This thread is getting a little repetitive...

Self pleasure is not destructive. Self pleasure helps you appreciate sex by learning about your body and it's responses.

NOT EVERY MAN needs to be in chastity. Maybe you should switch for 4 months or so - with rebecca in chastity - to see what it is really like on the other side?

Love is consensual, revenge is not.