Something For Couples to try ... And it works with Aneros!

Thx for sharing @karvec1959 !

Thank you for sharing!

Thanks for sharing. This sounds somewhat like what my wife and I have got into. I will be joining.

Nice find!

@karvec1959 This sounds very simular to my and my husband’s sexlife. Did’nt know it had a name. It makes you very close to each other.

Thanks for the responses folks! I'd love to hear more about your experiences.. especially how you've included the aneros!

I did a short interview with the creator of Devotional Sex.
You can read it here.

Here is a link on same subject

http://femdomdoneright.tumblr.com/

enigma said ..
Here is a link on same subject
http://femdomdoneright.tumblr.com/

Sorry but it's not the same subject at all. That web site is for women who want to control, tease and deny her man and have him learn how to enjoy it. Some guys want that...fair enough.
With Devotional Sex the 'feel' is completely different. Yes, the woman is in charge of when her man will ejaculate, but he is the one who is in charge of his own body and how close he wants to get. If he does not want to get close to the edge ... he doesn't allow himself to get that far. There is no teasing, no humiliation, no domination, no sense of cruelty involved at all. He is in control of his own body. If there is anything he's not comfortable with, he just says no.
The focus in DevS is mutual pleasure achieved by the man willingly ejaculating less often. By concentrating on pleasing his spouse/partner he is rewarded by a lot more sexual activity. That activity becomes the focus, creating an incredible amount of pleasure for both and and a hugely increased sense of intimacy. Believe me, he is rewarded with lots of pleasure bestowed upon him by a very happy and appreciative wife!
That's why it works so well with the Aneros experience. The man is NOT denied. For a man who can enjoy multiple orgasms through aneros use it's especially rewarding because with his increased sexual energy he can (and does ... believe me) get to experience huge numbers of orgasms with his wife. From what little bit I've read about FEMDOM that pleasure would not happen. The Aneros would be useless.

@enigma, to give you an idea what @karvec1959 will have meant, I recommend the sensual porn by hegre.com. It provides a vivid visualization of how sensual and fulfilling a couple's sex can be even without ejaculation.

Especially this mutual tantra massage may be quite a good example. Another of their videos is admittedly involving a little bit of consensual BDSM but surely without the focus on the denial aspect, instead on:

creating an incredible amount of pleasure for both and and a hugely increased sense of intimacy

The same applies to this sexual exploration massage inspite of it's "happy ending".

Though all linked videos are NSFW (!) after all, I would call it rather art than porn.

Have fun and good vibes!

Hi guys. I'm reviving this thread to give an update. My wife and I have been enjoying the Devotional Sex lifestyle for a year and a half now and we love it. A combination of not cumming as often and my aneros use gives me so much more sexual energy...and I put it to very good use! We are closer than ever and enjoy sex several times a week. She especially loves when I have my aneros inserted.
Please have a look at the Web site and give it a try with you SO. You won't be disappointed!

http://devotionalsex.com/n/index.html

We have tried a variation of this where I do not orgasm or ejaculate but my wife does. For several years now, this is our sexlife. Coitus reservatus. I love it. I justr wished we did it more regularly.

@karvec1959 Thank you for your telling us about devotional sex. I am impressed by the intimacy generated by these methods and know assuredly that intimacy is what we men want in our marital relationships with our wives.

I took at quick look at the site map and as a man in his seventh decade recovering from cardiac and orthopedic surgeries, are there any materials on that site for elderly men who may be struggling erectile wise and men who are aggressively pursuing sexual restoration given poorer and aged' health.

I would think that as the Mayo Clinic sets out, elderly sex many times encompasses physical massage, and oral sex for both partners.......in other words, using whatever abilities we have left to generate pleasure.

Still, does the site address elderly sex.

Thanks.

Hi guys
I recently happened upon a website that describes a new approach that couples can take to their love lives. My wife and I decided to try it and it is fabulous!
The reason I'm telling you guys about it here is because it fits perfectly into the world of Aneros and Super O's!

The concept is called Devotional Sex. It is geared towards heterosexual couples, but with some imagination I would assume a gay couple could try a variation of it as well.

http://devotionalsex.com/n/index.html

I read the web page, it really interested me! it's highly recommended for anyone interested in couples play, I'd never thought of this dynamic and it does fit perfectly into it. I think that one of the biggest unexplored areas in the forum is couples play. Most of the posts are about single masturbation, with very very few pointers for beginners as to how to integrate aeros into a couples situation. Thanks for the awesome post!

Thanks for the responses guys ...

Turnrow, one of the benefits and beauties of Devotional Sex is that it is easily adaptable to whatever works for you and your wife. Once you learn the basics from the web site and decide to give it a go you can set your own parameters based on what you are capable of doing, what you both enjoy, and what gives you both the most pleasure in the short term and in the long run. Since I am myself approaching 60 ....very quiickly .... I can tell you from experience that the plumbing doesn't always respond like it did when I was 20..or 30 ...or 40 ... With DevS that doesn't mean that the fun is over before it begins. As you get into it you'll discover that the intimacy level in your relationship grows tremendously. That intimacy is not affected on the days when buddy isn't too keen on leaping to attention. There is still lots of great times to be had...and you may find that quite often that erection pops up much easier than you thought it would.
That's another area where our aneros use helps tremendously. We all know about the health benefits of aneros use with the increased blood flow down there and the better muscle tone etc, not to mention the rewiring with it's massive pleasure boosts. That plays perfectly into Devotional Sex, where even though we don't ejaculate nearly as much, we can still have great sex ...time after time. I will share with you the fact that last Sunday my wife and I had a free day and ended up in bed three times during the day. The third time I had my aneros inserted. We had a fabulous day! Before DevS that would never have happened. It would have been one and done.

I guess my best advice for you would be to introduce yourself in the forum and tell your story.
https://devotionalsex.com/forum/inde...53c971bc68f45d

The fellow who has come up with Devotional Sex and who has the web site and forum is very knowledgeable and a really nice guy. Even if there is not much in the web site specifically geared toward older people I'm sure he will have some good guidance for you. Other members there could have some helpful advice for you as well.

One last thing, there is a short video on You Tube that is an introduction to Devotional Sex that can kind of give you a feel for what it's like.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swnsrTFr9Yo

Hope this helps!

Med-sir ....I agree that the whole concept of couples play is under rated and often ignored here. Yes, aneros use and rewiring is generally a solo activity, but the benefits and fun it adds to couples play is outstanding. Hopefully we can explore this further. And like you said, DevS is a perfect compliment to aneros use for couples!

I recently happened upon a website that describes a new approach that couples can take to their love lives. My wife and I decided to try it and it is fabulous!

I ran across that website (Devotional Sex) a number of years ago and thought it was a very valid relationship approach. I included that website in one of my blogs (Rumel's Ruminations V - General Sexuality information:). I also included a link to the Society for Sacred Sexuality which has an great deal of information pertinent to developing the kind of intimacy Devotional Sex seeks to establish.

@karvec1959, thank you for authoring this thread and making many new members aware of alternative relationship lifestyles outside the 'norms' of conventional society. In that same spirit, you might find interesting the practice of Karezza. You might also investigate Nicole Daedone's OneTaste program of OM (Orgasmic Meditation) (please see her TEDx talk Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman).

I think it is great that you and your wife have embarked on such an adventurous new approach to your relationship. I wish you all the best going forward.
Good Vibes to You !