My firsts: dry orgasm / Aless / Super-O / spontaneous Aless / public mini Aless

You keep tooting!

I am excited to relate I have attained ALESS (Aneros-less orgasm) for the first time!  You may read about it if you like, at the linked post in the first entry of this thread- session 14.  I'm revising the first entry of this thread's title and tag accordingly.

@helical

Your very lucky with the toys. They didn’t work for me in the beginning. I found A-Less much easier,and still believe it’s easier to learn than the toys. Congratulations with the  A-Less,it’s very handy,no messy lube. It might become your go-to. 🙂

I am calling for the first time what I have experienced, a Super-O!  I’ve received an expert opinion that I’d hit it then and even earlier, regardless of whether I’d called it such.  You may read about it if you like, at the linked post in the first entry of this thread- specifically, session 35’s entry made on 7/14/21.  I'm revising the first entry of this thread's title and tag accordingly.  I’ll always remember my session with “Nikki”.  Having been doubtlessly helpful to me, I remain thankful for Aneros veterans and all contributors who’d addressed my posts and contributed to a vast living history of knowledge.  I acknowledge I have had a bit of luck as well.  Best to you!

More "firsts": first virtually spontaneous Aless (36) and first public (discreetly) mini Aless (37).  Time again to update the first entry of this thread's title!

Congrats for your achievement ! Have you been able to have a dry orgasm during intercourse? Tha ks

Thanks @paul7979.  It all has been fun and eye-opening, and supported by forum members both past and present.

I believe I’m partly there, with a twist.  After ejaculation but while still inside my wife, I tense various pelvic muscles.  Good feelings have resulted for me.  It’s nice to extend each coupling with more minutes, or moments, of intimacy beyond the old model of ejac. equals “the end”.  We have not discussed the following.  But I sense that she knows that something not-ordinary is happening deep within me which has not occurred before.  Even if I hesitate to call them orgasms (hmm, something I had grappled with the past).  I currently perceive it (or even self-limit it) as lower-intensity, yet I can appreciate the magic in it.  She may feel my dick, abs, glutes and hamstrings “move” as well as hear subtle breathing or soft vocalization changes, and the additional “I love you’s.”

To grow these feelings such that “I can no longer deny, these are orgasms”, here is my advice to myself (and readers)-

Just like the Aneros and solo-Aless phenomena, there’s a critical component of believing it can happen.  Without that, progress is hobbled.

There is the critical component of letting go, too.  It may seem funny to say it is a different kettle of fish to have an orgasm of this sort with/“in front of” my wife.  To that I say there optimally should not be any hesitation in exploration of pleasure potential, and no “performance anxiety” to orgasm a certain way or to a certain high intensity… just allow myself to feel.  As I have permitted myself to be surprised by Aless orgasmic potential on my own, I have let myself allow her to be my witness.

I will continue to try to save ejaculation for her, and thus build up prostate orgasm potential, by only having dry orgasms on my own when I play solo with Aneros or Aless-ly.  I’m attempting not to jack off (much).

I will try to engage Aless practice more often on my own, so much the better to activate it when I am with her.

While thrusting, I’m paying more mind to how my prostate feels, and as a wet orgasm hits, to contract more.  Other than that, I haven’t done much else, for instance @helghast ‘s “S contractions”.  Building my awareness can only help.  In the meantime, I have the post-ejac things I’m working on, as earlier mentioned.

Thanks for asking, thus prompting me to self-assess, and share.  The days go by so fast, it’s a welcome thing to pause to consider where one is in life.

More "firsts": first Aless in intercourse.  First Aless with wife, not during sex.  Time again to update the first entry of this thread's title!