Hi everyone,
I’m new to the forum. I’ve been doing prostate play for about 7 months. It’s been going really well for me. Definitely took a solid month to get the basics, but especially the past 1-2 months have been incredible. I mainly use a Helix Syn and a Eupho, and im also working on A-less since working through the Mindgasm program. My question is this: is there such a thing as getting “over the edge” or “breaking through” or whatever you want to call what a lot of us newer people probably envision as some sort of peak/summit/finish line? I’m getting to a point where the pleasure is very intense, and it feels just like im cumming—there’s no question that this is orgasm, but since there’s no ejaculation, I tend to get this feeling that’s almost an ache (not painful), like im just aching to cum. My pelvic floor will be pulsating away and im shaking/panting/tingling and I feel like im juuuust about to blow. Even though this is very orgasmic, it still feels like a stalled ejaculation. I’m trying to work on relaxing at this point and letting the feelings be, but I’m wondering if there’s a way that others approach this part of the experience that might help change the frame of reference so it’s more of a mind/body experience and less about reaching a particular peak
Welcome to the Forum !
I think that it's a matter of personal perception, whether you experience an edge or not. There's clearly a "before" the Super-O and then, the O-state itself, but the transition part can be longer or shorter, if it's really short then it could feel like going over the edge. A longer peak becomes a plateau, or maybe it's just subtly rising (or falling) to the point where it's hard to notice the experience is shifting.
You're probably at the point where you want to move the pleasure to be more of a full-body experience rather than just having the focus on your pelvic-floor and genitals /abdomen. How long does your pleasure lasts at this highest level ? If you can sustain it for a while, then you can start mentally scanning your body for more places that are experiencing pleasure. Nipple stimulation is a good place to start pulling the pleasure upwards.
If you can sustain it for a while, then you can start mentally scanning your body for more places that are experiencing pleasure.
This is good advice. I think I’m trying to hang onto the pleasure down low so I don’t lose it. I can sustain it for a while. Long enough that I usually lose it because I start thinking “why is this taking so long?” Something I experienced early on, when the intense pleasure waves were more elusive, was “omg I found it, now I can’t do anything that might make it go away!” There’s still some of that, probably because my brain still thinks that the pleasure ~should~ be in my cock.
part of the journey!
That makes sense. I think you just need more practice, then you'll be able to trust the pleasure to not go away and then you will build on it. I don't believe you need to change your approach right now in any major way, if it works, it works. Give yourself some more time and see where you are in a couple of weeks, let things grow on their own a bit.
This is helpful, thanks. I know I’m not doing it “wrong”, because oh boy it feels so right! Part of the rewiring for me is accepting that the journey is a journey. I’ve come a long way already and I’m amazed at what my body is capable of!
... that I usually lose it because I start thinking “why is this taking so long?” Something I experienced early on, when the intense pleasure waves were more elusive, was “omg I found it, now I can’t do anything that might make it go away!” There’s still some of that, probably because my brain still thinks that the pleasure ~should~ be in my cock.
You are doing just fine as @Zentai noted but you may be falling into the trap of overthinking everything. Please read @Buster 's thread What exactly is a Super-O? to get a wider perspective of what a Super-O is in reality. Please see Super-O Myths & Illusions regarding 'the Edge' and a couple of other myths. Also please read @Neros thread The Myth of Super Orgasm and @Zentai's thread Navigating "Almost-Almosts" : So you're almost there ?.
Good Vibes to You!
"Aching to cum"
Remember we are trying to have a super O / Prostate orgasim. No cumming involved in a super O (in general). Focus on the pleasure behind the penis and forget the penis is even there. Try and guide that pleasure from behind your penis (prostate) up and thru your entire body.
I want to thank all of you for your help. Though you probably think you gave me very simple advice, it was just what I needed. Last night I had an experience that fits every description of Super-O. The interesting part about it is that I was already there, I just didn't have the right mindset. The intense feeling I was having that led to this post was 99% of the way there, but shifting the mindset/expectation made all of the difference. Everything that I've read about the Super-O makes sense now! I had fallen into the trap of reading others' experience and setting expectations based on that. The experience I had is not necessarily what I expected, but now I finally understand everything that you guys repeat over and over again to new users.
Also, an indica gummy was the ticket. My next goal: unlocking the Super-O without chemical help.
Congrats ! Can you tell us more about the mental shift you experienced ? It would be very interesting to see what made things *click* in that instance.
Also, an indica gummy was the ticket. My next goal: unlocking the Super-O without chemical help.
You'll want to figure out what the THC provided that you needed more off, which will probably be either Arousal, Focus or Relaxation, but could be something else. Then work on whatever it was and you should be able to get back to it sober. It's worth it !
Good question. In the simplest term, it was changing the mental approach from “gotta get to the finish” to “hold on and enjoy the ride”. This is something I already knew mentally, but the cannabis helped me focus on the body sensations and pinpoint the source of the pleasure as it grew and shifted.
Great to hear the advice worked from everyone. THC really is a game changer for it. Knowing not to rush it is one of the key things, I find that much easier when on THC as you are so relaxed and just happy to take your time. Not to mention every little sensation is magnified.
An exercise I like to do, is to have a session without the purpose of a Super O (I don’t always succeed). Instead, I focus on the energy being created, and move it around my body; to my fingers, toes, hair, ears, etc. I also try to amplify the sensation or decrease it. The exercise helps to move the focus away from your genitals. It is interesting when a particular body part can cause the intensity to greatly increase. It’s fun and actually, very restful.
@rumel you are a beneficent genius. I downloaded the HypnAerosession “CD” and was transported to another dimension. I’m glad I waited to discover this until I was on the doorstep of the super-o, because it didn’t just help me “cross over”, it catapulted me across the universe.
I made a weird semantic connection towards the end of the experience, when I had to take a mental pause and ask myself “am I in orgasm right now?”, and my mind immediately responded: “you are above orgasm, you are ‘super-orgasm’”, and that dialogue was independent of any conscious thought about the super-o. The point is that I think we often use the word “super” as an adjective to mean great, grand, exceptional. But it is also a prefix having the same meaning as the prepositional phrase “above the…”. Superimpose, superficial, supervision, superorgasm: above the orgasm.
thanks for the Good Vibes!
I downloaded the HypnAerosession “CD” and was transported to another dimension.
I am very pleased to hear you are being aided by "HypnAerosession", that IS what it was intended to do, help you get relaxed and into the optimum frame of mind.
... I think we often use the word “super” as an adjective to mean great, grand, exceptional. But it is also a prefix having the same meaning as the prepositional phrase “above the…”. Superimpose, superficial, supervision, superorgasm: above the orgasm.
You are absolutely correct in that interpretation, I wish more men understood the term that way, it would lessen the frustration many men feel when they have in fact been experiencing Super-O's but have been expecting something else. Good for you in making the mental adjustment for the meaning.
Good Vibes to You!