How to Inspire enthusiasm?

@clenchy 

I agree 100%, but you already know this. Our experiences with cannabis are strikingly similar. I can't really recommend THC for Super-Os in a general manner without knowing the individual. In some cases, knowing someone better just tells me that this person should definitely not use cannabis for their sessions, if at all. Burnout, thrill seeking and anhedonia can await some men... I have a name for the part of you that thinks that smoking some weed for a session is a swell idea and won't hurt anything : The Lizard, aka your lizard brain. The lizard does not care about anything besides the next dopamine hit, long term thinking or logic are not his thing...

Posted by: @lee92

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The problem is I had highly destructive tendencies with weed but considering it in a medical setting.

That's a clear indication that mixing THC with your sessions is a terrible idea. Do not consider it at all under any setting.

In a perfect rewired world, enthusiasm and arousal for sessions should come from the idea that you might (or will) get a Super-O from doing it. I agree with @clenchy that taking a step back might be a good idea here, think about why you are doing it and what you want to take away from the experience. Try to give it a fresh start. 

Thanks for the replies. Reflecting today in a more logical state of mind, I'd say potentially where I went wrong is "expecting" the next thing I tried to provide more tangible results or somehow quicker. 

I mean as in rather than sticking with one method more consistently for a prolonged period of time, I would jump to the next big thing based on research to see if that worked and achieve "quicker" results.

Of course then this mindset builds frustration eventually leading to the "ahhh, what's the point" ideology. 

Like you say, it's probably burnt myself out mentally from the "expecting".

I'm not sure if that makes any sense?

Let me know what you think.

Thanks

@lee92 

Yes, expecting a new thing to be the silver bullet puts a lot of pressure on you to perform the trick or technique "correctly", and if it does not pan out that can be a hit against your motivation.

It's a mindset thing, if you approach the same situation in a playful or receptive manner, as in : "Let's see what that new method does" vs "I hope this new thing finally works", that can make a big difference. 

@clenchy I never done the mindgasm challenge, however I have done semen retention while practicing with aneros. I'm not sure if it helped with the sessions or not.

I lasted 3 weeks and that is the longest I've went.

What I did notice was the wild energy shift. I'm usually quite vanilla but found by week 3 I caved in and was searching a lot of BDSM shit or just really getting off on the more psychological side of pleasure.

Like rather than watching a woman simply getting fucked, I was in awe of just simply seeing them being in pleasure. 

I think the Idea of me being pegged was so much more appealing also because I was literally begging for pleasure. 

I guess you could argue this is possibly what leads to breakthroughs with the aneros had I not decided to turn to porn on the third week.

This being said, I was still edging and practicing semen retention for a while before I reached the inevitable and that was certainly a very nice experience.

For me with the aneros, as soon as I've felt any kind of pleasure arise, I kind of get excited, try to capture it then it disappears. 

Almost like at that moment I try harder to catch what is occurring.

Posted by: @lee92

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For me with the aneros, as soon as I've felt any kind of pleasure arise, I kind of get excited, try to capture it then it disappears. 

Almost like at that moment I try harder to catch what is occurring.

I have this same experience, when I chase the orgasm. What helps me to overcome this, is that I try to tune my attitude, to appreciate the little things, to live the moment. This was hard at first, but it got easier since I've started to have more and more involuntaries. I try to locate which muscles are twiching, and feel into them deeply. I think about them as someone is teasing me with them.

And the most important, I try to be relaxed with both body and mind.

I usually need to have decent energy level, and not be tired to keep up this attitude, but when I manage to stay in this flow, this heightens the pleasure of each involuntary, and this can lead to dry-o. I don't even need to or have time to have visual fantasies during this, focusing on the feelings I have, are sufficient.

I like the idea of the orgasm denial, which I think is a spicied up variant of what I use. I might try it someday.

@clenchy I also thought the power dynamic was interesting with semen retention. I always thought it was bullshit about women not being happy about a man denying himself of ejeculation.

Though I did experience this and it did lead me to understand that through sex it is the woman's strongest superpower to seek control over a man. As they often can't by physical means in terms of evolution.

At least that was my theory. Of course part of it is also so they feel validated and that you are attracted to them but I couldn't help but sense the manipulation part also 😅.

You actually start to look at the world in a different way 😂.

@clenchy  I can usually do around 7 days with not much issue, it's often past this point I tend to feel it becoming more difficult.

I think the testosterone spikes on the seventh day.