Helpful tools for reaching Orgasms- Free mindgasm access in No nut November

@hesnot I'm sorry to hear about your lack of sex in your marriage.    I can see your need for other forms of pleasure.  It sounds like you have had some success with non TO's (SO is soft orgasm?).

I am over a year into my journey and still nothing close to an earth shattering prostate orgasm, just 2 HFWO's when using weed.  I just hate having to use weed in any form. 

Almost through this No Nut/ Mindgasm journey although I did break my vow and had a day of a few jerk offs.  That was a couple weeks ago.  I have had sex with my boyfriend a few times though so I don't know how that would ruin things...

Regarding the No Nut/Mindgasm journey.  This month I felt there were too many days with way too many exercises.  Not much fun..it was like a chore, and it was heard to have enough time.  Some of them were over an hour if you do them all.  Especially the last couple weeks I have been always behind.  I would say my prostate sensitivity may be slightly better.  when I see something that excites me I feel a tingle in my prostate..so that's something. 

I gave my Aneros a try last night but didn't feel much.  I honestly feel like I may get more pleasure without it.  I had one session last week where I was just playing with my center and I was feeling pretty good.  I could feel inklings of an approaching orgasm, although I am sure it would have been a wet one.  I focused by staring and the end of my hard dick and imagining the feeling was happening at the tip (which it kind of feels like).  It was feeling pretty good, but eventually died down.

One thing I do hope that helps my journey is I am able to look at my erection and stomach now and get aroused.  I lost 22 pounds in the past few months so I can see my stomach and feel good about it instead of disgusted by the fat.  Hopefully that will help me in the future if I keep it off.

@hankey01 I’ve said in the Newbie’s Nook that I’d trade progress with Super O’s (SO?  Maybe I’m using the wrong acronmym and it should be HFDO?) for more intimacy with my partner.  So I’m envious of your time with your boyfriend!  I think ideally we should all be able to have both, right?  But I obviously don’t have experience how to integrate solo play with couples play, or to what extent having an active sex life impacts progress with an Aneros or Aless.  I’m sure others can chime in with something more helpful.  

I’m behind on the Mindgasm exercises as well due to the same issue, time constraints.  I will say weeks 1-2 were helpful just the workouts and isolation of muscle groups is something I’ve never done.  But it got hard to keep up.  Contemplating continuing with a monthly for a bit to see where things go at my own pace.  

And a huge high five on the weight loss!  I’m also in the middle of that journey but am only down 5 pounds… but am working to tighten up my process!  Kudos and thanks for inspiring me to keep going!

@hesnot Yes intimacy with your partner would be best for sure.  I do hope you are able to sort that out.  I just wanted to acknowledge your quick acceptance of my 'orientation'.  I'd like to think most people here are more open to things like that, considering our willingness to stick toys up our butts. 😉  I am in my early 50's also but I didn't have a boyfriend (only had the one) until about 12 years ago so I certainly missed out on years of experiences and partners.  I was married and have had girlfriends but it was just not right for me.

Todays' mindgasm is 1 hour.  Eternal Flame.  I'm 20 minutes in and it's just been relaxing music so I'm not sure what I should be doing...probably not typing on this forum. 😉  I am heading out in a few minutes so I didn't get through it today.  🙁

Thanks about the weight loss!  And good start on the 5 pounds!  That's a great start!  I found it quite easy actually.  I have always been exercising and eating reasonably but it slowly accumulated.  I switched to light beer (I swore I never would), kept track of my calories and exercise (MyNetDiary app) and stopped snacking.  I some days I have tough cravings and feel hungry but once I am happy I'll just try to maintain.

Can't believe day 29 and 30 were just music tracks. 😂
I guess I'm supposed to be able to hear the instructions in them, and know how to vibe with them using my pelvic floor, but that hasn't happened. I was expecting something more exciting.
At least the other "Lessons" tab has the later techniques (at least for now, I don't know when they go back behind the pay-wall), but I think Lessons 5, 6, 7 are the next in the progression from where the 30 days left off.
I guess they've tailored this to complete beginners and they don't want to introduce these things too fast. Still, not even an ol' trinity squeeze for us on day 30? Come on man!

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Can't believe day 29 and 30 were just music tracks. 😂

LOL reminds me of A Christmas Story.  "Don't forget to drink your Ovaltine"  All that waiting for a crummy commercial?!

I figured out later that if you log in, then you can access a file with instructions I think?  It was too late by then so now I'm 2 days behind.

I was disappointed that a robot voice didn't tell me to tense my pelvic floor. Is this my fetish now? 🤔

@hankey01 I've always viewed "orientation" as a spectrum rather than fixed points and want everyone to have love, intimacy, partnership and happiness.  I'm glad you've found that even if perhaps "later" than you'd ideally have preferred.

I'm considering paying for a month or two of mindgasm to see if it helps me continue to progress like it did initially ... I'm way behind in sessions partly due to time, partly due to applying things in regular anero/aless sessions which are usually only a few times a week.  

NNN - this is a riddle.  I've not had a TO since October so... not sure if I want to get some release or continue and don't know if there is a straightforward answer to that one.  

@hesnot  I don't know the answer to your question about having a TO after a month of none..I had the same thoughts this morning (Dec 1 now).  I certainly want to get back to my VR porn and masturbation, but will it hurt any progress I have made with the Mindgasm.  Also my apologies for being too dumb to catch onto your use of 'SO'.  😉

I tried the Eternal flame lesson last night.  I have to admit it was feeling good and I could feel things tingling by doing absolutely no exercises.  The trouble is relaxing in a warm bed at the end of the day just puts me to sleep.  I got about half was through it before I turned it off to go to sleep.  After that I did keep feeling small surges of tingling I tried to grow.  It IS interesting that this is all about the mind.  No need for toys.

@hankey01 I had an empty house extra early this morning and had planned a session before my first work calls … I’ve had one super o without a toy although it was after two with one so my body was on fire already, so I’ve been working on exercises etc… in anticipation of attempting a session without an aneros.  Like you I got some nice p waves going and was really enjoying it but never crossed the bridge … so I got out my Helix and things really started to take off when the UPS guy made a delivery and rang the doorbell and the dogs went crazy … then got a text from my wife that the cleaning ladies were not arriving at noon but in the next 15 minutes or so around 9am… so that ended that and quickly!  Like you if I can sneak in a morning session that is often more satisfying than tired at the end of the day… alas.  

But to your point it is interesting to have things move along without a toy.  I’ve had a couple experiences of the “butt buzz” this past week … and tried to, within reason, kind of ride that out to see how far along I could get and found I could get some nice p waves (+).  I feel like I’m still not really there totally aless, but it does make the characterization of the toy as a facilitator rather than essential all the time ring true.  They do feel different however, so I can see using a toy for awhile even if I can achieve super o without one.  Particularly since I still am experimenting all the time with different variables, and there are so many of them to consider… why it’s a journey not a destination right?

@hesnot man that is frustrating to be so close then be interrupted!!   I know it doesn't replace the intimacy with your wife but I am jealous of your Super O's!  To me they are still a myth!  The tingles I got with the mindgasm are probably he only indication that something IS possible! 

Toys feel nice and I have been very close to orgasm many times, but they always die.  Then the 2 times with weed, that I did have HFWO's, but to me they are stimulating in a penile ejaculation way so I just don't know.  They sure felt nice and seemed to pull me into a different place for every P wave.  I just hate weed.

Maybe I'll try a toy with the eternal flame lesson and see how that goes.

That time of year again - last year NNN and Mindgasm were instrumental in me hitting some milestones - I got behind and never finished the entire 30 lessons - but did manage the NNN part (actually turned into several months).  So this year I'm going to try and do all 30 days and see what happens.  I've continued to have good sessions including some really amazing ones but have hit a bit of a plateau or rut that I reach a point and it doesn't necessarily go further... kind of wondering if there is a next level so perhaps another trip with Mindgasm will trigger some new experiences.  

Anyone else joining in?

@hesnot I was planning to but my divorce fight seems to be in full swing again so with all the stress and medication I am on (I can't even have a penile orgasm on these pills) there is little point in trying. 🙁

I hope you enjoy the month!!

@hankey01 Dang I'm sorry you're going through that... hope things get better soon!  I've been on that precipice myself - we managed to work it out but a friend is going through an ugly divorce (for reasons that are elusive, double high wage earners and no kids so should be just about money split in half but... who knows).  I don't wish it on anyone.  Keep your chin up.

@hesnot Thank you for the kind words.  After 15 years of my ex getting her way on everything and me paying her while she works part time, she is now playing her entitlement card and going for everythign I have built up on my own since separation.  And the laws back her up.  I've offered her 70% of my savings but thats not enough.  She'd rather go down in flames as long as she takes me with her.

Such a shame for the kids.

But this is about No Nut November.  If this ever ends I'll have my November then. 🙂  I hope you enjoy!!!

I had to try out the first couple days of the challenge and might go through with the whole thing again, if nothing else it's good kegel training and getting my PC muscles back in shape.  I had some of my best Anerosessions at the start of the year after going through Mindgasm last year.  I'm already tingling after these first two sessions!  Mindgasm improves every year, they now have a male voice as well, and I assume they have different terms for women to try as well. 

@hankey01 I'm so sorry for this, it seems to be more and more prevalent and as a child of divorce myself I can also understand the difficulties yours face.  The modern world sucks sometimes.