Having problems with No expectations

It is unfortunate that the "Super-O" cheerleaders have unintentionally created an expectation level that unfortunately disappoints many users. . . . . . . . .

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My take on all this. In a nutshell, keep your expectations moderate, use when you can, and enjoy the moderate pleasure enhancement that 80% of men will enjoy with this. You might get lucky and be one of the 20% experiencing some fantastic and then you are free to label that experience a super-o.

Great post !
Thank-you for sharing your 'right on', Aneros philosophy.

Hey, @AdaJ, I'd believe this picture, created by @GGringo might be helpful to handle your expectations.

I now realize my new outlook has taken a huge burden off my mind and I am now able to enjoy the fruit of my journey. This may sound corny but the way I see it is; when I started my journey, I was on the ground looking up at the apples beyond my reach in the apple tree. I did not realize I had succeeded in climbing in the tree and savoring the apples as I was too busy trying desperately to reach the top branch. My apples are dam good!

The problem with all your expectations is, that you can't know what you are waiting for, because it's quite different from what you learned to feel with classic orgasms. Therefore all expectations hinder you to recognize what's coming up. That's the reason why it's said you first have to unlearn what you learned.
The more open minded you try to sense every new ever so slight sensation the better your chance to catch one of the hidden hints you need to find your path.

To give you an example. You can lube up your hands only for skincare. You can do this a second time and try to sense every slightest sensation, massage each single finger and many different spots. It both will feel fully different, the second run can end amazing. Thus I found a spot in the middle of my hand that is connected to my prostate I now can stimulate by only lubing up my hands. In between only writing about this causes a dumb feeling down there making me able to focus on my prostate starting an interplay of perception and tickling by focus. This technique is applicable to every other spot. Where your mind focuses on, your blood and your energy will follow.

Additionally you can mentally talk to your gland. On one hand to increase your focus and on the other hand to wake up your prostate and ask and encourage it to play with your Aneros tool you brought as a gift. The next hurdle is to let your prostate take over and then to distinguish between motions you want to do and involuntary movements initiated by your gland. The more you let go and ask your gland to take over, the more joy you both will achieve. Finally your gland should be in command and use your Aneros to give you the pleasure you are longing for.

Good luck and good vibes!

I know having "no expectations" is a big step to move forward on my journey with the aneros but I'm finding it very difficult to get over my frustration and expectations. Any particular advice?

@chestinut, @wetdream63 & @SOwithoutAneros have all given you great advice and I don't know if what I have to add will help or not. I get the feeling your frustration stems not only from unmet expectations but the change in lifestyle which has taken place ("...frequent in the first 5 months of aneros possession now lucky if I have a session once per month"). With a busy life usurping precious free time and insufficient privacy, you don't have a fertile environment for generating relaxed, no-pressure sessions. It seems your mental focus may be too distracted by external demands to get anywhere near the "O"-zone. The expectations can be lessened if you take the mental approach that your Aneros IS doing exactly what it was designed to do, namely to provide a healthy prostate massage and nothing more, like brushing your teeth or taking a shower, it is something you do for your body to keep it healthy.
Addressing the environment is a bit more tricky and will take some planning on your part. You will need to set aside a good block of 'ME' time, on a regular basis, more like 2 hours, once a week, instead of once a month. Next you need to refine the environment to make it comfortable, relaxing, private and stress free (see Identifying Facilitators to Progress for help). Then you need to take advantage of this 'ME' time, with or even without your Aneros. The point here is to get your mental approach reset to a more positive condition, I think your ability to relinquish expectations will certainly be enhanced and your ability to get actual enjoyment from your Aneros will markedly improve.
Good Vibes to You !

I'm guessing you are using the do nothing method.
These tips are probably be better suited to that method but your mileage may vary.
You want the most sensitivity and relaxation you can manage.
Not ejaculating for several days helps.

I'll try and give you an actual method to relax and not just tell you to "relax".
I find it helpful to very intentionally slow the breathing.
Make the breath slow and even, feel it exiting your mouth on the exhale.
Try for a 10 second exhale to get the feel for it, then don't worry about counting it out so much.
If you've every been in a hot sauna you may recall the ability to feel the breath on your lips as you exhale it.
Concentrate on the feel of your breath as you do it and it can bring a meditative effect.
Making the exhale longer than the inhale relaxes the nervous system I believe.
Just doing this may usher in some interesting sensations in your pelvis.
I believe that deep breathing which moves the belly up and down also subtely moves the aneros and gets things happening.

After you have brought on some nice relaxation spend some time placing your minds focus on various parts of your pelvis.
Do your best to feel the device and where it's positioned inside.
Attempt to differentiate between the tip near the prostate, the base in the anus and the tab on the perineum.
Just bringing focus to these areas may bring on movements, but definately should deeped sensitivity.

Next play around with some intention and physical "imaginig"
What I mean is, you know what imagining something is (visually), now try to recall what it feels like when you come and the prostate pumps and jumps.
This is actually what I was doing when I had my first ever success having a pleasurable experience w/o the device, without touching my genitals and simple focusing.
If you have trouble with imagining this sensation, try the feeling of a heart beating, or a musular twitch.

I'll thow this in since it worked for me, as the risk of being one of those guys who touts very weird shit that only seems to work for them.
This is counter intuitive since we think of the device drawing in, and effort methods using muscle and pulling the device in.
I'm a firm believer that the full experience doesnt happen unless you can learn to release tension (both intially and which has build during a session.)
Ok here's the odd tip. I'll compare it to a flower to illustrate.
If you can imagine that the anal and buttock area is similar to a closed flower bud ( I suppose Rosebud slang makes sense now right?)
Do your best to imagine that the area and the tension therein is opening, blooming.
This is the best comparison to the feeling of how the tension should be released, and disapated.
Oddly, this produces very good movement up and in.
Maybe it's actually releasing of Sphincter tension and just a very very small amount of outward push by those muscle groups.

Alright I'm done, hope some that will produce results for you.

Excellent post sjenz! One thing which has helped me is to visualize breathing in and out of the anal cavity! Guess it's a form of totally relaxing the sphincter muscle and pelvic area.

Yes, that visualization (or mabe it's a kinethezation) of breathing or allowing energy to flow up into that area seems to be a good one.
I think it's a way to intuitively get the device moving without really knowing what you're doing or how you're doing it.