Frequency of aneros sessions?

Posted by: @aneros_user88299

Was just wondering what the recommended frequency of aneros sessions is?

I don't think the Aneros company has a particular recommended frequency of use. IMHO, your usage is totally up to you. The user poll How frequently do you use your massager? reflects the general variability of usage. Your frequency of use is going to be influenced by a variety of factors such as time availability, privacy availability, physical and emotional states, arousal level, age, just to name a few.

Forcing yourself to have sessions when you are not highly aroused, even when other factors are optimal, will usually produce inferior, unexciting sessions regardless of your frequency. Learning to recognize your own cycles of arousal will help you plan for future session times but don't try to hold to any particular schedule. For some men having sessions too frequently could also lead to desensitization and frustration about 'dud' sessions.

Good Vibes to You!

So I should try to have sessions when the time is right, when I'm optimally aroused. I think I'll keep that in mind and change my habits somewhat. Thanks!

Posted by: @aneros_user88299

So I should try to have sessions when the time is right, when I'm optimally aroused. I think I'll keep that in mind and change my habits somewhat. Thanks!

Exactly, and perhaps even when daytime is right. Please observe carefully which daytime may get you better results. Short before bedtime and perhaps already exhausted from a long days work, you might miss results that would be easily coming to you* in the morning after an invigorating sleep. Returning to bed after a short visit to the bathroom, stretching out, cuddling with your pillow and feeling your favorite tool at work**, yeehaw, that's it for me ... Good vibes! Mart

(*never chase anything, let it come to you)

(**no matter, whether it's there or not, your mind can easily replace it, sometimes with amazing results, named A(neros)less!)

When I masturbate or have a session is usually up to habit. I wonder when things will get going by themselves and not from me seeking porn and release out of that habit. Need to be patient and wait till my body is ready and not just my brain/ego.

I think you really need to tailor things depending on your results. You may have a "good run" where you have a session every day for a whole week with good results, and next week it's just too much and you only get duds. In the past I've had periods where two sessions a day were great, and other times where  I couldn't bother with even one session a week. My rule of thumb was to increase frequency when things were progressing and decrease it when things were not so great. As long as the arousal is there, I think you're good to go.

That might be part of it, I don't find a session inherently arousing a lot of the time and often will try to liven things up with nipple stimulation or a few other hot spots that vary in how responsive they are.

I guess I need to wait until I'm aroused naturally, or else aroused by less overall. Maybe limiting porn consumption or eliminating it will help with that. I think it'd be smart to condition myself to get arousal from modes other than visual stimulation. Visual stimulation is probably like a crutch, I need to learn to walk without it. But otherwise it'll just be a matter of time without ejaculation. 

Speaking of which, I've been strengthening my PC muscles and practicing ejaculatory control. I'm wondering if that could help to cultivate arousal. On one hand I'm only seeing partial success, where contracting hard at the point of no return still sees a little bit of milky fluid dribbling out. I think it may be at least blunting the refractory period and I haven't had any retrograde ejaculation or discomfort/pain from practicing this. Also, last time I did this I remember at least twice feeling as though I had gone past the point of no return but then backed down. Either I was extremely close to the edge or I had danced over the edge and returned, but it felt very much like I'd gone over the edge. I wonder if that will eventually lead to non-ejaculatory orgasms? Be nice to learn how to get the whole orgasm instead of just the split second of the beginning, but without the refractory period resetting things.

@aneros_user88299 Have you seen the Book " Love Satisfies " ? Seems to cover NEOs pretty well. A relaxing technique instead of a clinching of one, strong, held kegel. 

@buick45571gmail-com Heard of that one, think I actually bought that one for Kindle app a while ago... I should read that one maybe. 

I also want to try getting to the edge and trying a reverse kegel along with immediately stopping all stimulation, but not going to try that just yet.

Starting today I'm focusing more on rewiring by not ejaculating for four days and having an Aneros session each day. Four is manageable for me so i think I won't be too tempted to masterbate. I'll be keeping a journal in a text document noting arousal levels and feelings of that nature throughout the day and during sessions. Maybe I could learn something from keeping a journal.

I am currently up to once a day around bedtime and maybe twice a day (bedtime and when wake up) if really horny for it. I don't fall right a sleep so it about 12 hours apart. I finally am having success with it for the last couple of days so I can't get enough of it right now. 

I cracked at the end of the third day, masturbated and ejaculated. I think that after a point with no porn/masturbation I experience withdrawal. Thought I was tired, but was just bored as I found out when I experienced anger trying to enjoy a video game. I did some strength training and took a shower which calmed me down. Still ended up masturbating a while after.

Now I'm thinking try again, shoot for 4 days instead of 3, but also do a bit of masturbation but maybe not with porn and not to ejaculation. Maybe loosening my inhibitions just a tad would strike a better balance and help cultivate arousal? Still experimenting anyway, and logging a journal to reflect and learn from.

@jspad, of course, I don‘t know if this may work for you too, I only can tell, that I love to keep my arousal high by some low level teasing for a limited time every now and then all through the day. In between I focus on my arousal. When the arousal seems to have subsided, another teasing is to be due. For example I massage my balls through the fabric of my pants - but only until I feel some vibes in my groin or the very beginning of an erection, then I stop any teasing and adress myself to my tasks and errands, leisure activities or outdoor pursuits, but still keep clocking my arousal. At least after an hour or so I then perhaps play with my nipples or do some kegels, massage my pecs, my bulge or whatever. Thus I keep myself on a certain ground level of arousal until I only must close my eyes and focus on any of my hot spots or on my gland to feel a sudden horniness. Starting into an Aneros or Aless session prepared with this inner ground level of arousal helps me a lot to have most exciting sessions - even without porn or the risk of edging beyond the point of no return to finally read „Game over!“ 

Keep playfully and inventive, after all enjoy yourself!

Cheers, Mart

@sowithoutaneros

I've been feeling better today, more energy/motivation. Tried masturbating to some porn for a few minutes early in the day and later about 10 minutes before an Aneros session. I didn't really masturbate with the intention of getting anywhere close to the edge, but just to help cultivate arousal. The Aneros session wasn't anything spectacular, as usual, but I think I did get a couple of small p-waves and later some small arousal sensations in pelvic region after switching from the Eupho Syn to the Helix Syn. It's only been overnight since my last ejaculation, so having at least a few p-waves today is probably above average. I think the refractory period isn't quite as bad when you wait longer before ejaculating, even if it's only by a day or two.

I think that the biggest roadblock I've always had to this is probably cultivating arousal. On one hand, you have to focus on subtle sensations. On the other hand, you can't always do that if you're constantly trying super hard just to stay aroused. It's also difficult to brute force arousal unless you're doing the typical porn, masturbate, orgasm stuff. But that usually hammers the refractory period. I have to imagine if the sensations are good enough it's much less difficult to stay awake during a session, but for that to happen there needs to be arousal. Isn't that the first step to the Aneros how-to? Start off horny? I may have been missing the most obvious ingredient this whole time.

Anyway, I'm more optimistic going forward after today. Refraining from masturbation at all seemed to make me flatline in terms of arousal after a point, but I think with small masturbation sessions I can maintain some momentum without too much urge to ejaculate. I think I tried edging without ejaculation years ago, but it made the urge to ejaculate strong and I think there was some discomfort from congestion in my junk. Going to stay away from edging for now, as blowing my load isn't the point.

Posted by: @aneros_user88299

It's also difficult to brute force arousal

Hi @jspad, it may be that you underestimate the female orientation of this journey. You are no longer on the hunt. This journey instead is about gathering. And you are not gathering what you already know. You are wandering and picking up findings right and left your path. And you welcome these findings and try to understand what they want to give you. A sudden shower of energy just spread through my arms when I wrote this and now is warming my body. Thus are the findings along your new found path to endless bliss and contentment. Keep nosy and full of anticipation but don't hunt or brute force anything, neither arousal. 😉

Cheers, Mart

@sowithoutaneros

I keep thinking arousal will come in time if I leave things alone long enough, but maybe growing arousal by doing nothing is like growing a plant by doing nothing. Better to  sow some seeds and give them a little water each day.

Posted by: @aneros_user88299

sow some seeds and give them a little water each day

That's a great word painting of yours and exactly what I wanted to suggest. Wandering your new pathways does NOT mean to do nothing. You are at least wandering, you are bending to pick up things and of course you can scratch yourself when you feel any itches. For example I caused some nice involuntaries at the coffee table this afternoon when scratching my ballsack erotically, but after a little swelling in my groin I turned to my coffee. And if you feel a certain dumb ache somewhere above your perineum while doing such little scratchings, it might be your awaking gland responding. Focusing on this subtle feeling might teach you a lot about its interaction with your arousal. Finally your gland's swelling decides in large part about your member getting hard and beginning to ooze precum.

I believe your sensitive green thumb soon will give you an awesome tree of bliss and ecstasy. 🙂

Good vibes, Mart

I find it interesting that I haven't had much urge to masturbate to orgasm yet, despite masturbating about 10 minutes at a time twice a day for a couple days. Usually I masturbate either out of an itch to orgasm or out of habit/schedule. It does seem to help somewhat with feeling the sensations of arousal in general, and not just in the penis. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens and I am learning to enjoy penile stimulation that isn't done just to get me closer to the edge. I think I'm even starting to enjoy how I feel after a short masturbation session.

Your new insights just gave me a pleasant shower of energy and even caused a little arousal.

Arousal for its own sake - only to pleasure me and not for a release - is what gives me bliss 24/7.

Good vibes to you, @jspad, I do love watching you paving your way, please keep us posted!

On day three since last ejaculation, and feeling pretty decent today. Plenty of energy, more productive than usual. Did a bit of cardio and strength training today and still feeling alert close to half-way through my day. Now's normally the time I might feel kind of down, tired, and have to urge to ejaculate out of habit, but I don't really feel compelled to do that yet.

The 10 minutes masturbation early in the day was really nice, sensations and arousal are increasing during. Wasn't feeling arousal while exercising afterwards, but I guess stress gets in the way of those feelings. Plenty of energy though, not feeling planted to my chair like I often do.

I'm now legitimately curious, not only how long before I feel the need to ejaculate but also how far I can build my arousal. My body seems a bit more responsive in general, be it from physical stimulation, visual stimulation, or deep slow breathing. Things are looking up and I'm in a good mood.

Posted by: @jspad

I'm now legitimately curious, not only how long before I feel the need to ejaculate but also how far I can build my arousal. My body seems a bit more responsive in general, be it from physical stimulation, visual stimulation, or deep slow breathing.

I think you may find re-reading the thread Aneros, Arousal & Abstinence/Semen Retention helpful in regards to your present situation. I also invite you to revisit your 21 day challenge post thread, if you didn't complete the challenge before, it can be an enlightening experience and you'll learn something significant about yourself.

Good Vibes to You!

Thanks Rumel, I'll give those threads a look.

Anyway, did another 10 minutes masturbation before stopping and having an Aneros session. First I was focused on arousal for 30 minutes, and I was fairly aroused. The next approximately  30 minutes was do nothing, but at some point fell half asleep. I actually decided to masturbate again for a couple minutes and that seemed to get things somewhat active again as far as maintaining arousal. Ended after 45 more minutes.

Still not an amazing session, but much more interesting by maintaining arousal better. Plus I tend to get more pleasurable sensations (sometimes) after a session than during, and I get the feeling this will be one of those times things will be more interesting once I sit down for a while.

Wow, I just realized that I originally started that 21 day challenge post in 2014. That was back when I was 20... I've done a lot of growing since then.