Did you eventually let your partner know about Aneros after using it for years?

After a couple of months of using my first Aneros, i told my male partner about it. He was curious, but not super interested. He prefers traditional body to body sex and a very limited use of toys or anything else.

He tried the device once, said he didn't feel much, it was too plasticky and uncomfortable.

In fact, he doesn't really want me using it, thinking it is a substitute for him and sex.

So i use it quietly from time to time when I'm alone. Amazing pleasure, unbelievable, couldn't give it up now. But i also enjoy our traditional sex life a lot! I have also found receiving a tad more pleasurable after Aneros use 😉 (if anyone is interested in trying anal sex with a man or pegging with a woman)

When I ordered my first device, an MGX like device from HIH, I told my wife about it up-front. She had previously massaged and sometimes milked my prostate quite routinely, but we got away from that due to busy schedules, work travel etc. then later kids. While we seldom have sex any more, she does encourage me to do prostate play as she feels its good for my health.

I told my wife from the get go. I don't like having to hide anything. Her response was along the lines of why, what for, how did you decide on this - I explained what I perceived to be health benefits (I have BHP, age 50). I think she was a little surprised. After a few minutes we were on to other topics.

As an aside, my wife and I don't have sex much anymore. (She gets sore).. so this is a way for me to "be happy at home" and not peruse other women outside the home - I did not share this bit of information.

she works nights, I work days so - I have plenty of alone time to use the Aneros, but I also use it when she is home (we are both off weekends).

I've progressed to the point where I have about 20 "orgasms" (dry, clamping, auto f-ing) in a session before I come back to normal. I even did a super-T while she slept next to me. I don't stress over it... if it wakes her up I'll tell her I'm taking care of myself.

she does periodically ask me "how is it going?" And seems to inquire "where does it go". I don't expound much... I keep it clinical... "it goes in the anus".. lol... I tell her my urine stream is strong again, and my prostate feels great... I tell her I hope it's enlargement has slowed, halted or reversed... I've not gone into the pleasure benefits of it yet, but I'm open to telling her if she shows interest. I honestly like the fact that she asks. She even was with me when I purchased lube for it and treated like any other grocery item.

Just bought my self the HelixSyn - arrives today!... looking forward to telling my wife, “thanks dear, no need to get me a Valentines day gift!”