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11/13/2018 9:39 pm
A quote from another thread made me write an answer that would have led too far off topic to post it there. Therefore I decided to start this new thread, wondering how you think about erections since rewiring and whether it made you also have a more slack attitude towards it.
A hardon is a terrible thing to lose.
Really? With rewiring I learned how exciting even teasing my flaccid member can be, without any urge for an erection.
Although I love my rock hard erections seeming to be better now than in teenage years, inbetween I meanwhile find satisfaction in caressing my flaccid penis at least as well if not even more. What makes my sessions so relaxed, compared to the rub-one-outs of earlier years and especially in my late fourties, is in great part that I gave up any chase for an erection. Erections since have rather become an extra gift or a side kick.
Admittedly here is no one around longing for a penetration, 😉 . Otherwise she would have to get accustomed to it like this complaining woman, for whom Suzi Godson had some advice.
Meanwhile the competitive sex (longer, thicker, deeper, harder, faster and for hours), pushed by the porn and drug industry, sexualization of commercials and movies and even all these mostly stupid sex talkshows, reports, guides and advisors, seems so anachronistic to me.
I just watched Serena's orgasm challenge at hegre, her having twentytwo orgasms in 58 minutes, while having myself even some more dry orgasms, sometimes hard, sometimes semihard, sometimes flaccid but at a high arousal level all the time.
When you ever saw a stallion pulling out after having covered a mare, you too will smirk at women's wishes for a horse's stamina, it indeed would only last around two to four seconds after entering. Ha!
Endless self love is no longer the privilege of women. I've already found my own male realm of bliss, as examples a peaceful flow of precum from the tip of a flaccid penis while most gently massaged at its frenulum - only recently known as the male clit - or from a tool in my rectum massaging my p-spot or from my mind envisioning all this together donating me Aless SuperOs.
Don't any longer take erections too seriously or important, in no case as a terrible thing to lose, avoid competitive sex, instead have fun and deeply enjoy even teasing your flaccid member and good vibes!
Don't take my post with a pinch of salt. Perhaps my gland even took over typing? :p
Mart
11/13/2018 10:03 pm
Im at a point now where I only want my penis touched in order to build my prostate and arousal. If I lose my erection that doesnt mean Im not aroused.
11/14/2018 8:08 am
@SOwithoutAneros At one time, pre Aneros, my only outlet was the traditional method so an erection was essential. Having discovered the deep pleasure afforded by the prostate I enjoy extended periods of play that were not possible for me during normal masturbation. During an Aneros session my erections come and go but it matters not to the enjoyment really. Eventually after a spell of SR I can relish the thought of maybe an edging session and a satisfying release. How wonderful to have discovered that we can enjoy alternative methods of pleasure. I have not yet been able to bring any pleasure from a flaccid member as it does not remain in that state long enough once I begin to apply any stimulation :p
11/14/2018 9:40 am
I’ve been on the Aneros journey off and on for about two years with limited success until just recently with the realization that I’ve been too focused on a lifetime of experience finding sexual release through ejaculation brought on by an erect penis. The breakthrough for me came during my Rewiring and I began to resist my instinct to “push” through to orgasm, be they wet or dry. Instead I began to allow the pleasurable sensations to “pull” me along to wherever they may lead. Even as I type this, I feel my prostate quivering a bit asking for more. But to the point of erection or no erection, it’s a definite pleasure to be rock hard, but not a prerequisite to these new found feelings of Ectasy in multiple erogenous zones of my body.
11/14/2018 9:58 am
@SOwithoutAneros Thank you for being man enough and comfortable enough in your own skin to bear your rewired masculine soul like you did in this thread. Your post is a masterpiece.
We men ARE our dicks and pleasure is the name is the game for every dick on the planet, be it a hard dick or a flaccid dick.
You rock Mart. Keep leading the way with your new discoveries in pleasure play of the almighty dick and your generous sharing those pleasures and discoveries here. You are much appreciated.
11/14/2018 10:41 am
Hey guys! I like your casual attitude about erections. Sexuality is so much more, for sure.:D
11/14/2018 9:47 pm
Since I apparently was the cause of this storm, I need to explain. When I have an excellent ride part of the process is a rock hard erection, which throbs during my orgasms. It is an integral part of MY pleasure. If my erection goes away, the intensity of what I feel does as well. I'm not sure if others have similar experience, but it is mine. So when I said a hard on is terrible thing to lose, in my case that is the point. And rolling on my stomach did just that. (It also wiped most of the precum off my stomach that I use to lubricate my nipples, but that's another story.) When I rolled on my back again, Mr. Happy came back to life again. Making me happy. My erection is an integral part of my arousal, sort of like raising the flag. I was just commenting on what seemed to be a panacea that being on one's stomach is surely a pathway to success. I was merely pointing out that is not for everyone.
So I guess Aneros has changed my attitude toward erections: they are an essential part of the process TO ME.
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11/15/2018 7:10 am
Oh sorry, @simeonh, no offense, never mind, my thread wasn‘t meant to bother you to explain yourself. I fully accept your atitude. Earlier in my journey I would have been fully on your page. But while my first two years have been about separation of orgasm from ejaculation, now I experience more often a separation between orgasm and even erection. This I wanted to share to spread the word against the predominace of erection and penetration in the current world of sex.
Btw, if you ever had experienced a storm in this forum you wouldn‘t have estimated the six posts before as hardly a calm breeze. I apologize if it felt for you the other way. Please only take this thread as a collection of other opinions of individuals at their very own state in their very unique journey. Perhaps someday you will remember this thread when beginning to experience your first prostate orgasms independent from an erection.
Many thanks to all the other posters too for so frankly sharing your thoughts and good vibes to you all, Mart
11/15/2018 9:56 am
This is a most interesting thread. To the extent one has a partner who desires penetration, well then erections are very important. However, in the case of say a sexless marriage, or in the case of a marriage where the woman - say due to menopausal dryness - does not want penetration but is keen on other forms of sex such as oral - well, then erections are not so important. For me, prostate play and aneros use encourages erotic play without erections - it allows me to have a lot of fun and pleasure while soft. I would strongly recommend aneros use for guys with ED. In some cases it might help you to overcome ED. In other cases it will help you enjoy in spite of ED.
11/15/2018 10:58 am
Most likely has changed my attitude somewhat towards erections as I do not masterbate as often and when I do, am able to do it semi erect with great results and orgasms. During a session do find myself going from hard to soft to semi hard many times with lots
of good pleasurable sensations in the head!
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11/15/2018 1:08 pm
@wetdream63 and @fred27, thanks for your posts. From my point of view thinking in only two categories I indeed find a bit too simple. Let us not ignore the lots of women and even men enjoying penetrative sex from time to time but not at the frequency their partner would like. Having fun with a limp member could add so much closeness to their sexuality, if they only knew about.
11/15/2018 3:58 pm
I appreciate wetdream’s perspectives as my wife and I are at the season of life when we both need to find more creative means to find sexual fulfillment fulfillment.
11/15/2018 6:21 pm
Did Aneros use change your attitude towards erections?
In a word, YES, most definitely. My entire perspective about male sexuality has been altered due to the Aneros Journey. This journey has prodded me to open my mind to wider possibilities than I had heretofore entertained. While sensuality has always been an important aspect of my life, Aneros use has managed to blur the line between sensuality and sexuality. At times when I am in the rapture of an Anerosession (an erotic meditation) sexual activity may not be present at all in my thoughts and thus an erection is immaterial. Prior to my Aneros usage this thought condition had never occurred to me as I had been identifying my sexuality in terms of my penis only. The Aneros journey has greatly expanded my sensual awareness, making orgasms (of all sizes and types) accessible to a greater extent than I had previously believed possible, even to the exclusion of an erect penis.
Good Vibes to You ! 
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11/16/2018 10:46 am
In a word, YES, most definitely. ... The Aneros journey has greatly expanded my sensual awareness, making orgasms (of all sizes and types) accessible to a greater extent than I had previously believed possible, even to the exclusion of an erect penis.
Affirmative! @rumel, thank you for your input, presenting us the quintessence in a nutshell.
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