Bedtime Pleasures

After my successful session from last night, I was eager to try another session today. I wanted to recreate as much as I could to have success. I had about an hour of free time and although it wasn’t bedtime, I went through the same process. I decided to try the MGX this time, instead of the Helix. I put on my sleep shorts and climbed in under the covers.

The sensations were a little different, but I could tell something intense was starting to build. At one point, I could feel an electrical pleasure move into my upper body and flow through my breast area. It was only a mini jolt of pleasure (possibly a mini O), but I could finally understand how this feeling could take over and blossom into a full-body orgasm.

This was definitely a better pleasure than I have ever felt and at this point, I know that I am in the path to some beautiful, explosive orgasms. Unfortunately, I did have to get up after an hour and I wasn’t able to enjoy this for longer. I am so happy to have reached this next tier of the journey and I can’t wait to see what is next for me!

I’ve read a few times on the forum about ppl going to bed with the aneros in. Guess you can’t have expectations of your asleep! 

The pool sessions sound great,wish I could do that,we haven’t got the weather for pools in the U.K. really. Although if you like the shower,this is the place to be seen 😉

When is the wife back? Are you getting any more sessions in? 

Ugh! Well, after taking 2 good steps forward, I had a dud session today and took 1 step backwards. Prostate play can be an incredibly humbling experience. I tried again with the Helix, but was not able to produce the same pleasurable feelings of the past two days. I keep trying to figure out what I could have done better, but I probably need to forget about it, have a restful weekend, and come back at it next week.

@7sdoor

Posted by: @7sdoor

I keep trying to figure out what I could have done better [...]

That's only productive if there was in fact something else you could have done, unless there's something really obvious (most of the times, there's something I *shouldn't* have done...) that you can work on fixing the next time, then your other plan is the best way to go, continue moving forward and don't worry about that dud. 

Thanks @zentai!

The only thing I can think of is that today, I listened to some erotica, whereas in my previous successful sessions, I had no erotic audio/visual distractions and could focus more on the pleasure. I also think I was in more of a restless mindset today, but sometimes it can be hard to do anything about that.

Posted by: @7sdoor

I keep trying to figure out what I could have done better

The Car and the Balloon: a helpful metaphor

…realizing you’re not in control doesn’t guarantee any particular response, but trying to control things will hinder responses, whatever yours may be…

Go by balloon.  And read the linked post.

Stay calm, and Aneros on

Thanks @helical! The Car and the Balloon metaphor is beautiful and spot on.

I think Aneros play is somewhat cyclical in its nature. On Tuesday night, I had no expectations. All I knew is that I wanted to sleep with my Aneros. I inserted the Helix, got in bed, and turned on some golf on the TV. I mean, golf? I clearly wasn’t trying too hard to force pleasure. Within minutes, I was starting to feel pleasure waves.

However, after a few good sessions, you get excited and it is only natural to want to reproduce those feelings...here’s where the expectations and the dud session comes rushing back.

Then, you have a few bad sessions, are feeling lost and confused, and as a result, the next session, you don’t overthink it, you don’t even have the confidence to produce good feelings, and thus, you don’t have expectations...that’s usually when I have my best sessions...haha! And the cycle continues...

The difficult part is that I know, full well, that I shouldn’t have expectations in a session...but managing the emotional component and executing the “no expectations” is where I run into trouble. 

@7sdoor

There will always be a little expecting..Not sure you can drown it out completely. We do have a goal in mind after all.

Some cool things happen,take them and not worry about things that went wrong. Things don’t go wrong in this game,they just don’t always happen when we want them to 🙂

Posted by: @helghast

There will always be a little expecting..Not sure you can drown it out completely. We do have a goal in mind after all.

Not having expectations is one of the most difficult things about this practice, especially at the beginning of the journey.

I have a trick to avoid having too many expectations for a session, especially if the previous session was an exceptional one.

Instead of expecting to have amazing orgasms again, I ask myself if there will be new sensations during the session.
Just that, new sensations.

Posted by: @helghast

@7sdoor

There will always be a little expecting..Not sure you can drown it out completely. We do have a goal in mind after all.

Some cool things happen,take them and not worry about things that went wrong. Things don’t go wrong in this game,they just don’t always happen when we want them to 🙂

 

@helghast

Yeah, you’re right, we can’t completely get rid of expectations...maybe just take away the emotional component where we aren’t disappointed when something doesn’t happen.

I love the way you put this that “things don’t go wrong...”, it’s definitely a good reminder that we are not in control.

Posted by: @morexp

Posted by: @helghast

There will always be a little expecting..Not sure you can drown it out completely. We do have a goal in mind after all.

Not having expectations is one of the most difficult things about this practice, especially at the beginning of the journey.

I have a trick to avoid having too many expectations for a session, especially if the previous session was an exceptional one.

Instead of expecting to have amazing orgasms again, I ask myself if there will be new sensations during the session.
Just that, new sensations.

@morexp

I like this trick! Especially because the new sensations are what are really exciting! Expected pleasure is nice (like a traditional ejaculation), but the new feeling that you have never felt is thrilling and is the thing you keep thinking about hours after your session is done. I will definitely have to employ this next time.

@7sdoor

I find it amazing that the sessions can bring us new sensations even after many years. I started this journey almost two years ago now, with about two sessions a week and I am still amazed by new sensations.
It is almost magical!