Aneros vs heavy porn use

The producers of pornography are constantly looking for ways to titillate their intended audience. As these novel sexual practices become absorbed into the normally-accepted category of sexual behavior, the producers must come up with new and sometimes shocking ways to stay ahead of the game.

Personally, I'm turned off by porn (I find it phony and at the same time degrading), but if that's what gets you aroused, go for it! Please read the thread Thats it .. Im done with Aneros ... in the forum -- especially the post from Pan regarding the use of fantasizing. If you use the porn to get aroused and if you can build on that arousal, it should help your sessions tremendously. I'm finding this process begins in the mind; it's not something the body can create independently. As the mind continues up the arousal ladder, the body will respond in a similar manner...and that's when the magic starts.

slipperybugger

I've had my best sessions without the use of porn. For me, it's a distraction. The more relaxed and meditative with the aneros the better. Porn takes me away from that state of mind.

I don't recall where I read it, but I once saw an article that claimed watching porn habitually tends to lower testosterone levels in men, while enjoying frequent sexual fantasies actually raises them. I'm inclined to believe that's how the law of diminishing returns applies to watching hard-core porn. It seems the more one relies on it, the less impact it has until a new level of stimulation is introduced (specific fetishes, etc).

On the other hand, I find that fantasizing is more akin to a skill which improves through regular practice. Much like meditation or self-hypnosis.

Now I certainly agree that the vast majority of adult entertainment is, well, frankly disgusting, and frequently racist, degrading to women, and all-around unhealthy for most viewers, especially those who are not old enough to understand what they're being exposed to.

Despite all this, I am not against pornography as a tool. Quite the contrary. I believe that pornography has incredible potential to benefit society if only even a small percentage of the industry would invest in it as a conduit for gravely needed education and positive change rather than quick profit at any cost.

I remember not long ago, someone linked a short video in this forum of a man who was enjoying a wonderful series of Super-O's while his girlfriend tenderly gave him oral pleasure. It was sexy, it was sweet, and it was certainly mind-blowing for anyone who had never experienced or witnessed The Super-O. Sadly, it was also discovered that he was using a device that was not the Aneros, but a cheap imitation, and the video (understandably) had to be removed from the forum. However, I have yet to see any video examples of Aneros use as close to my own experiences before or since.

For just a few glorious days, myself and other veterans of this forum, could simply point to that video and say, "THAT is the Super-O. THAT is how it feels." For once, we didn't have to attempt to describe in lengthy posts what could plainly be understood, at a much deeper level, simply by watching a few minutes of a grainy web cam video posted by some random amateur blogger.

Imagine how much more could be done for this community and so many others if just one, well-funded adult entertainment company took a chance and focused on the most positive and beautiful aspects of human sexuality - love, joy, tenderness, genuine bliss and mutual ecstasy. Not to mention all of the new and unique practices that most people are not even aware of - Tantra, KSMO, The Aneros, Male Multiple Orgasm, Prostatic Orgasm, mutual, extended, simultaneous, shared orgasmic ecstasy between caring partners. Imagine the impact on marriages and relationships around the world if such videos were suddenly available to rent - Netlfix style! 😀

Dictionary.com defines pornography as: Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal.

How much of the world's art, literature, and even religious artifacts and temples met this criteria long before cameras existed?

Hello! http://www.kamat.com/kalranga/erotica/khaju.htm 😯

Hasn't Western pornography's obsession with "sin" and "rebellion" grown a little stale? Can we finally start exploring the more useful and heaven forbid, spiritual aspects of pornography?

Just a thought. 😉

What a fantastic post Pan!

While my viewing and use of pornography has decreased tremendously since I started getting serious with my usage of the Aneros prostate massager's. I've found over the years that my tastes in visual pornography has gone almost entirely into user created and submitted work. Because it's real and generally done between two loving people that want to do it, and it shows in the pictures and videos. To me I can obviously see that the "professional" porn stars in most cases are just making an act, a faking of what should be real and heartfelt.

Now that doesn't mean that I don't look at some commercial porn now and then. But generally I find that it just seems so fake, and forced so to speak. The arousal comes more from the shock value of the act rather than the excitement and love between the people involved.

So yes, I agree with you that the porn industry could use a breathe of fresh air in terms of using spirituality, love, and even education in the creation of their product(s). But I don't think that it will come from the companies that are already in place. And I wonder how well it would be received here in the USA with the often stodgy and uptight attitudes about sex, sexuality, and the education of it. Perhaps someone already has taken this approach and we just don't know about it yet because it is so not main stream.

That's my 2 cents. 🙂

Love_is

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bluegrass501,

I think your opening sentence – “The more you look at porn, the more you want to look at it, and the more/more exotic or hard core it takes to achieve excitement for a normal masturbation session.” - is probably true for many individuals but certainly not all. I think pornography, like most forms of stimulation, becomes numbing to the senses over time and it is probably also true that to obtain the same level of stimulative effect more exotic/bizarre/fetish depictions are necessary. Even these eventually lose their appeal as desensitization sets in, the pornography just becomes more background noise than main feature material.
“How does this process affect the use of one of these Aneros devices?” IMHO, Heightening one’s arousal level is a key element in the path to the Super-O. Pornography can be one aspect of the tools you use to elevate your arousal levels but it is not a necessary tool. Pornography (I’m assuming you mean video depictions here) may also be a distraction, it can take focus away from the inner sensations which build and lead one to the Super-O. While watching video your mind is occupied with interpreting and processing those images on both a conscious and subconscious level, this may help the arousal amplification but it also diverts mental energy away from the mind sensing the body’s own inner processes.
“Will it cause the 'quest' to be more or less successful?” For some men, watching porn seems to help them, for others it is a hindrance. I don’t think it (pornography) ‘causes’ anything, at least not anymore than other potential tools in the Aneros users tool box.

‘Pan’,

Thank you for your great post into this thread. I completely agree with your thoughts here and your advice to ‘slipperybugger’ regarding the use of fantasy – “That's why I prefer the fantasy approach, because it puts all of one's attention on whatever is most pleasurable and arousing to that person. As long as that is your primary focus, you're virtually guaranteed to at least enjoy your session and it leaves more room for those new pleasures to "sneak up" behind you.” IMHO, one’s imagination is markedly more powerful at arousal than pornography and it is much less expensive too! Soft core pornography abounds on the major cable TV networks and it is there for one simple reason, people enjoy it! Unfortunately, most of those shows are poorly acted and with unrealistically contrived plots. One of the best series of shows I’ve enjoyed watching over the years is HBO’s documentary series ‘REAL SEX’, it has been a thoroughly delightful, entertaining, educational and arousing series with real people engaged in real sex, all presented with a lighthearted, non-judgmental attitude.

Hi Rumel, 🙂

I'll second the recommendation to watch "Real Sex". I watched it many years ago when I had HBO, and thoroughly enjoyed the program. It's done in a very professional and educational manner. Unfortunately I don't sit in front of the TV enough to justify paying for it. Perhaps someday if they ever allow people to pay for only the TV channels they want to watch.

Love_is