2023 Semen retention for Lent

I just discovered recently that the Mindgasm 30-day Challenge from November is still up!  I've had enough people tell me that I need to do it, perhaps that's the way I can get better at doing kegels regularly.  Also it should provide good encouragement for the entire 40 days I hope!  It is almost like a daily devotional, for prostate pleasure. 🙂

It's Fat Tuesday guys, I hope this has been on some of you guys' radar.  I haven't ejaculated for two weeks, I'm planning to clear the pipes tonight in preparation for Lent, it starts tomorrow!  I have to say that in the last few weeks I've had some pretty good Sessions and have been working on the Aless a bit.  I'm excited to see what the Mindgasm program can do in that department; having that daily encouragement could be a good foundation.  I recently did a 21-day (food) fast and was practicing semen retention at the same time.  Obviously I didn't make it with the SR, I gave myself a cheat day right in the middle since I'd already blown it.  I think it's important to not be judgemental about it but just take it as it comes.  Last year I had so much going on in my life that I decided it was unhealthy to let the pressure build up and I needed to blow off some steam.  This year I'm in a better spot mentally and emotionally, with fewer stressors. 

I haven't had as much enthusiasm (at least publicly) but I do hope that some of you are on-board here.  Lent starts tomorrow and I hope you'll be joining me!

Have been doing semen retention tor some time now as I rarely masturbate. Find that when I succumb the orgasm is totally over the top! So much more enjoyable to enjoy the pleasure from the prostate generated from my HSV! Other times I enjoy Aless doing Kegels. Good luck and enjoy the journey!!

@fred27 Kegels and any other sort of exercise are hard for me.  Hopefully Mindgasm will help.  The original link isn't working anymore but I found it again here.  Do you do any JOI audios?  I'm a really big fan of Eve's Garden and even though she's very penis-focused I think for something like plain-old masturbation I've really enjoyed this one.  You can find others that are free though!  I've never had the self-control to edge myself reliably so I don't think I'll be doing much penis-touching at all during Lent; it's the only way I was able to make it through 2 years ago.

Alright last ejaculation in the tube.  There is something that feels very powerful to me about choosing just when you're going to ejaculate.  I don't do it often enough, I'm usually just trying to edge and things get a little out of hand, and then when it's over I feel a bit disappointed in myself.  This time, I don't.  It's empowering. 

EJACULATION LOG 2023

01/02
01/03
01/12
01/31

02/07
02/21 (Fat Tuesday)

I suppose you could count the last 40 days as a sort of practice, I only ejaculated twice and I did try to space them out.  Anyway I'll see everyone April 9th.  I hope some of you will be joining me! 

I plan to take the semen retention challenge for Lent!

@grahamsh Happy to have you with me! 🙂  I suggest you check out the Mindgasm site for daily encouragement and pelvic floor training.  I've been doing it for the last few days and this seems like the perfect time.  I'm really grateful that they're keeping their page up even if it's past November. 

I am actually in the process of moving soon and where I'll be staying for the next few weeks, I don't think they'll necessarily approve of my history on their internet connection (this site, for instance).  I will be a bit incommunicado for at least a couple weeks.  Keep the faith, everyone!

When my wife and I got married many years ago, we agreed that we would abstain from sex of any kind during Lent.  We are both devout liberal Christians, different denominations [hers is RC which is conservative, but she is a 'cafeteria catholic', while I am Anglican / Episcopalian.  We did not feel in any way obliged to abstain - but wanted to do this.  I argued that the 40 days of Lent does not include Sundays, that each Sunday is a mini-Easter, and thus abstaining does not apply on Sundays - just as every Friday can be considered a day of abstaining [from meat,candy, alcohol, sex take your pic].  She said my approach would be fine for say a couple who had sex daily, but for us it really would not be giving anything up since we only had sex once a week at the most.  I replied that the big give up would be masturbation.  At any rate we agreed to her approach and gave up all forms of sex - including masturbation - for the entire period of Lent.

It is a difficult practice, but most enlightening.  

In my case, it got me back into experiencing wet dreams.

Once we were done having kids, it led to a discussion about embracing a sexless marriage which has worked very well for us.

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Once we were done having kids, it led to a discussion about embracing a sexless marriage which has worked very well for us.

Wow! I never thought anyone would engage in a sexless marriage willingly without medical or physical ailments.  In most cases (mine included) it's 'willingly' by one member only.

@faith-manages I am curious, does your No orgasm for lent apply only to penile orgasms? Also does it preclude edging without orgasm?

Apologies gents, I've been traveling and unable to connect here, but I'm back, for a bit at least.  A while ago I set up an email account to deal with Aneros matters, I don't necessarily want to publish it openly but if you want to keep in touch I'd be more than happy to share in a DM. 

@rockwellcollinshf2050 thanks for sharing.  If it works for you then I can't judge but doesn't sound like a marriage I'd want myself. 

I'm a big fan of the idea of devotional sex--the idea through this entire thing shouldn't be to give up orgasms but to give up ejaculations!  The whole idea of Aneros practice is built upon this premise, as there are many ways to have orgasms and ultimately we're trying to be able to have one after another: MMO.  Right?  So to answer your question @orgasmic No, abstaining from ejaculations would not include abstaining from edging or any other penis-related pleasurable activities.  I will say though that for my own personal experience edging can be a slippery slope because I'm not that good at it.  This commitment is important to me so I don't want to risk it, especially as that's what happened last year. 

Outside of my Lenten sacrifice, I think so many of my ejaculations happen not because they're planned, but because I get to the point of no return too quickly without knowing it, and there's no conscious decision to orgasm, it just happens too fast.  There is that sense that I "failed" which I'm trying to get over, but for me it's more that I allowed myself to "fall into" ejaculation instead of making a conscious premeditated decision to ejaculate.  I never really saw the point of JOI audios before but I suppose they can help me learn to edge much more efficiently and it's not like I'll be listening to any of them on a daily basis--I'm not 15 anymore after all.  Though speaking of that...I am definitely waking up with raging hard-ons nearly every morning and that makes me happy. 

If you guys haven't read Love Satisfies by Keepitup Johnson I'd say it's worthwhile and his personal philosophy is definitely simpatico with my own.  It is definitely more penile-centric, but a good foundation.  Mindgasm would seem to be the other side of the spectrum and that's what I've been trying to follow this time around.  The 30-day challenge they have is a great program--I don't work out so it's hard to stay with it.  I'm glad I have 40 days to work with instead of 30!  The way they explain things is very understandable in a way that the Aneros wiki has not been, but they are going after the same things.  There's definitely been progress there.  And besides that I've been making some fantastic strides with Anerosessions so the benefits are tremendous.  I think the Kegel exercises might have made the difference there.  I hope that you guys reading this will find it encouraging.  Easter is less than three weeks away, you can make it! 

It's cool to hear from you ! 

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The way they explain things is very understandable in a way that the Aneros wiki has not been, but they are going after the same things.

In my opinion, what Mindgasm is doing really well is getting people to mimic invols (or at least what they feel like for me), and to explore different speeds and patterns of contractions. They managed to capture the flow of contractions and how things move "down there".

On the other hand, the Wiki covers a lot of ground that MG barely talks about. I agree that in the end, you should arrive at the same destination using both approaches, assuming that you connect with the material.   

Less than a week left.  I have to say that the Mindgasm program is really good for getting me to ignore my penis, which I personally need as edging just won't work for me here.  If only I could team up with them and have them expand their NNN to make 40 days of Lent!  Maybe someday.  I still hate exercise and there have been multiple days where I'm just too busy to get around to the daily practice regimen though so I might juuuuuust make it to day 30 by next Sunday, if I can manage to keep up--they expect progress pretty quickly! 

How are you guys doing?  I hope anyone that wanted to try this out with me is still keeping the faith, but I understand how hard it can be.  I don't blame anyone for not completing this, I'm just happy that you were willing to try.  Honestly I've not been sleeping that well for a while so I'm often too tired to be horny.  Today/yesterday are the first days in a while where I've been consistently feeling some good sensations in my prostate and easy erections at random times of the day.  And the thing is I'm so fucking tired...but I've woken up in the middle of the night the for two days straight and had some wonderful Anerosessions as well as some great Aless.  All day so far I've felt filled with sexual energy which keeps me sustained.  I think the final week leading up to Easter is going to be one of incredibly pleasurable sensations. 

In previous years I and others have talked about sexual energy and noticing women flirting with you more.  I had a doctor's checkup today and the (lady) doctor was I think enjoying the checkup, certainly her hands lingered a bit here and there, not unprofessionally but certainly more affectionate than I was expecting.  I'm not often touched by women and was enjoying it myself.  I'd be interested to hear all you guys' stories if you have any! 

Well anyway I made it.  I feel a lot different now...