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I know I'm probably going to be attacked and crucified by the Cult of Aneros, but I bought into the hype and don't understand any of it.

 

I've had a Syn Trident for almost a week now, and I've tried at least once a day to feel something, anything. I've read all the documentation and followed all the advice i could find, but no matter what I do it still feels like a hard chunk of plastic in my ass. I feel nothing but the general discomfort of having something in your body thats not supposed to be there.

 

No pleasure of any kind, nothing approaching a good sensation. I feel like it feels better to NOT use it. I hope Aneros actually stands by their refund policy.


   
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@benjiw

After reading your assessment of the Aneros ‘cult' I'm still going to bid you a warm welcome to this site and to our valued world. No, it's not a ‘cult' and given a chance it does work; I do know first hand.  To be fair, a huge number of forum members have gone out of their way to help new users take off and progress in their journey. Not many of them want to waste their time if they did not believe or even experienced what this product is capable of providing. 

I believe you did read some things but possibly not the most important notifications repeated numerous times on the site. It takes time for your body and mind to accept such fundamental changes, colossal steps out of paradigms and one week is most likely not enough time. There's also a few statements about expectations which obviously the product failed to deliver on yours.

It could be that prostate play is not meant for you but you'll never know by sending back your massager. If I remember right, it took me more than several attempts to ride my bicycle as a kid. In the process, I suffered a few scratches and scrapes not to mention my heavily bruised ego.  I ended up keeping my bike and got to enjoy it for several years.

I suggest you give more time and benefit from the health advantages if not the pleasures.

Good luck and good vibes to you..


   
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First off I would assume from your reaction that you have had little or no experience with anal play?  Then it's probably going to take longer than a week to get anywhere, and I would encourage you to take it slow, lose your expectations, and try to treat this as a sensory journey.  Since you mentioned Aneros' refund policy, you should already be aware that you have 90 days to return it.  So why not give it a couple months before passing judgement? 


   
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@faith-manages

 

I've been experimenting will all sorts of prostate massagers and dildos for months and haven't had a single sensation other than discomfort. I was hoping with an Aneros I would feel at least something.

 


   
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@benjiw, give it a chance and try to stick with it. Over time, many felt the same way you do when beginning their rewiring journey.
Try to tone down your expectations and keep in mind that rewiring of the brain can take a long time. Some are lucky to hit the ultimate level right out of the gate and other are still working on it after several years. I'm one whom has been at it for just under 5 years with no Super-Os yet but I get GREAT sensations in every sessions! Every day, these sensations get better and better.

One step at a time and don't hesitate to ask questions; there's no judging here.

 


   
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Posted by: @benjiw

I know I'm probably going to be attacked and crucified by the Cult of Aneros, but I bought into the hype and don't understand any of it.

I don't think you are going to be attacked for admitting you are having difficulty adjusting to Aneros use. I don't consider myself a cult member but I am an advocate of open minded, patient evaluation of any new experience. Certainly prostate massage falls under that category. I invite you to read my Introductory Message to New Members which has a few hints and tips to facilitate your learning journey with the Aneros.

Yes there is a lot of hype and myths surrounding this activity but that doesn't mean it is all a hoax.

There are many reasons why men have initial difficulty with successful Aneros use (please see this early archived post (#10) from member 'Trojan' for an essential insight into one possible problem). In the post Identifying Obstacles to Progress there are other aspects which you may need to evaluate as well. Some solutions are offered in the thread Identifying Facilitators to Progress.

Posted by: @benjiw

I've had a Syn Trident for almost a week now, and I've tried at least once a day to feel something, anything. I've read all the documentation and followed all the advice i could find, but no matter what I do it still feels like a hard chunk of plastic in my ass. I feel nothing but the general discomfort of having something in your body thats not supposed to be there.

As others have noted, a weeks time is really insufficient to see significant progress learning about this intimate process. Thye learning journey is more a mental process than a physical process. Please see @rook 's thread Whole Body/Whole Mind - the mental side & @SteelColdiron 's thread Aneros: The Essential Mind State for a little insight. It might also help you to read @Neros 's post The truth behind how to "rewire".

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No pleasure of any kind, nothing approaching a good sensation. I feel like it feels better to NOT use it. I hope Aneros actually stands by their refund policy.

I believe Aneros will stand behind their guarantee but I hope you will take some additional time to read the above linked information, take it to heart and alter your attitudinal approach. Please be patient with yourself and drop any expectations so you can truly attune yourself to what your body is capable of providing you.

Good Vibes to You!

 


   
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@benjiw I was just as skeptical too when I began my journey over a decade ago.  As Rumel points out, It really is as much a mental drill as it is a physical one. When the two come together is when the real magic happens....something that doesn’t come easy for all of us, frankly, most of us as detailed in the threads of those who have thankfully shared their insights and best practices for us to learn from. Not to discourage you, but I’ve been an Aneros rider for over a decade and have had two experiences that culminated into what drove me to the elusive and blissful super o.  I’ve had some great orgasms mind you along the way, and have learned so much about how my mind and body are intrinsically connected.  Maybe  just give yourself some more time to let it play out and get more in tune with where it’s headed. It is definitely a marathon and not a sprint for the majority of guys out there. Best of luck to you!


   
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Posted by: @benjiw

I know I'm probably going to be attacked and crucified by the Cult of Aneros,

Hey Benji (@BenjiW),

as you can read from the answers before, at least the succesful use of Aneros tools doesn't make anyone as aggressive as you thought you knew. I too can only agree with my previous posters and recommend to stick to your stick, you might win a blissful experience, IF, yes if first and foremost you can cope with the challenge to deny yourself any expectations, because the clue behind it all is, there's nothing you could at all be able to expect, because it's too different from anything else you ever have experienced or even were able to imagine. And escpecially those wrong expectations are the biggest hurdle to take on the journey, not the run to something even better than you thought you could imagine.

This morning again my newest session told me the best is yet to come, even after more than four years of blissful experiences now, and still one by one often beating the latest. Good vibes!

Mart


   
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I think unless you are a natural it is better to think of the aneros as a session enhancer than an inherent source of pleasure like stroking your cock or pornography, but something that can change or amplify the pleasure you already have. There are many sessions that dont quite work out properly for me in the aneros prostate pleasure relaxation kind of way many describe, but that does not mean I can't enjoy anyway, using imagination and nipple and trusting can feel quite nice and many of my sessions do "devolve" into that if I dont feel like I'm getting further that night, might as well enjoy myself. Even just regular masturbation can be quite enhanced by aneros use, though I dont know if this is a general anal thing, but holding a contraction you can last quite a lot longer, and also feel sensitive in a different way. Nipple pleasure is definitely something worth exploring even if you dont feel much at first, it's a great way to take your dick out of it and in my opinion the pleasure of nipple play is much more arousing.


   
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@benjiw Which model do you have? Some models are better for beginners.

Do you have a safe space that is warm enough where you won't be overheard or disturbed for a few hours? I find it's what is going on in my head  which gives me my best sessions. There were some recordings that a user called Brine made that gives an insight into a good session. I don't know if they are available. Is there anywhere on the site where they could be stored?

If all else fails have you tried a conventional masturbation session with the device in place as suggested above.


   
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@ggringo When i first using the Aneros years ago it took me few months and 2-3 times per week or so before i started getting the pleasure feeling. For some of us it takes time to rewire the brain. I seen so many quit after few sessions or even a month because they got no results. Maybe some cant idk.

 


   
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Posted by: @fister81

@ggringo When i first using the Aneros years ago it took me few months and 2-3 times per week or so before i started getting the pleasure feeling. For some of us it takes time to rewire the brain. I seen so many quit after few sessions or even a month because they got no results. Maybe some cant idk.

 

@fister81, we have the same story coming out of the gate; 2-3 times per week, pleasure waves slow to develop and we then realize that, in many cases, it take time to get notable results.  Unfortunately, you're right, frustration sets in for many and consequently they throw in the towel before experiencing some or all of the benefits. 

 

A member friend of mine recently pointed out that we are (I certainly am) addicted to prostate play!  After reflecting on this statement, I realized that this addiction has far more desirable effects than most other addictions such as alcohol, drugs and others.  I really don't mind being addicted to this!

 

As we read often on this site; it's unfortunate that the benefits and possible pleasures of prostate play are not widely broadcasted. 

 


   
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I don't know, I'm here for 6+ years and not graduated onto orgasms.

I still try, I don't let it hold me back.

I just think maybe some of us cant ever feel what @SoWithoutAneros et al feel. Ever. No matter how many Aneros toys we buy or how long we try.

 

I'd love to know if lack of progress with Aneros correlates to something (other than age, which I think gets asked already) - high BMI levels, testosterone levels, estrogen levels, body weight, blood sugar levels, propensity to depression or anxiety, Omega 3 deficiency (anyone remember the former member ZaneBlue?) and so on.


   
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@lonewolf8 Well when i had my first big orgasm with it i was much heavier like 280 lbs at the time. Also diabetic with anxiety and depression. So not sure if i was just lucky or what the requirement is. I guess its the same reason why some woman can squirt with g-spot and some cant. 

 


   
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@Fister81 Interesting! I'm 224 lb, possibly pre-diabetic, doubt I have depression but probably anxiety. Did get a low-normal testosterone test a couple of years ago. Read on reddit that some women struggle with low libido because their testosterone is too low, perhaps this is a possible cause for men and prostate orgasm struggles.


   
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