Sexual Orientation

@wetdream63, wise words!

My marriage evolved into a sexless one - first due to my wife, which I then accepted, but now years later I actually like.

Perhaps our sexless partnership even paved my way to enjoy pure sex with a man. Although I feel love for the man I have sex with, I'd never had the wish to live with a man. My wishful thinking is having sex like going to the gym, perhaps even at the gym, in the locker room or in the showers. Then kiss and good-bye and dinner and perhaps more sex, if she likes, at home with the beloved woman, who perhaps had some fun with her girl-friends at her gym or elsewhere. Imagine! 🙂

I rather side with @Guest's thoughts.

Musings from the old guy:

Having lived years-long, heterosexual relationships and sampled months-long MoM sex (with some feeliings resembling "love.") it's tempting to say I'm Bi-something. However, I seem to be more attracted by what I see as the potential for a monogamous relationship. (tags would include things like, "depth of core warmth.")

Perhaps our multiple polls that have ignored some gradation or variety that needs either labelling or description.

Interesting thread as it seems to delve into a variety of one-on-one relationships while forgetting the group flings (aka orgies). Assuming you remember the '60s, think back to the parties which had a single fishbowl for car keys to facilitate "wife swappiing."

A yet another possible category are males who desire only the sex-act aspect of the liaison (pleasure without soul). Or, perhaps some form of Platonic thought surrounding the physical act.

Perhaps we need a category closer to a males-only, "On the Down-Low." With, of course, the element of Secrecy.

So, a clear view of the 'multi-dimensional' nature of human relationships may need some, "refinement."

Such a complex thing. I reread this entire threat which inspired me to conclude that some of it is that admiration that men have for their own penises. I never tire watching my own erection regurgitating a fountain of cum. For me watching a male partner do the same is incredibly arousing. Causing his erection to spew his semen is even more exciting. The act of holding a mans rigid cock and feeling it swell and pump semen into my mouth is beyond exciting. I just got erect even thinking about it. Part of what draws me to m-m sex is the "mirror effect" seeing a man experience ecstasy just as I do.

@gnawdol Beautifully written. I got hard just reading it.

Made me rock hard too ! Wish I was doing it right now.

@gnawdol, hard and leaking, you just endanger the continuation of my already three weeks lasting SR. But thank you for the challenge of this horniness. 😎

@wetdream63 : I was astounded reading your take on this, because I think you have described me. I can't call myself bisexual, because the only sexual relationship I have had in my life (besides teenage mutual masturbation) is my wife of 47 years. And yet...I have always enjoyed seeing the male physique and have had many secret crushes thru the years. I came to aneros to "jumpstart" my flailing love life and learned so much more about myself. And also found an outlet for connecting (virtually) with other men, of varied orientations and experiences. It has been good for me and I have enjoyed the virtual relationships that I have been able to form and nurture here. Would I leave my wife for a man? No. Would I be emotionally capable of having an ongoing physical relationship with a man while married? No. If I were not married, would I seek out female or male companionship? The honest answer is: I think I would seek out a man. But at an older age (68) and with the issues that go with it, such a connection would be difficult if not impossible, I think. @gnawdol: Your words are so very true and you have put them down beautifully. Thank you.
@naturalguy : Your words resonate with me.
@SOwithoutAneros : I am, by nature, a romantic, and the idea of casual sex is just not in my mindset. I could speculate how I would react if a man tried to "pick me up"...Maybe the novelty of it would lure me. But I wouldn't seek that out.
This discussion is a lot better than a simple poll, so, @karvec1959 Thank You!!

@Armon-neat, if you only knew how romantic casual sex can be. Even in the public without any obvious intimacy a shy glance sometimes can be more romantic than a whole candle light dinner. 😉

This experience has opened so many insights into the most secret and unrealized corners of my sexuality. Although I am a very sexually open man sometimes it is difficult for me to admit (to myself) what appeals to me and what turns me on. However, I have discovered that at the zenith of an intensely gripping Aneros session, a window is opened into my sexuality that gives me a clear sense of my most private (and kinky) erotic desires.

As I breathe and relax and stimulate my nipples I give my body over to an imaginary force that is capable to giving me incredible pleasure in this marvelous sex organ, my anus. I can feel the tip of my Tempo deep inside me touching that sweet tender spot that sends waves and surges of pulsing pleasure to reverberate in my cock root, make my cock lurch and make my anus contract and release. As I breathe deeply in time to the surges of sweet rapture I try to imagine what that force is and how it is filling my anus with erotic euphoria. Pushing myself into a Zen like state of relaxed body awareness in my mind I welcome the force and urge it to push me higher as I give it permission to enter my opening and take me.

The waves of agonizing ecstasy will then grow to tsunami size and twist my anus in spasms of excruciatingly erotic pleasure. It is at this crescendo that the true source of my pleasure appears to me out of the dark mist of my minds eye; it is the most beautiful erect penis imaginable. I can see it f u c k i ng me with arousing clarity in my imagination. When I see this pulse quickening erection in my anus I will verbalize my desires, loudly and openly urging this glorious cock to f u c k me to the point of orgasmic delirium. The result is like pouring gasoline on an open flame. My Super O goes into overdrive; it is all I can do to cope with the roller coaster orgasms that detonate deep inside my anal canal. My flaccid cock will harden and the precum will pour from my lurching cock head as my body absorbs salvos of orgasmic sensation in seemingly endless chains.

The heights of orgasmic pleasure are like a beacon that illuminates the darkness inside me, magically hidden. It is only when anal orgasm has control of my body and mind that they are coaxed into the daylight for me to see.

Oh, man!! I'm dripping!

@gnawdol, me too. What a wonderful description, what an arousing read. And remembering, as indeed happened after a one and a half hour long thai massage, a similar bliss, eye to eye with that adorable masseur mounting me, seeing all my ecstasy mirrored in his view too and feeling him hitting my best spot with his perfect sized and curved member, until we both clenched in orgasmic climaxes, I know what has paved my way and made my journey so fast. Phew! 😎

This has turned into a very delicious thread. Sexuality is so complicated, or at least it can be. While my romantic sexuality is focused on my wife, my erotic sexuality is very much about men. When I have an aneros or other device in me, it is a man I crave.

This is interesting. I posted this question about a year and a half ago. With the first 50 or so votes the results seemed to be somewhat even across the board. Lately however, the straight votes have been pulling ahead. While not jumping to any conclusions, does that possibly mean that more purely straight guys are starting to open up to the possibilities of prostate massage and/or anal play?
We all know the issues many men have with anal play that prevent them from enjoying the pleasures we know are there waiting for us. Is this starting to change just a tiny bit or am I reading too much into this....
I'd love to hear from some of the guys who have voted recently so we can find out if this might be a happy trend.

I'd too see a happy trend, but not only bounded to the male gender. Even women seem to open up for anal play - like Serena did lately on hegre (NSFW).

I began reading this thread and became hooked as it got progressively more erotic and arousing, leaving me leaking profusely. And then
@SOwithoutAneros , you post a link to Serena. Almost too much to bear. I am well and truly set for a session tonight!

So sorry, @Harper, :p;)

I voted straight but I sure wouldn't want anyone to think that I'm homophobic. I've had gay and bi friends and find them perfectly fine. I just don't find them physically attractive like I do my female friends.

Difficult to say. I would say bi but with a long time male partner. Yet I am very sexual and love that Aneros opened up this amazing new experience for me and I can have deep amazing pleasure from my body in addition to physical love and sex with my partner.

I'm honored to post my story to this thread because so much of what the Anerosian's above have openly and erotically described above is my story, my experience.

I voted bi-curious because I've only had one true homosexual encounter. If you want the entire, detailed, reasons why I'm bi-curious, read on.

I was 13.5 years old as was another boy with whom I had been a long time friend. He was the youngest of four boy's I was the oldest of four boy's. I'm in my 60's so this time frame puts the event in the early 70's. Although the '1960's had happened it was still not cool in my hometown to be gay. Remarkably, this other boy's oldest brother was openly bi-sexual and would proclaim when his parent's were not around that he would fuck with anybody. The older brother got a pass from the community and his friends because he was such a 'stud'. He was the high school star wide receiver. He actually was a high school All American football player his senior year. Of course I was very much aware by this older brother and I was aroused by the site of his male parts. He was also very found of walking around in the early mornings with his bathrobe open, he never wore underwear day or night, and he had a very large set of balls and quite a cock. (he claimed underwear kept his large testicles from freely swinging when he wanted them to swing freely in is pants.) I give you this picture of the eldest brother in my friends family because every sleep over was an exciting event for me and living in this family had to be so erotic for my friend. My friend's parents either did not know that all their boy's were wildly addicted to sex- or they turned a blind eye. My friend was caught up in this free attitude to things sexual; one might wonder how my friend could have avoided these influences.
Thus the event. It was mid-summer and very hot such that both of us were dressed only in our very short cut off jeans. We had just come in from outside and were barefoot as well as somewhat sweating. We went up stairs and in the bathroom I was going to splash my face with cold water and get a drink. I stood up seeing my friend in the mirror very close to me so I turned to face him and without a word he gave me a big hug and began to give me a very poorly done 'French Kiss". I did not even for a brief moment become surprised knowing this friends family situation. I did not resist and returned an equally poor tongue to tongue kiss. He had a rock hard boner I felt easily in the embrace. He also being from the aforementioned family was well equipped with very large penis for 13.5 years old. I think that was perhaps one of the quickest erections I've ever experienced. He motioned to go to my bedroom and I followed without any thought. Becoming naked, our reflections in my mirror over the desk, with my friends dick next my dick, almost made me explode. We continued to kiss and his tongue trusts into my mouth became electric. He and I were in full gyro mode working upon each others genitals. grinding our groins together. This probably only lasted less than five full minutes. My friend said he did not want to "lose it" this way that he wanted to "ram my ass". Before I could again think much at all I was on my stomach and I was being asked to relax so that his large penis would slip up my ass. I could not easily oblige the request my young tight sphincter was not at all sure this would feel very good. He finally got some minor penetration and it did cause a painful spasm that I could not overcome. I requested we switch and see if I could be successful at this new trial of something different in our friendship. I'm not small myself thus we had an equally difficult time with me being able to start "ramming ass". After this was not successful we moved up side by side on the bed.
We again began to vigorously hump each other frontally. It was at this point that I thought for the first time this would not go well in the community when the story of our midday frolic became public. I wanted to call it off and tell my friend I'm not so sure this was a good thing. He began to thrust his tongue into my mouth once again and it caused those electric impulses in my cock that simply could not be ignored. I more or less gave into his lead. He almost demanded that we try to accomplish anal intercourse once again.
I was rolling back over but before I fully did so I noticed my friend had produced a lot of precum. I had no idea at the time what that was although I did know about semen. It was probably the look on my face that my friend noticed so he promptly said something to the extent of 'don't you just love precum' and he began to rub in on his penis producing another large squirt of clear fluid that really coated his dick. The precum made all the difference. I was barely in my stomach for 3-4 thrust when I could feel his dick half way up my ass. I realized I did not have any real discomfort! The immediate notion came to my mind that this might actually be really really fun. He went for a deeper thrust to get fully inserted and that's when my younger brother began to knock on the door.

We never finished. I was nearly caught. My Mother was at the door a few seconds later. I won't go into the lie that we told when we were asked 'what are two doing up here'- but it worked, or my Mother sensed she did not want to know what was really going on.

I think the subject of the very first Gay Experience has been a thread here in forums in the past but I don't seem to be able to locate it easily. It might be interesting to revisit the question.

What's perhaps is more important in this story is not the what happened but why it never happened again. Maybe I'll consider starting a new question: very first gay experience and how did it change you.

JGB - a very wonderful story.

Hi all,

New here, but since I’m married I have to put myself in the Curious category if I were being honest. Recently out to my wife but she isn’t at this point comfortable with me stepping out for Bi action. I’ve had a couple of experiences, but if I were single or otherwise able I’d be active at times although my primary (by far) sexual interest is with females.

Welcome aboard Paul! Same sex interest is extremely common and especially so as men get a little older. Very common for married guys to realize that sex with their wives will taper down as the years tick by. Although in many cases the primary attraction is to women, men are more readily available just for sex and same sex activities are very very erotically satisfying.

Straight and married but I’m attracted to fit hot guys. Ive often fantasized about exchanging oral with handsome dudes. Because I’ll never know what it feels like, it will always hold a mysterious allure

Hi all,

New here, but since I’m married I have to put myself in the Curious category if I were being honest. Recently out to my wife but she isn’t at this point comfortable with me stepping out for Bi action. I’ve had a couple of experiences, but if I were single or otherwise able I’d be active at times although my primary (by far) sexual interest is with females.

I am also recently out to my wife. We are working through what that means for us. I too would be 'active' if we separate and I do not think she will want to have me stepping out to have some 'bi-action'. I do think sex with another man would be very very satisfying. My primary interest is indeed other men. I find it interesting that we humans are all a spectrum of sexual desires and fantasies such that picking an exact categorical place on a poll is difficult. ( def. categorical- unambiguously exact and direct) I want to believe there is a place for our marriage along this spectrum and even though I believe I am really attracted to other men, I can hope to find somewhere along this spectrum of desire to stay married. I do love her very much.

JGB your post moved me. My situation has some similarities, so feel free to contact me if you need to talk about this.

I voted straight, and I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones who've figured out what a treasure trove of pleasure my own ass had in store if only I went looking. I don't remember when I stumbled upon the notion of prostate massage on the internet, but it sounded intriguing that there was a part of me that allegedly felt just as good as my dick to play with. I started with a modest butt plug and quickly realized that the internet was right. A few years later, I heard about Aneros and decided to give it a try. My second time trying it and I was having mind blowing sensations, being hit by wave after wave of intense convulsions! It was a deeply private thing for me at the time, my wife knew I had the Aneros, but I only ever used it when I had the house to myself and no other distractions. Recently, I used it while she watched so that she could see the effect that prostate massage has on me, and then kept it in for some of the best sex we've ever had. Since then, I've started trying out some bigger toys and have discovered that a greater sense of fullness is quite a delight as well, I'm planning on getting a Progasm in the near future. All this being said, and I apologize for the lengthy post, I still find myself attracted solely to women. Just for curiosity's sake, I've tried watching gay porn and it just doesn't excite me. Watching a guy get pegged by a woman though, that gets me rock hard! Hoping I can convince my wife to add that to our repertoire at some point.

I voted straight. Watching a guy get pegged by a woman though, that gets me rock hard! Hoping I can convince my wife to add that to our repertoire at some point.

Hi P-Wave-Rider, already having the Progasm Ice I could recently compare it with my latest purchase what has been a lifelike realistic dildo like this. Not having had or bought such a thing for decades I must admit the engineers have done a great job inbetween. Having warmed him up and applied some lube, grabbing it nearly felt like touching my own member, inciting some very strange fantasies about what I'm going to deal with. Thanks to that wonderful strong suction cup it soon dangled from the shower wall and invited me to take a ride.
As my test result after half an hour of blissful bumping the wall :p I'd never wanna have missed to buy my PI, but considering the filling feeling as well as the awesome teasing of my sphincters, perineum and anal canal by the pronounced head, raised veins and textured balls, this 15 bucks tool did a decent job, I enjoyed to the max. Btw., using a condom gets cleaning up done in a second.
The benefit for you would be, besides enjoying getting accustomed to that size 😮 ("for female beginners":o) in time, that the dildo can be easily attached to a strap-on from the moment you can convince your wife to take the active part. And she can do so full of verve from beginning and must not hold back like with an anal virgin. 😉
Joyful p-wave-riding!
Mart

Hi JGB very sexy the that of sex with a man looks and sounds good but I haven't seen a man that i think looks sexy and I think a lot of men probably lick the look of sex with a man in a porn site but a dick is much bigger than most of the aneros range and for peepal that can only do bottom for various reasons mostly medical?.this post has raised a lot of interesting that's
and pegging is out for me as i am a widow sounds interesting

I'm a newly converted Bi-curious. I've always been curious, but I would never admit that as I was trying to fit into the model 'Heterosexual, good husband/father model'.

I'm 35 and currently in the middle of my midlife crisis, where I'm rethinking everything in my life, and where, for the first time in my life I'm allowing myself to think on 'what I like', instead of 'what would the norm be'. I fell aroused when I think about to have sex with other men or when I watch gay porn, and many times when I feel the Aneros touching my prostate I wish it was actually a man filling me in. Funny though is that I don't feel attracted by men like I do for women, so I have no wish to date a man, kiss, hug, etc, I just get very excited when thinking about making out with another men. This is purely an erotic attraction.

My Aneros journey was very important in the process to accept what I feel the way it is. First due to the liberation that 'daring' to put something into my ass brought me. Also, all the openness and sharing from the Aneros community, that showed me that there are many nuances in between black and white. And third, and possibly the most important, all the support and non-judgment that my wife has given me since I told her that I'd like to give it a try to Aneros, teaching me that there's no such a thing as right or wrong.

NewMan83 welcome aboard and thanks for the post. And thanks to everyone who is contributing to this thread. I find it very interesting.
I truly believe that there are very few 100% straight men (completely repulsed by any sexual thoughts about men) or 100% gay men (no interest in women at all). I think we are almost all somewhere in that gray area in between. The trick is to first accept that, and then find out what, if anything you can or want to do about it. For many men it's a complicated situation...like the happily married guy who is bi curious and has decided that he cannot do anything about it because he will not risk losing what he has.
For others, like single men, it's just a matter of being comfortable enough with your sexuality to explore what you're feeling and find what's right for you.

Great discussion guys. Thanks!
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