Male Sexual Orientation Here

Yes, same here multi...I do too luv it!

Hmmm, I think it is a matter of time, Multi! Oh, oooo!

Well I've managed to get into this forum by trial & error. Forum settings I used. Avatars? Never heard of 'em. This is all sci - fi to me.
I've always considered my self straight. I have a new girl friend. ( In fact she's 3 or 4 yrs older than me and I'm 50 ) She's from Texas, but slumming it over here in England.
For the very ignorant, Texas is in the USA. 🙂
In fact the Aneros is made there .'Houston, we have a problem'.
As I was saying I'm straight, but I have had 3 or 4 sex sessions with a school pal of mine in the mid 70's.
He was quite feminine so I was fairly attracted to him. He was small ( in both ways ) so if he was gonna ram it up there I don't think it would have hurt too much, but he never did (sadly) and I never gave him one either.
He sucked my cock for a bit but he finished me by hand. I could not give a BJ because he was uncut down there and it put me off. If he had been I would have done only too gladly.
I think I got circumsised when I was a small kid I got it stuck in my zip. (I know, too much info.)
That basicaly put me off becoming gay. A gay who does'nt like doing gay things is not very gay if you ask me.
Another time, been boozin with this older guy,( he was divorced ) and he asked me back to his pad for more to drink.Scotch whisky. Anyhow I was too drunk to go home so he said there was only one double bed so I decided to get in with him. He was a big fat guy about 30years my senior and in the middle of the night I felt his hand tug at my boxers, I was crapping myself by then, but nothing happened, sadly for me.
A few weeks later the same happened again and the same result. Maybe I was wanting him to give me a good rogering deep down, it certainly was'nt to do with his looks. To me he had the sex appeal of a brick.
Not something I'm proud of, this was after an old girlfriend of mine used to stick her finger up my ring and was rather pleasant to say the least.

Welcome (again some) Getting There, MultiOrgasmMan, priapusone, and love hole!!!! 😀 😀 😀 😀

Great you have voted and posted here, sharing your orientation development history and current perspective! It has helped form a basis also for our great times chatting here in the Chat Room!!

We are also now nearly 400 votes in here and should be able to get to 500, if the many new members will visit this poll, vote, and also tell their personal orientation stories if comfortable sharing.

You might also like to visit the great discussion of anal eroticism at ten_s_nut's: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/what-your-anal-erotic-practices-15670/

thanks again all and all the best to all orientations all

artform

Well we are now at 407 votes here and on our way to the 500 milestone!! 😀 😀

Lots of new members flooding into this great community and many obviously have yet to vote and post here.

Also several speculative polls on potential straight male behaviour shifts and flexibility. Great fodder for reflective posts here by both newbies and by previous posters here catching up!!

all the best contemplative discernment of who you really are in all your subtleties all

artform

I'm surprised there are only 21% gays here. I guess they prefer natural methods.

Hi all,

I'm one of the apparently enigmatic gay users of the forum. I wonder if there are relatively few on the forum because they don't feel they need the advice/support/whatever. For straight men, on the other hand, there's a fair amount of stigma attached to anal play, so that may add some incentive to join.

Anyway, I'm glad to see Margaret Cho was right when she said straight men love it up the ass! Kudos to all the straight men here who are sharing their experiences and breaking down barriers. This is a great forum!

So...... here I am 3 plus years into prostate orgasm practice. Prior to this latest turn in my sexual journey I would have responded to this poll as straight - heterosexual. Now after experiencing anal pleasure, prostate orgasm, multiple orgasm, dry orgasm and having realized the immense erotic power of my thoughts and the linkage of those thoughts to my body and my sex organs ..... I am rewired.

What does it mean to me to be rewired? It means that I have cast off an outmoded narrow view of my sexuality and replaced it with something much deeper, richer and emminently more powerful. I am now a sensual man. I am attuned to the exquisite elegance and torid sexuality of a beautiful woman's body. But it also means that I am equally attuned to the uniquely masculine sensuality of an erect cock and the unmistakably powerful passion of a man.

I have enveloped myself in layer upon layer of erotic pleasure and sensual rapture alone. I have kissed and licked my lady's nether lips and experienced the sweet rapture of deep penetration between her thighs more times than I can count. But I have yet to experience the passion of a man. I hope to someday soon.

So what does that make me? Hetero - curious? Straight - ambivalent? Repressed gay? I think none of the above. I am a sensual man experiencing a sensual world and all it has to offer.

Bigguy

And even MORE again!!! :D.............:D!!! Nov2011............. no action until now Mar2013!!

High time we have all newbies know about this poll and VOTE and add your personal stories and thoughts to this thread!!

This is a key understanding of our growing community here at Aneros.

artform

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trick question really...i'm totally hetero, but enjoy anal play. Guys do nothing for me at all, however i am curious to have sex with a shemale, that might be super hot

Great to see we are now very close to 1000 votes here! And also to see that the proportions of votes per category has remained very similar to date. Great community here indeed!!

More life stories on orientation please men, if your care to share.

Should add shemales to the trans and intersex group.

all the best whole male health and whole male being all ways always all

artform

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I've been noticing that there isn't much input by the gay/bi/non-straight identifying members of this forum and I count more than 30 percent, that's 300+, of us are not completely straight. it's true that most topics aren't gay-specific so there's no need to come out. I know of a few of us who are "not straight" (I'll use this expression to not exclude anyone in my community) because they have said so in their messages or to me privately. But nowhere near 30 percent. I wonder if there's some reluctance to coming out in this forum? This is one of the most open and accepting places I've found to talk about male sexuality that isn't specifically targeted at non-straight men. Aneros would seem to be a natural fit for non-straight men. And it also frustrates me not to know what, if anything, I can about it. So I'm putting it out there.

Someone could start a topic specifically for non-straight men and anyone could contribute. Or is there an option to have a private conversation? Is that what "chat" is? It seems to me that there are some areas of aneros use that may generally concern non-straight men more than straight men. I am really just asking what's going on and if anyone else has felt the need for this.

Ok, so I have had mixed experiences with the aneros. Mostly because I don't have the time needed to fully experience it. I enjoy it very much when I can have a session. I have also found myself becoming curious about the real thing and have answered the poll as such. Anybody else with the same feelings?

I've been noticing that there isn't much input by the gay/bi/non-straight identifying members of this forum and I count more than 30 percent, that's 300+, of us are not completely straight. it's true that most topics aren't gay-specific so there's no need to come out. I know of a few of us who are "not straight" (I'll use this expression to not exclude anyone in my community) because they have said so in their messages or to me privately. But nowhere near 30 percent...

...Aneros would seem to be a natural fit for non-straight men. And it also frustrates me not to know what, if anything, I can about it. So I'm putting it out there.

Someone could start a topic specifically for non-straight men and anyone could contribute. Or is there an option to have a private conversation? Is that what "chat" is? It seems to me that there are some areas of aneros use that may generally concern non-straight men more than straight men. I am really just asking what's going on and if anyone else has felt the need for this.

Hi euphemistic!!

You seek the total of "not completely straight" here and I agree that is key. That means that that number is 980 - 348 = 632 Therefore over 64% of us here are Bent! – ie "not completely straight" My vote/declaration here is Straight-Bi, definitely Bent 😀 😀

I find that reflected in many of the threads and chat discussions, and the willingness of all including many Straights to have open honestly very detailed discussions on all facets of this astounding journey.

This Forum supports Conversations which any two members may starts and keep private or invite other members to join in by invitation. I will start one with you soon!!

all the very best feelings within and without with all as we all explore our whole male being all

We probably need to make this a poll where you can change your answer. I know I need to change mine! I just blogged about my journey of exploration and: Opening Up

Bi is the most accurate description for me I suppose.

I have two "core fantasies" (I realize this is a contradiction): one is me as a man being with women and the other is as a woman being with men.

I like men-men and female-female a lot too though don't get me wrong. I'd love to be a woman but I also love being a man. I don't cross dress though. Not into me as a woman; into me as someone different.

I love the idea of the singularity and the even vague possibility we might one day get to try it all out. Even just future VR stuff could be amazing.

I'm not really attracted to men that often but love the idea of being fucked by a man often.

I don't understand the lack of Transgendered on here. This seems like it should appeal to them a lot more. Any I have met haven't even heard of this. Baffling. I sometimes enjoy a fantasy of training and teaching a TS to cum like a woman. (Actually I love the idea of helping men and women discover multiple orgasms a lot. I'd love to have an AFK friend to either talk about or play with multiples.)

I don't understand why I don't post here more when this is a relatively big part of my life. I think my cum game slips when I don't read here enough. I get complacent with just average super o's. Need to up my game. Think that needs to be with another person maybe? Tantric. Can you only go so far solo? Can't get wife interested (although she is aware of what I do and "joins in" to help me but hates idea of tantric sex) so that sucks. Who doesn't want to have multiple orgasms? "One is enough" she says. Everything else great though.

Rambling a bit. High a bit.

So does that answer your question? I think I forgot to actually vote in the poll.

Straight-bi-gay-lesbian-ts ... can l answer "all of the above." Yes to them all. Fuck it. Why not? One day?

Great varmint!! 🙂 🙂

You are not alone in announcing your change here in the thread of this Community Poll. Very Nice.

You blog here is wonderful and your latest post an excellent balancing of your self-realization man!!

all the very best self openness as we freely continue our fullest aneros journeys all

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And so too you both, RTGoose and HopefulMMOer, in feeling the range of responses and possibilities while journeying here!! 😀 😀

RTG, regarding the paucity of Transgendered here, my initial thoughts were similar. I have spent several years assisting a MtoF friend to get the approvals and funding for her Orchiectomy first, and then her full Sex Reassignment Surgery. I had several discussions with her about the great benefits of Aneros Prostate Massage with her, since MtoF' retain their prostate in place and their new vagina connects directly to it too. I though having hers awakened would be an positive prospect for her, The answer was "No."

I have also worn my Aneros T-shirt to LGBTTQ seminars and Pride Picnics and there is surprisingly hestitant and very cautious responses; few if any saying they would take a look at this site.

Is "going solo" limiting? Not in my experience. I find my solo explorations are stimulating and contribute to my wide ranging sensuality interests, therefore exceptional energies building, thereby contributing to my great "mutual prostates/Gspots" practice with my dear wife!!

HMMOer, I too like transexual porn and do not think of Shemale as derogatory, if the shemale is genuinely happy and settled in that body/eroticist and interpersonal relationships mode. I like gay and lesbian same sex porn, only if it is high quality too, since same understands same much more for many, not just exclusive gays or lesbians. Gays are usually focused on the the same/same sharing and I understand and respect their lack of interest in variations like shemales.

Like varmint, RTG and HMMOer, we four are examples of man who have found that wide-ranging sensualities and physical variations can be a quite natural part of our aneros journey and living with all the immense gifts from a fully awakened prostate, and the full spectrum of orgasmic energies access!!!!

Hallelujah ALL!!!!

artform

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays in every other Tradition ALL!!!! 🙂

Transsexual/transgender isn't a sexual orientation rather it is a modified sex/gender, just pointing that out. Instead, the category "transphilic" should be used as that is the word for those who attract to transgender/transexual people.

Source: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=transphilic
Source: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20121213234537AAVzvRL (second answer).

P.S.:Also, the list is missing the "Asexual" category.
P.P.S: It can be argued that transsexual is indeed the correct terminology for one that attracts to trans men/women and that the general populace are indeed using the wrong word XD as the word transsexual fits right in with Asexual/heterosexual/homosexual/and Bi-sexual. Meh i change my mind transphilic sounds too close to pedophilic i'd say it's good as is.

Thanks Trei
for your linguistic comments/meditation. It is a developing vocabulary field, and I share your sensitivity to categories ending in "...philic". A poll investigating specific objects of desire is another kettle of fish, almost so many possibilities as to be unwieldy.

The object of this poll was to focus on each man's self identification as to range of activities/expressions, as compared with typologies of love focus. I have helped a transsexual friend, m2f who found herself in adult life, obtain assistance and ultimately her SRS surgery and post-op support and adaptation.

I agree Asexual should appear here too, although I do not think I can
edit the poll given the new site software. Pansexual and or Omnisexual are other candidates. I'll look into that technical
possibility.

Great moderne avatar, btw!!

Happy New Year ALL!!!

all the very best explorations and deep re-balancing as we experience all the dynamics of the awakening prostate all

artform

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Beautifully said artfrom.."I really" like your sig! it is very neat ; ) Happy new year!

My buddy, Trei

"...i change my mind transphilic sounds too close to pedophilic...."

The philic part is Greek for love, pedo=prepubescent child. Ephebophile is love of (ephebo=teenager.

So transphilic as love of, or attraction to, someone who is transgendered/transsexual, seems a good word.

Thanks again Trei!!

Well here we all are now well into 2014,
and yet there have been few men adding their vote/choice, and their stories (those that have added are great!!!) to this great record
of our community constituencies and development....

With the hack of this site and its rebuild over past couple of years, I will now again add an update of where the Poll results here to date are indicating interesting insights for us all.

The hack/rebuild did scramble the original order of the categories in this poll. I am setting them out here in the report in a more logical sequence, similar to the original:

TOTAL Responses/Votes/Choices – 1017 –– 100.00%

Categories

Straight –––––––––––––––––––––– 360 –– 35.40%

Straight/Curious ––––––––––––––– 203 –– 19.96%

Just Figuring It Out ––––––––––––– 18 –– 1.77%

Straight/Bi –––––––––––––––––––– 92 –– 9.05%

Bisexual ––––––––––––––––––––– 78 –– 7.67%

Gay/Bi ––––––––––––––––––––––– 36 –– 3.54%

Gay ––––––––––––––––––––––––– 224 –– 22.03%

Trans & Intersex ––––––––––––––– 5 –– 0.49%

Clusters

Predominantly Straight (S, S/C, S/B) 665 –– 64.41%

Essentially Bent (S/C, JFIO, S/B, B,G/B, G) 651 –– 64.02%

Predominantly Gay (G, G/B) 260 –– 25.57%

Essentially Bisexual (S/B, B, G/B) 206 –– 20.26%

Lots of other clustering potentials with a finer analysis, and we have aneros_user13872 extending Trei's discussion, and 872 also is part of Canacan's proposed alternative set of categories in his recent proposal: https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/15811/sexual-orientation-poll-revamped#Item_7

There is no lack of interest in this subject, and BigOluver's questions about any change in orientation as a result of Aneros use is another valuable perspective: https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/15436/male-orientation#Item_29

I encourage lots more personal votes and stories here, along with reviewing all those posted here already!! We are a wonderfully diverse and open, trusting, sharing community here!! We all learn so much from this sharing with each other!!

all the very best all in our personal development along our Aneros journeys and fully awakening prostate full spectrum energies all

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(bump) to cluster the three polls on this topic

artformIt's curious to me that i seem to have missed the Gay/Bi category right from the beginning when i replied to the poll way back then. i don't remember if i had put myself in the Gay or Bisexual category at that time, but if i had noticed the Gay/Bi i would have, and would put myself there. Personally i don't like the term Gay (i think a perfectly good meaning of the word was destroyed) however it is part of society's vocabulary now, so be it. I find no difficulty with the term homosexual. I certainly think straight/bent is offensive, as if being of homosexual sexual attraction is bad and being heterosexual is good.

Thank you for pulling this all together, since it has been approached in various threads.

Thanks 872!!

I am sorry you feel "Bent" is offensive, though that is essentially what the straight/gay language was doing. In our area, friends of all orientations use "bent" as anything that in any way deviates in the slightest from rigid narrow "straight" behaviour, and usually use the term "bent" lightly with a smile and sometimes a wink! In that sense, "bent" is seen as a huge umbrella term, welcoming all who are not narrowly straight. Happy to chat more about the evolving language for all these aspects of life!!

On another note, that of the range of acts that are part of these discussions, ten_s_nut has a great Poll on anal play preferences in addition to Aneros: https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/13165/what-are-your-anal-erotic-practices

This includes the discussions of energies exchanging as another category of acts that may or may not in others minds be equivalent to physical sex acts. This is a key related discussion about the self-definition categories here, and the mobile spectrum ranges of Canacan's variation on this approach. It also plays a role yet fully explored in BigOluver's transformations range poll.

all the best living this exceptionally expanded and expanding realm of our lives all

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Not feeling entirely male (while body mostly is) nor fitting any category I first decided to create another poll instead. But being prompted to participate here, I finally voted "just figuring it out".

Probably straight male though... but who knows...

This includes the discussions of energies exchanging as another category of acts that may or may not in others minds be equivalent to physical sex acts. This is a key related discussion about the self-definition categories here, and the mobile spectrum ranges of Canacan's variation on this approach. It also plays a role yet fully explored in BigOluver's transformations range poll.

@artform, interesting... what the name of this poll by BigOluver ?

There is no lack of interest in this subject, and BigOluver's questions about any change in orientation as a result of Aneros use is another valuable perspective: https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/15436/male-orientation#Item_29