Male Sexual Orientation Here

Gay Male here, coming to terms with my orientation later in life. Always knew I preferred guys, just rarely acted on it in my earlier years. Married to a woman for 18 years, 2 kids a product of that marriage. Divorced her 6 years ago, and met the most wonderful guy 3 years ago. We are in a committed, monogamous relationship, and at some point will get married. Our sex life is outstanding, but since we are not living together yet, there are times when I have needs to be fulfilled. So my sojourn here begins....

Straight here.

I found out about Aneros from fleshlight.com I shrugged it off and when about my business. A long while passed and one day, while playing with myself, I felt a need to cross that bridge.. it was nothing spectacular but I came like never before. Shortly after that session I remembered reading about the Aneros, took the plunge and purchased my MGX. Definitely a decision well made.

Getting over the phobia of sticking something in my keister was definitely a hurdle to overcome but being open minded made it fairly easy. As a straight man, if you can get over that Taboo implemented by social constraints, it's a decision you won't soon regret!

Exactly JayT!! 😀 😀 And welcome to this community and your Journey!

Welcome too midnightvoice!! And indirectly your male partner. Your story is very similar to what happened with my male co-explorer of my youthful gay relationship. And others that I know of too. Too many males are bullied into inappropriate lives by the social pressures and the Rolling Poison of the Playgrounds of vicious bullying and ostracism through puberty and beyond. All the best as you get a chance now to sort out your life and your continuing relationships with your children and former spouse.

all the best finding our inner truth and erotic energetic powers and love all

artform

Well Men!

Over 300 have voted and the trends are holding with the same proportions as before, with the exception of the boom/expansion in the Straight Curious group!

However this is still a small sample of the total membership here of 16,044, and is a significant sampling of the active membership of 692. We could still do a lot better. More personal development stories here would also be very helpful to others.

Cum on guys! Fess up! It's fun and a relief at the same time. Can actually boost your energies too!

nudge nudge nudge

artform

I didn't see this post till just today... I've wondered about this myself so I was glad to see someone had already put it up for vote. I really don't know what I am ... I put bi b/c I do like both but I don't think it matters other than a point of interest. It is nice to be able to talk openly and honestly with any guy about sex. I mean afterall most guys I know would never in a billion light years talk about stuff like we talk about here so its cool.

I think a part of the mental process that we have to go through while using the aneros is not caring and enjoying the pleasure it brings for what it is... I personally have felt like this is a pleasure that we can experience b/c God allows us to have it. I mean He is the one that made all of us *so long as you believe that* and I always feel like the experience is almost supernatural at times because even though I've not had the Super O the feelings and such are very strong unlike anything in a tradional J/O session etc...

So sometimes I think about this or that... whatever makes me feel good/sexy or helps me overcome issues in my life ... that is what turns me on... and I use the product in that regard so that it is more than just a super O because who knows when that will come... I just enjoy it to enjoy myself and my body that God gave me to the fullest I can.

Anyhow that is my 2 cents ... sorry if its too metaphysical or trancendental for some of you.

JJAneros

This poll has been around for a long time, so I can't remember "exactly" how I voted, but knowing me, I voted the truth but did not add a comment. I will now though, I am gay.

Well my friend Buster, welcome to this Poll thread!! 🙂 🙂

Congratulations! I am very glad you to chose to say so here. All the very best brother Buster always!!

all the best coming to the wholeness of the maleness we each find within and without as we all males share ours with all

peace and blessings of the ecstatic allness of it all

artform

I have been getting so horny and wanting my super-0's and the weird thing is that it's from guys writing about their experiences with Aneros products!
I used to really like to hear the fem side of the sexual experience, now I really am not interested...this is an amazing forum!

priapusone, we can chat about our experiences any time!

Hi guys

I don't see that Aneros use has anything to do with sexual preference per se ...however, it is interesting to see where other Aneros users are coming from (so to speak!), and it's probably true that those whose sexual preference includes anal activity are more accepting or attuned to the possibilities of an anally-inserted device from the get-go. The opposite could keep some purely Straight guys from allowing themselves to experiment and enjoy prostate-centered sensations in the ways that many of us have.

I voted "Straight Bi" which is the best answer given how I've chosen to act out my life, but probably Bisexual would be the best description of my actual nature. If you saw this thread, before, in which a fellow member questioned whether his use of the Aneros in some way affected his sexual status, you may know a little of my story.

http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/whats-happening-me-14524/#post88695

I was raised without much of a thought of sexuality, but then, just prior to puberty, had the opportunity for some harmless sex play with male cousins around my age during the occasional camp-out. This was mutual j/o, a little touching, and not more. I loved it, and felt my self yearning for more male/male contact later in my teen years, but this was unrequited until I went to college. In my junior year, I found that my new roommate shared this same yearning, and over the period of about a year, we tried just about everything--but settled mostly on a "routine" of occasional, mutual oral sex. Then I became bored with this, and frankly, more interested in a girl that I'd started dating. My roommate made his sexual preference--basically, 100% gay--very clear, and we subsequently saw we were moving in different directions and broke off our activity.

Just out of college, I was married for the first time, my interest in men faded into the background and I became what you'd call bi-curious. Even while single again in my mid-20s (and, funny enough, living smack in the middle of "Boystown" in Chicago--Wrigleyville), I was interested purely in the pursuit of women. Sure, I'd look at a guy on the street and think about the possibilities, but purely on an abstract level. Then, after remarrying and moving ahead into my 40s, with the advent of the Internet, I made the (shocking) discovery that there were LOTS of bi-curious guys out there, including lots of married ones. In a period of immature indulgence, I engaged in some experimentation with guys who were also bi-curious (as well as some gays who led me to believe they were "bi curious" but who were very likely not). I came to regret this deeply. Due to very negative effects on my energies, my conscience and ultimately the quality of my marriage, I put an end to this period, and since then I have not looked back. Now I'm over 50, and my "bi side" or "gay side" resides purely at a private / fantasy level as one of many dimensions of my sexuality.

As stated and detailed in my post on that other thread, this is a decision I made consciously and to my contentment. Meanwhile, my use of Aneros products and discovery of another physical dimension of my sexuality has been a very welcome sideline, but not one that has detracted from my relationship with my wife. I have experienced some entirely new and for the most part pleasurable sensations along my way, and am optimistic that as I move along in this journey, there will continue to be new rewards!

Welcome jjaneros!! and priapusone!! and milky!! 😀 😀 😀 😀

Thanks very much for your perspectives (more of your story here please milky!) Not at all too transcendental jj! Your stories of how you got to where you are with your sexuality would be appreciated by all here.

all the best gay and bisexual, topping and bottoming as you find yourself there all

artform

Speaking of which...,

Welcome tallguy!! 😀 😀

Thanks you so much for your detailed story of your sexuality unfolding, blossoming. If you've read my story above in this thread, you've seen how similar our coming of age sexually are. I think that this route is particularly rich in initial wiring and further rewiring potentials, butt I'm prejudiced in this regard. 😉 It is from this experience that I included the category "Just figuring it out" in the Poll, because that sums up my experience in my exploratory gay relationship, late high school and early university. Does that description ring true for you?

BTW how tall are you? 6'-4+1/2" in youth, now just over 6'-3" here.

Thanks again tallguy for your story. All the best with your journey here and with your wife. I have detailed some interesting to thrilling m/f possibilities that you two might be interested in in my blog: http://www.aneros.com/displayblog.php?id=3544 Perhaps you two have some to share here as well?

all the best orgasmic energetic ecstasies yang and yin, yin and yang all

artform

Hey Artform

Look back again at my postings in the "what's happening to me thread" linked above, you'll recall our earlier chat. I'm 6'2"..not as tall as you, but pretty thin!

I agree, the sideline into male/male activities probably has helped a little with the rewiring, although I wish the rewiring was going along a little more quickly! Probably the pace of it is limited somewhat by the time I can take for my sessions. This is during travel, when I have a nice quiet hotel room to myself, and plenty of hours to prepare and participate.

Nonetheless, I have had some great experiences so far and part of me is certain that I am on the path to bigger and better rewards!

Thanks for your interest here in everyone's journey and for sharing your generous spirit.

I voted transgendered but I could also have voted straight bisexual. Had the usual childhood /teen sexual encounters with males. Forts and camping provided a sexual exploration outlet that was otherwise unobtainable. Would have preferred more encounters with girls but I was a nerd and a late bloomer socially. I came to enjoy oral sex most of all and even tried some solo anal pentration with various hard smooth objects. I married a woman who I had to educate about sex because her family was sexually repressive. She grudgingly learned to have sex in something other than the missionary position but eventually refused to explore sexuality fully in the context of a loving relationship. She wanted sex less and less and I wanted sex more and more. Eventually she developed a so called platonic love affair with a man who was a sexual bore and whose wife was getting her satisfaction in yet another affair. It all blew up suddenly and I was forced into separation and divorce. The reason I tell you the sordid story is because I was determined the second time around to only get involved with a woman who was sexually free and into exploration. I wanted a real slut as it were, and I do not mean that in a bad way as in a street walker but there was no way I wanted another repressed partner. I found her and we have a great relationship. It really does make up for the years of hell I endured before. So in our exploration we eventually tried swinging and threesomes and fetishes. I am turned on by female domination and enjoy submission. She enjoys the power exchange. We moved into cuckoldry and finally feminization. We have MMF threesomes and I play a submissive role while she gets her satisfaction with another. It started with me wearing the panties and which I had not done since childhood. Sometimes I get dressed more elaborately and think I could pass for a real woman at times. I have no desire to live my life as a woman full time at all but I do enjoy it on a part time basis as a fetish. My wife enjoys making me submit to her lovers just orally right now but she is just priming me for the ultimate submission. So she was pretty supportive when it came to getting the aneros. I just keep getting in deeper and deeper it seems. Next we will add enforced chastity to the mix but you won't find me complaining. I have a sex life that a few people only dream about! My sexual orientation has certainly changed over time but I have come to realize that I do not identify as gay. I think more of straight with bisexual experience including crossdressing which may be practiced by those of all orientations.

Jeez, guys, I'm beginning to feel left out, plain vanilla. 🙁 Pretty much asexual until post-puberty, at which time I was "shanghaied" by an agressive female who knew what she wanted and went after it. Wound up marrying her (together 38 years this past New Year's.) Our roles have reversed over the years; now she's the one who has no sense of adventure, and I'm the one all jacked up for new things. We're both backwards... my prime is NOW, and hers was back in her twenties. Just proves that sexuality is indeed a continuum, analog in nature, not either/or and binary. Only homosexual experiences I had along the way were a frightening groping (old dude when I was 13...) I was steering his powerboat, both hands locked to the wheel, towing a pair of skiiers, with my sister and step-sisters in the back seat (front cockpit separate from rear passenger cockpit); the guy, while giving instructions on boat handling, just reached over and twisted aside the crotch of my bathing trunks and grabbed my junk, pulled it out, and started stroking like it was no big deal. Began interspersing sexual instructions along with the boating ones ..." steer a little left, stay clear of that sandbar; make it throb; that's it. Steer it over towards that cove, slowly... let me know when you're about to come..." ( and I didn't even know what that last MEANT, at the time.) Finally the ride was over, and I screwed out of that boat as fast as I could, ignoring his "You wanna go out again?" I hid in the boathouse for the rest of the family visit. My stepfather's people... figures. He was never much better than them, himself, and he's why I am the way I am to this day (deeply insecure, self-esteem/self-worth on the ocean floor, etc. etc. yadda yadda yadda.) And a proposition for receiving oral from a guy who gave me a ride home from my Navy base in Virginia when my wife got hung up and couldn't make it to pick me up. I politely declined, but had to stifle a panic attack which brought the memories of that molestation surging back to life. Oh, also did "duelling dicks" as a fourth-grader with my best friend of the time... we made plans for escalating exploration, but he moved away soon after that.

Been straight-arrow until just this year, when my medication-induced anorgasmia, BPH symptoms and general stale sex life (does none qualify as stale?) kinda reached critical mass in a confluence of factors. Discovered prostate massage, Aneros use, pegging, and bi-curiosity pretty much simultaneously. It's certainly opened up my (getting shopworn) fantasy life, that's for sure!! Approached the wife re: prostate massage, from a therapeutic standpoint, and got reluctant agreement. Took it a little further and defined/expressed interest in pegging, and was immediately shot down: "THAT'LL never happen!!" So, it's to be solo exploration for now. Maybe I can hook up with an ex-wife who's still mad at her ex-hubby, and wants vicarious revenge! I'll happily stand in (kneel in) so to speak. Have my Helix, about to spring for a Fleshlight (lady/vortex, or Alien), and am shopping around for a not-too-big, lifelike VixSkin dildo, harness-ready (I'm an optimist by nature.) Even solo, one can still spice things up considerably !!

Oh, and I voted "Straight-curious." My "hands-on" has been all female, to this point, but I'm intensely interested in finding the right guy to explore with.

I was raised in a sexually straight home with the only sexual info provided by my parents was that it was "dirty" and "don't ever masturbate", Needless to say I experiemented a bit with the boys in the "Hood" at least for a while. I became interested in girls at puberty and still was a bit attracted to a good friend. At the age of 27 I had an actual gay encounter with a gay/bi guy which left me feeling very weirded out. As I was interested, at that time, in getting BJ's from him and he was interested in getting bottomed from me it was not a hot date. I declined further dates.
I voted straight bi as I have been married for 35+ years and have a good relationship with the wife but I am not averse to male/male contact with the right guy on the right day. I have mellowed in my feelings in this area, and have been enjoying my current explorations in butt play.

Although im straight, i do like watching guys get off, so you could call me "Straight-Curious". Of course in a physical encounter it woulld have to be with a girl of course. But research, is research.

i have to say what ever your sexual orientation is if it feels good i have always had an attraction to anal play, but hard to find a partner to be comabatable. I am not really gay and i dont have a great attraction to men. Some men i was with wam bam thank you ..... but being pegged was hot, and really. but aneros..........

Welcome subcd, kharrisma, nudist and jerdan45!!!! 😀 😀 😀 😀

Thanks all of you for your four stories of guys exploring various points inside the straight to bisexual zone of our male orientation spectrum. Let us know with future posts here how your explorations develop!

all the best sensing and testing the range and depth of our sexual/erotic/orgasmic potentials all

artform

tallguy, thank you!! 😀 😀

artform

Guys, as you are exploring inside the spectrum, you may find it works best in rewiring, for the permanent benefits available here, to be careful about choosing any complementary activities, disciplines or practices you mix directly with your aneros practice. A good rule of thumb here is to leave a day or two without doing the other practice, and even between aneros sessions, to get the richest and most durable rewiring and effects.

See Aksel's thread: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/would-pot-help-new-user-15218/

and jerdan45's: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/i-have-been-using-euphro-but-i-missed-being-pegged-15336/

Also, check out the Tao of Aneros thread and see if those observations ring true or prove helpful: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/tao-aneros-user-theorems-15330/

artform

Well again men!!! 😀 😀 😀

It was only last September when we hit 300+ voters in this Poll and had just gone over 16,000 Aneros members here!

Now we are over 20,000 members registered!!... and 345 voted here!!... and great additional sex-life development stories, thanks to all posters here!

Hey newbies all!! come on in and vote here please!

And add to this great and growing library of men's development stories!

as we each add our stories, we all benefit from seeing ourselves in the great spectrum of male orientation variations all

artform

Gay as a goose! I have slept with women in the past, before I started sleeping with men. I thoroughly enjoyed it and I think it helped me with the sexual path I am now on, the one I was destined for. Used to love going down on women! Thay may sound strange to some but it's true. I've not slept with a woman since I first slept with a man. I would therefore describe myself as 100% gay, rather than gay-bi. I can appreciate women's sexuality but I know for me it's all about the firmness of a man's body beside me rather than the softness of a woman's. Plus I love the smell of (some!) men.

Hello, artform.

I voted "straight" a week ago, I think. Didn't realize there was a giant thread following. So...

Aside from fooling around, touching only, with other boys when I was pre-pubescent, I've been hetero without any attraction to, or interest in men. First two marriages were short and got ugly. Third marriage is great; going on 23 years together. Three kids, dog, two cats.

Ever since the first time while in college, I've always enjoyed having my partner play with my butt. One of my girlfriends in college trained to be a Yoga instructor and she introduced me to Tantra, and my prostate.

I initially got the Helix to assist with treating my BPH. Then, it turned out to be VERY fun.

Interesting group of folks here.

Cheers,

Dave

i forget how i responded to this poll initially butt i consider myself probably 85% str8 - and 15% queer ... i guess i'm bi - butt i don't want to share my woman with another dude ...

i was probably mildly homophobic during my teens due mostly to peer pressure married at 18 and am 49 now

... for 20 years from about 20 to 40 i was 100% str8 arrow but not homophobic

about 10 years ago i resumed frequent solo masturbation (in addition to frequent conjugal sex) and got into internet porn - as i've gotten more and more into my genitals i've identified more and more with other adult males and their masculine equipment enjoying male and m2m porn ...

which is what introduced me to aneros and kindled an interest in my backdoor - i'm definitely not a bottom to anyone ... except my progasm!

... i enjoy this forum and the brotherhood of fellow hedonists - wish i was free enough to explore something more than fantasy yet safe, butt i don't anticipate getting beyond this fantasy stage ...

butt i'm hopeful that my pro will become more of a satisfying lover than it currently is ... we're working on our relationship

- rip

Me too, Rip. Fantasy is a part of it, a nice part man!

Artform invited to cross post over here from the following thread:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/thing-making-me-question-my-sexual-orientation-15431/

I totally agree with that. My wife and I are on different levels when it comes to sex drive. Too often, I'm in DRIVE and she's in PARK. To me, the Aneros has become a way to pleasure myself and explore a few fantasies without having to engage in an extramarital affair (hetero or homo).

The big fun for me with the Aneros is the feeling of getting penetrated like a woman and getting that massive Dry-O that almost takes my breath away. I imagine myself as a woman having a massive G-spot orgasm. I get hot just thinking about that. I'd be curious to see how much greater of an experience it would be to have a man do that to me.

But in regards as to whether a piece of plastic can change your sexual orientation, I don't believe so. But I do think that getting that much pleasure from behind using the Aneros can cause someone to question his sexual orientation. At the very least, you find out something about your sexuality that was previously hidden in your sub-conscious. In my case, I'm straight, but found out that I have slight bi-curiosity.

NY

I took this poll a while back, early into my Aneros usage and clicked off "Straight" without any hesitation. Now I would click "Straight - Curious". I used to wonder what was in it for the male "receiver", now I know!

NY

Thanks very much The New Yorker, priapusone, RipTheJacker, ten_s_nut, and Bobby B!!!!!

NY, thanks also for including the thread link, since that thread extends this discussion further, and your experience of opening to a wider view of yourself and your potential is illustrated there by numbers of other. In addition, this opening phenomena is currently being discussed from various perspectives in several threads in the General Discussion area.

all the best exploration opening and honest wider wonder all

artform

I am straight, but I have had a couple of dreams with one man. During the dream I was on fire and filled with pleasure and desire, but after the dream I just thought, "Wow! That was different! Cool, but not in this lifetime!" So I think that puts me at Straight but curious!

Welcome Tycho!! 😀 😀

Thank you for your succinct opening declaration and its open endedness, which as you can see from others is appropriate here! 🙂

Enjoy your journey here and with your wife. I treasure mine/ours(mrs. a and I)!! You and you two are off to such a great start!! Keep us updated please as your journey proceeds.

All the very best to you two!!

artform

PS to ALL Note that we are now at 380 having voted/declared here. If you are reading here and have not yet voted in this poll, PLEASE VOTE NOW. As a survey, the more voting here, the more representative and therefore significant the results are. And post your sexual development story. Many have commented on how helpful these stories are to them in placing their own sense of themselves in their story.

artform

I am straight but I enjoy anal sex through use of sex toys. Therefore, this form of therapy or play is pleasant for me.