Will/Would you tell your son about penis masturbation AND prostate massage? If so, when?

I am now 66 years old and a confirmed bachelor. But if I were a dad, I would try to be open and free about the facts of life at an early age to any sons I would have. I believe that children in a loving home will emulate their parents. Little boys will look up to their dads, perhaps hero worship them.

With my sons, I would try to start sharing the facts of life at age five when they become cognizant of their bodies and their dad's if they see him naked. I would gradually begin to share the facts of human anatomy along with facts on procreation and sexual intercourse. I would try to make those facts the most natural thing in the world. That includes masturbation.

So when my boys enter puberty and adolescence, they will not become bewildered and discomfited by changes in their bodies, their genitals, and the development of sexual hungers and urges. Discussions about the prostate and its function and dysfunction (enlarged prostate [BPH] and prostate cancer) would be introduced then, perhaps earlier.

However, prostate massage and Aneros use would be left to his late teens.

Thom./BigGlansDC

Bob Seger said it in the song Night Moves...."working on the mysteries without any clues". I feel that kids should figure it all out on their own. I figured it out and I knew nothing.

RSilva,

This topic has been discussed in a couple of other threads that I can recall, you may want to take a look at them as I responded to this topic there, please see -> Should we teach our boys reaching puberty the benefits of MMO, prostate massage, kuma sutra? & CONTROVERSIAL QUESTIONS!!
Good Vibes to You !

Hindsight, it would have been a great benefit to me if I had relieved adolescent sex stress with masturbation. It wasn't until I was around 18 I discovered the simple mechanism. In the mean time the frustration was painful and a lot of good relationships were damaged.

Before this question can be answered I think we have to ask ourselves if orgasm is sexual.
We can separate orgasm from ejaculation, likewise orgasm doesn't have to be sexual.
Children aren't sexual but does that mean they can't have orgasms?

RSilva,

This topic has been discussed in a couple of other threads that I can recall, you may want to take a look at them as I responded to this topic there, please see -> Should we teach our boys reaching puberty the benefits of MMO, prostate massage, kuma sutra? & CONTROVERSIAL QUESTIONS!!
Good Vibes to You !

Thanks rumel for the links 🙂

Aside from protection, I'd let him discover anything sexual on his own.I get people's enthusiasm for MMO on here but it's not a straight-forward concept, and given those in puberty go through crazy ups-and-downs, I can't see it being a good idea. That, and guys in that age range would rather just screw chicks.

I also get the enthusiasm around this but the concept is highly problematic. I think to discover the self indulgence of prostate massage at the age of 20 was appropriate and receiving recommendations from my father or indeed others at the age of 12-16 would have been inappropriate. Sex and masturbation talk must be normal, but prostate massage I would associate at least with some level of maturity

- item one: growing up I suggest boys remain active,not spending hours lying down and rather enjoy sports, whilst sexually discovering masturbation and girls
- item two: conversation around safe sex is appropriate while prostate fun may indeed be very embarrassing to listen to
-item three: many boys and men will never accept prostate masturbation as suited to them

Of course if you really want your sons not to miss out it may either be appropriate to use very subtle hints about prostate health or discuss it at a later age (18 and over)