Trouble shutting it down

In my experience, it's time to take a break from sessions. Resist the urge if necessary, you want things to wind down a lot before you go for another session. I guess Aless will be harder to stop, reducing caffeine and any other stimulant certainly won't hurt, and I would take a break from any sexually stimulating activity too, like pornography or erotic audios.

Sex with your wife is probably fine but I'm just guessing here. On the other hand, masturbation will probably offer very little relief. As far as I know, there's limited expertise about this aspect of the Super-O journey so you're mostly on your own here. If things get worse or "weird" and you want to talk about it, PM me and I'll share what I know.

If you feel things are *really* getting weird, like it's stopping you from functioning normally at home or at your job, see your doctor. Good luck and keep us posted. 

No,masturbation is not the answer,you’ve got the wife if you need to get off,that should take priority.Don’t be impacting your relationship.

Like @zentai said,take a break from sessions. You need to have some discipline here,or it’ll impact far more than sleep,and if it’s affecting sleep,it’s already losing control.

A good stretching routine and meditation/mindfulness can help calm things down. If you want a supplement,ashwagandha sensoreli could be a benefit.

It does seem great now,but that’ll change if you keep at it at full throttle,and it’ll become a nightmare.

Is your wife involved in all this? Between my wife controlling my pace and my heavy gym work,I stay on a fairly even level. If she is,it could help a lot for her to dictate when you play. 

Thanks @zentai and @helghast. I would say right now my work and day to day is ok. I definitely think about it and get urges but if I stay busy I can function fine. I’m 33 and have an active job and work out almost every day. I dont drink caffeine, smoke, or drink alcohol if that helps. Where my biggest concern is during the night time. I find myself getting very short bursts of sleep where I wake up with some mini p waves and twitches/pulsating in the pelvic and prostate area. And where as during the day I can distract myself with other tasks at night when I am sleeping there is nothing to distract. In fact if I try to relax that sometimes builds it up more. 

as for my wife. She does know about my use of the aneros but she doesn’t want to be involved in it and finds it a little uncomfortable to think about. But she’s also said she wouldn’t ask me to stop. Seeing as I just started a couple months ago and she didn’t know right away I think she just needs time to process it all but I don’t know if she’ll ever want to be involved. I do it more when she isn’t home. But that also makes it tough at night when I’m sleeping next to her if I do get some aless waves and slight shakes she can sometimes feel it and it has kept her up a couple nights as well

@man1234

To me the most important thing is that you have a partner who knows about what you are doing and can see what is happening from an outside perspective. At the very least, you won't be able to just get up and have sessions at night or skip meals to have sessions and other crazy dumb stuff. Just put your toys away for a couple of weeks and see how things progress. You'll be fine. 

@man1234

Talk to her about what’s happening. I do hope that she can join you on your journey and you can play together and enjoy pleasure together.

@helghast

i think her biggest concern is that I’m going to gravitate away from her and towards this. My wife deals with anxiety and i think heating and reading about how much pleasure a prostate orgasm can bring scares her. I’ve tried to reassure her that no matter what it can’t replace the intimacy between us but I know she is struggling with believing that

@man1234

Posted by: @man1234

i think her biggest concern is that I’m going to gravitate away from her and towards this.

I bet it is,women aren’t stupid mate.

Posted by: @man1234

My wife deals with anxiety and i think heating and reading about how much pleasure a prostate orgasm can bring scares her.

This is why it’s better to share fun as a couple. And it can be shared.

Posted by: @man1234

I’ve tried to reassure her that no matter what it can’t replace the intimacy between us but I know she is struggling with believing that

There has been posts here where this has happened. 

I agree with @zentai just take a break for a while, or see what happens with more space. You can’t immediately unring the bell, but you can distance yourself from it if you don’t like it.  Masturbation helps me take the edge off, and personally masturbation doesn’t make me feel distant from my partner, as I am capable of masturbating multiple times and still wanting sex afterwards.  I know it wasn’t your original question, but as for your wife, that sounds complicated.  But if she doesn’t see any negative change in your two’s sex life, then it should be all good, right?  Often these toys make us men go through a sort of sexual renaissance, making us more sensual, emotionally open, and in tune to our bodies and the subtler aspects of sex.  Have you felt any of that? Has she noticed that?  Also she shouldn’t be scared of the pleasure you get from these toys. She should embrace it, be part of it, help expand on it.  For example, when I talk dirty to my partner and kiss her all over as she uses her clit-sucker, she has raging orgasms.  I am happy to be part of her massive pleasure, and to help bring her higher, even though I am not the one stimulating her. Anyways I’m sure you know all this, and you’re not the one to be convinced, she is.

Posted by: @man1234

however with this great pleasure and feeling I have found it is very difficult to turn off even after a session and the urges and waves and flutters to have a session are extremely frequent.
Even during the day at work it is tough to turn off.

It sounds like you may be experiencing a Kundalini energy awakening. While this is not necessarily rare amongst Aneros users it is not common either. Aneros use can be life altering in opening us up to new experiences, for the most part this opening is gradual and quite beneficial but it can be shocking to sensitive individuals such as yourself. I think the above posters have given you some good advice and I can only add that learning to 'ground' yourself may be the way forward. Here are a few other threads which discuss this phenomenon , which I hope you will read and perhaps gain some insight into your own situation.
All you rewired folks, Please help me. (kind of urgent),
a fascinating novel experience,
Kundalini Rising,
Have I Awakened my Kundalini?,
Depression, anger, desperation after a near-Super O,
A bigger picture journey... Scares, thrills, questions, decisions... What a mess!.

You may only be going through an extended 'honeymoon' phase with your Aneros, I think taking a break and allowing yourself to integrate these experiences may be a good approach as well. Please don't let the rare possibility of a full blown Kunadlini Awakening scare you, it is most likely just a temporary shock to your system that you are going through and will pass once you have integrated and grounded yourself, hopefully with your wife's help and support as well.

Good Vibes to You!

Posted by: @rumel

Posted by: @man1234

however with this great pleasure and feeling I have found it is very difficult to turn off even after a session and the urges and waves and flutters to have a session are extremely frequent.
Even during the day at work it is tough to turn off.

It sounds like you may be experiencing a Kundalini energy awakening. While this is not necessarily rare amongst Aneros users it is not common either. Aneros use can be life altering in opening us up to new experiences, for the most part this opening is gradual and quite beneficial but it can be shocking to sensitive individuals such as yourself. I think the above posters have given you some good advice and I can only add that learning to 'ground' yourself may be the way forward. Here are a few other threads which discuss this phenomenon , which I hope you will read and perhaps gain some insight into your own situation.
All you rewired folks, Please help me. (kind of urgent),
a fascinating novel experience,
Kundalini Rising,
Have I Awakened my Kundalini?,
Depression, anger, desperation after a near-Super O,
A bigger picture journey... Scares, thrills, questions, decisions... What a mess!.

You may only be going through an extended 'honeymoon' phase with your Aneros, I think taking a break and allowing yourself to integrate these experiences may be a good approach as well. Please don't let the rare possibility of a full blown Kunadlini Awakening scare you, it is most likely just a temporary shock to your system that you are going through and will pass once you have integrated and grounded yourself, hopefully with your wife's help and support as well.

Good Vibes to You!

 

Don't be scared when you google kundalini energy either... seems to be alot of horror and scare stories.... its really not that bad... it just feels like energy running thru your body when you get turned on....

Honestly I can control it now and turn it off and on but there was times where it got a bit much... a few days of masturbation totally turned off all the feelings down there and the energy....

If I am only having sex with my wife / using aneros and Aless and no masturbation I will have that energy when ever I want.... but as soon as I start to masturbate I will lose it within 1 day and it takes about 1 week to get back...

Amazing thing the body

It always depends on what you're getting, how intense it is, and how much control you have.

To me it's like using power tools, of course if you are terrified of your table saw, you're going to be nervous and you risk hurting yourself. But I think you need to be a little bit afraid, or at least you need to have some respect for the potential it has to hurt you. 

We don't know what exactly @man1234 is going trough, but when I read about "mind exploding super o’s." getting even more intense, this brings me back to a time and place where things were not so great for me and not so much in control.   

We don't know if it's Kundalini energy, Kundalini awakening, Kundalini syndrome/psychosis or just *very* good sessions creating a chemical addiction, but since it happened so early for him, I would be worried that he did not get enough time to develop his ability to navigate these feelings. 

@jiji2000 you are right, the body is truly amazing, and it has an incredible ability for self-preservation and bouncing back, but if you burn out, you burn out, and it can take a surprisingly long time for things to go back to normal.

For each "horror" story they are probably a ton of guys like you who just get to enjoy their Kundalini energy and will never have any issues, and this is fantastic, but if you've read the links @rumel shared, you can see that things can get pretty bad if you "lose the Kundalini lottery". I think it's important for guys to be able to recognize if they are particularly sensitive to this, and to take things more slowly if they believe it's the case. But like you said, being anxious about this for no reason is really not necessary.     

@man1234

How are you doing ? Did you manage to get things under control ?