Tried everything else? Try this if you haven`t already....

I know the opening up feeling but I only get that when I'm about to ejaculate...?

"3.
Relax.. Don`t even think about relaxing. That`s how much you should relax."
Could you expound on this a little more since so many on this website preach RELAX. Are you saying make no mental note or no telling to yourself to relax. Thanks

'Pump in your dick while erect'

Are you referring to the muscle contraction that's like what happens when your Dick pumps out semen when you ejaculate?

Hey Alex_xxx, That was great advice!!

To expand, I have found that it works for me to envision a fountain falling back onto itself. At the "open up" stage you referred to, I try to let myself fall over and around the aneros. This helps me visualize the good feelings and let them keep flowing.

@alex_xxx: your writing about "opening up" is right on the mark. I have recently found to my surprise and great satisfaction that I can not only distinguish between the PC pulling in and the BC BUT ALSO (i.think) pull up with the PC while opening up the BC and that is a trigger for intense P waves and more. Control of these is crucial for advancing to A-less pleasure, I think. I also really liked your description of "mentally" moving the aneros. The physical act of drawing in and pushing out the device with the anal muscles is completely different from the sensation of movement and pleasure that comes from envisioning (? Imagining) the device moving on its own. Thanks for the insights

This is really good info. Thanks for posting.

though never giving up is good, i cannot understand your points though at all? what i feel doesn't translate to my experience, even of normal ejaculation. If i 'open up' it puts the sensation on the penis, it detracts from my sessions.

Great that it works for you though!

Relaxing before works wonders for me. Before use try soaking in a tub of hot water for a while.

Yea inhope the feeling you get when you're about to ecaculate. But deeper inside / further up away from the penis.

Yes, exactly that pumping notion. But it'll bring itself if you stay "open". Sorry, trying my best to explain.

@turnrow, thats correct 🙂

@Alex_xxx Lately I have no trouble getting the device moving and I have no trouble visualizing the movement in fact sometimes the visualization is quite vivid where I can see the texture of the surface of the tissue. When this happens, it is the best experience.

But, sometimes (and I have reported this since the beginning) the sensations will build until I will have a very deep involuntary contraction. After that happens, I kind of have to start over again.

I am uncertain about "Opening Up" I want to understand this better.

@Armon-neat what do you mean by the "BC?"

I can distinguish between my PC muscles, the sphincter and the upper anal muscles. In fact, you can get a very pleasant rolling sensation between the PC and Sphincter muscles going that sort of rolls the device back and forth and side to side.

Alex_xxx When I get in that place where I can visualize very vividly, that is a magic place. Problem is I can not stay there very long, it will just suddenly vanish and I am fully awake and aware and it is difficult for me to get back to that place in that session.

Also, I am a person for whom it is very difficult to fully relax. Some people here talk about pot, but it makes me ill. What about a glass of wine or something???

Hmmm.. Ok.. To relax.. Both of you....

Youtube: ASMR

It MIGHT help.. On severen different planes. With that said, Im drunk today... Job "thing".

To me... I just suddenly realized I was opening up in the same way as ejac....before or during superO.. Took a few months. But i notised...

@Alex_xxx how long does it take for you to get to the stae of euphoria?

@xtimedt69: sorry I can't remember where I read it in these forums or maybe in the wiki about the bulbocavernous muscle. I think one of the veteran forum members talked about being able to separate the two muscles actions and how that helped get him to the O phase. Opening up the BC ( I hope I'm getting this right and please correct me, alex_xxx, if I'm not) is almost like allowing yourself to pee . So I've found that I can pull in the device "(suck it in" ) while I'm opening up the BC . I dunno , that's just what I think I'm doing....but it works! And don't forget to pay attention to the nipples. I suddenly found them sensitized at a point maybe 20 min into a session and then they can push you over the edge.

I know exactly what you're talking about @Armon-neat.. It kind of feels the same as you would when allowing yourself to pee. But no pee and a different muscle:)
And yes, the nips get super sensitive. They've pushed me over the edge a couple of times. But the last two times I haven't had the need to stimulate them to get the SuperO 🙂

And probably, like you, i didn't experience great anerosless sessions until I mastered the "opening up", focus and relaxing at the same time..

Can I add, it took literally a minute to get my prostate going, literally a minute from inserting the device!

Alex_xxx When I get in that place where I can visualize very vividly, that is a magic place. Problem is I can not stay there very long, it will just suddenly vanish and I am fully awake and aware and it is difficult for me to get back to that place in that session.

Also, I am a person for whom it is very difficult to fully relax. Some people here talk about pot, but it makes me ill. What about a glass of wine or something???

Alcohol never works for me, because it seems to dull my senses! If you can get to the visual and relaxed state, even for a little while, and that allows you to feel more stimulation, then expanding the range of time you are able to stay in that state, even if you only expand it a few seconds at a time, will be worth it in the long run!

I continue to state, and believe, this experience is some of the most fun we can have WITHOUT doing drugs!

TG

@alex_xxx, your drunk at work? LOL Yeah I dont think alcohol will solve any relaxation problems. Maybe try burning some incense and drinking some tea 😉

@Theme_Gasm Thanks, I think you are right about simply extending the time a little bit each session.

@ineverknew good suggestion.

@ineverknew hahaha.. No, it was an afterwork thing.. Payday beer with the colleagues:)

@Theme_Gasm Thanks, I think you are right about simply extending the time a little bit each session.

@ineverknew good suggestion.

That is the strategy that worked for me, and I'm more than pleased with the results!

TG

@Alex_xxx, ah ok, nothing wrong with that. Cheers!

@Alex_xxx, ah ok, nothing wrong with that. Cheers!

Don't you mean "bottoms up"? 😉

@twiltin, that works too!

For those that are interested in Male Squirting, this description of "Opening Up" is the key. I've been lacking a good term to use to describe it and this seems to represent it very well. It's hard to do since you naturally don't want to urinate. Once you learn to Open Up, you may release the seminal vesticle fluid. If you try this, make sure to first lay down some large towels!

Xileh