This is kind of gay

This is honestly kind of a gay feeling. ...The main reason for me to do this is because I believe this puts me further on the path to spiritual enlightenment,...

Every one is entitled to their own OPINION, fortunately, enlightenment will change opinion into acceptance, wisdom and understanding of deeper truths. I do indeed hope you can find, as others have, enlightenment along the Aneros pathway.
Good Vibes to You !

Hey @mdopio ,

thx for your thoughts, but I get the feeling that things get a little mixed up in your post.

This is honestly kind of a gay feeling.

Jeah... no. This is your gut feeling talking (and I get your point), but it makes no sense whatsoever. Anal pleasure ≠ gay - that's an old cliché that hardly dies out. If it was gay, playing with your wiener would be gay too. Plus, this point is not connected to the rest of your post: gay ≠ feminine.

In order to attain pleasure from this mechanism, I needed to adopt a submissive mentality. The whole time and afterwards, I thought "so this is what it feels like to be a woman and get pleasure from being fucked by a man." It's a complete reversal from getting off as a straight men normally, where I feel dominant and in control and wanting to take more control.

That's pretty spot on, I had the same thoughts back a while. But you don't have to have a submissive mindset - you just have to let got of the "control"-mindset. When you get a blowjob, you are not in control as well, still I guess you don't feel submissive, do you? Being submissive can be a huge turn on and boost for the session, but it's not mandatory. Still, embracing your "feminine" side can help you grow as a person. You may find this article interesting.

However, I think if you are a straight guy and you don't want to lose your masculine energy, you can't be obsessing over this type of pleasure. This is only a tool that should be used once in a while. If you're not concerned about losing your masculinity, then go nuts.

I don't know where this comes from, but for many guys this seems to be an issue. Why would you lose your masculine energy? Being masculine is more than just being aggressive and in control all the time. But you are right: if concern or even fear is involved, one should definitively don't push or force anything - that would be counterproductive.

The main reason for me to do this is because I believe this puts me further on the path to spiritual enlightenment, anyway. It makes me more attuned to my energy, which ultimately could make me a stronger and more powerful person.

That's the spirit! 🙂

Cheers, Unfug

I'm not sure how you got to the point of actually buying an aneros and trying it.
You seen to be very conflicted about the whole concept.

Hello Mr, how did u find out about the Aneros devices ? nb

A striaght guy here who has not even got to where the OP has gotten on his first try. Maybe I am too straight to let myself go.

There are mostly straight guys on this site I would think. We dont see the aneros toy as gay, but an enhancement of our straight sexuality and enjoyment.

You have only to read the accounts of Techpump, Awired50 and some other straight guys who use the aneros in sex and are in pleasure unknown to non aneros straight guys.

Hope your journey can follow the guys who put this toy to use in sex and are reporting unbelievable pleasure.

Come on guys! Sexual pleasures (male and female) come in many different "flavors". It's not relevant if you're straight or gay. I am 100% male, period. If I choose to fantasize about being submissive in sex (through chastity), I am not feminine; that is my fantasy. If I choose to fantasize about being with another guy.....am I gay? Hell no! You get the idea. Most of us guys know the extreme pleasures we can achieve with Aneros (and even without in Aless). For me, the fantasies come very naturally. Let's not box ourselves in with sexual labels!

Letting go of the illusion of control was something I came to grips with during my first California earthquake. Sure we can think we're in control, can command our little world & the people in it to do our bidding - until something comes along to disabuse us of the foolishness of that idea.
Participation in the giving & receiving of pleasure doesn't make someone gay... it makes them human. Whether or not the bulk of people here are gay, straight or any​ variety on that spectrum doesn't seem to be a concern for most people here, but instead just tapping into the knowledge base.
Oddly enough, all the people I have met who were overly focused on what defines gayness turned out to either be gay themselves or had serious sexual behavior issues. So I truly hope the OP can get his issues sorted out, rather than be haunted by questions & fears.

I concur with @rumel and @goldenboy .

A striaght guy here who has not even got to where the OP has gotten on his first try. Maybe I am too straight to let myself go.

There are mostly straight guys on this site I would think. We dont see the aneros toy as gay, but an enhancement of our straight sexuality and enjoyment.

You have only to read the accounts of Techpump, Awired50 and some other straight guys who use the aneros in sex and are in pleasure unknown to non aneros straight guys.

Hope your journey can follow the guys who put this toy to use in sex and are reporting unbelievable pleasure.

Thanks for the shout out!

It is true, these toys can get you to tap into elements of your HUMANITY that go beyond the feelings of sexuality, and far, far beyond the polarizing dichotomies of "male" and "female." I never, ever once thought "does anal and/or prostate pleasure from stimulation make me gay, or make me question my sexuality or gender?" These toys/devices never once made me feel like I suddenly needed to hold a man's hand in an intimate way. Or crave a kiss from a man.

Likewise, my wife never ever questioned or thought that maybe I was gay or wanted to "switch sides" because I found a toy that is easy to use and produces no pain that elevates my orgasms and ejaculations to near Herculean heights. If anything she was overly eager and excited to ALLOW me to explore this journey because she cares that much about how many orgasms I have, how powerful they are, and above and beyond all things, that I'm happy. She loves the shit out of me and I love the shit our of her. Besides, she's the one that gave me my first identifiable prostate orgasm; she was the one moving the toy and fucking my ass with it...let that one marinate for a few minutes before lighting the grill 😉

I honestly do appreciate everyone's opinions, I really do. We are all entitled to them. But using an Aneros, or getting any kind of anal/prostate stimulation, has nothing to do with the amount of masculinity that a man either has, expresses, or loses. It is about losing control and being uninhibited. If "masculinity" really does equate with "control" then losing control means losing the ability to be a man. That is derogatory towards women, I'm sorry, but it is. That is where the idea that losing masculinity makes a man gay. That is where the idea that losing masculinity makes you more like a woman--where "having orgasms" from prostate stimulation somehow makes a man the same as a woman. While my wife does appreciate the idea that I might be having multiple orgasms on levels equal to her own, she also knows that I have a cock and balls and a prostate and I'm not a biological woman; therefore, there's no way that anything I'm experiencing is exactly like what she's experiencing. The only link or likeness between us is that we're both cumming our fucking brains out over and over!!

Lastly, "obtaining pleasure from this toy" is not through submitting to a submissive mentality. You are not forcing yourself to act and behave like a bottom here. You should not be focusing on an idea like this: "Ok, in order to orgasm from this toy, I need to imagine that I'm getting pummeled by a man's cock right now." You just need to relax, breathe, and enjoy the fact that you are a human being that has soft tissue inside your body that can become engorged with blood, which, when properly stimulated, can generate a for-real orgasm that has nothing to do with the fact that you can get a boner.

If anything, having O after O from prostate/anal stimulation connects me with the fact that I am a man more than anything. It's prostate fluid/precum/semen coming out of my cock when my prostate is stimulated, not the secretions of a vagina or the prostatic-like fluid that is ejaculated out of a woman when she squirts (although there are STRONG similarities between men and women in this regard...but that's another topic). My advice is to take your hand off your cock, lay back and enjoy the ride!

Something I will add - a man or woman can be submissive in the bedroom and be very much not a submissive in the rest of their life. Indeed this is sometimes how people achieve "balance" - a successful career woman may want to let down her guard and be very submissive in the bedroom with a trusted partner. Same goes for men. I will say that I do feel very submissive when using aneros, and I like it that way. I can feel the stress melt away.

I've used aneros, a glass dildo in my ass for prostate massage, and most recently a Zero Tolerance Twisted Rimmer. I'm a 100% testosterone driven male, but this feeling of having my ass receive objects is very compelling. Afterwards I feel used, kind of a warmth spreading from my ass. If I were a woman, I'd probably be a total slut for cock several times a day. As it is, I'm wondering about asking my gf to peg me.

Someone has said, who feels offended by the idea of two women commanding the Enterprise in "Star Trek: Discovery" did never understand the series.
I'd add, who sticks to antiquated views of gender roles will have severe difficulties to let go and find his path between reservations and expectations to enjoy his journey to new dimensions of bliss, mankind has never experienced before. Live long and prosper and with good vibes!

[...], but this feeling of having my ass receive objects is very compelling. Afterwards I feel used, kind of a warmth spreading from my ass. If I were a woman, I'd probably be a total slut for cock several times a day. As it is, I'm wondering about asking my gf to peg me.

If you want to get into the mood for pegging, you might like to listen to this file.
You only have to close your eyes, relax and listen.
If you want to go deeper you might want to start here.

Good vibes, have fun!

SOwithoutAneros, thanks!!

Dear Troll,

I hope you never receive a blowjob again. So passive. In fact, ancient Romans sometimes performed fellatio on their slaves. They thought it was okay, because giving oral sex was considered active, and receiving it - passive.

This is why many women love blowjobs. They feel in control.

Unless you're doing throatfuck, thrusting into her throat, or leading her head with your hand, receiving blowjob from a woman is gay.

Oh no! Nobody told me!

So my morning fantasy about eight women in my room in the end was totally gay? I'm shocked!

Tess Skeffington: I'm scared, Sam. Hold me.
Sam Diamond: Hold yourself. I'm busy.

Tess Skeffington: Twain picked up Sam in a gay bar.
Sam Diamond: I was working on a case! Working.
Tess Skeffington: Every night for six months?

Sam Diamond: I never did nothin' to a man that I wouldn't do to a woman.

Tess Skeffington: Sam, why do you keep all those naked muscle men magazines in your office?
Sam Diamond: Suspects. Always looking for suspects.

Words of Wisdom ... from 'Murder by Death' (Peter Falk as private investigator Sam Diamond)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hajTNlooZKE .....we are just getting in touch with our inner cowboy

Interesting discussion, @mdopio , thanks for bringing it up. Even as a young teen, I felt the desire for anal stimulation and like a lot of teens, I experimented with whatever I could get that did the trick (OMG, the weird things I've stuffed up my ass haha). I'm happy to have found Aneros and other products that make it a whole lot safer and actually fit me perfectly. I agree that anal stim isn't by definition gay, since every guy has a prostate and stimulation of it brings pleasure alone or with a partner. Nothing gay about it in my mind. However, there is also the act of getting pegged or fucked, whichever way you want to describe it. In my experience, it's a fantastic way of letting go, feeling completely out of control, which is a great break for me and my job as a manager of others. So it does feel good to me to not be in control the way I am when I'm screwing someone, as I'm on the receiving end. I don't think gay guys have a monopoly on that dynamic. I'd love to hear if @Twisted has had the pegging experience he's interested in. Getting up the nerve to ask your girl to help you out takes balls.

I too was a teenager some 40 years ago who loved putting things up my butt. In a perfect world, my sexuality would be with a woman, e.g. my wife, but me being submissive and receiving anal stimulation, e.g. pegging. I think once the fantasy was realized I'd be happy doing that half the time, and being the dominant giver. Push-pull. Ying-yang.

Stroker and oldernewb, thanks for your positive comments. Last weekend, I got up the nerve to tell my gf of two years that I'd like to try pegging. We were talking during sex, her on the bottom face down and me on top fucking her from behind. One of our talk fantasies is about her going beyond masturbating in bed in her double dorm room in college. She told me once she and her roommate were swapping first time stories, and both masturbating in their own beds at night in the dark under the covers, but not acknowledging it, except my gf told her she was so wet and she liked to taste her juice sometimes, and was often so wet she kept a T shirt under her pillow to wipe her pussy. (Fuck me, that's pretty hot to be telling your roommate at age 18.) So, I started talking about whether she ever thought of fucking her roommate with a dildo, or maybe a vibrator, or maybe a strap on. She got into the whole idea of a strap on. I know she liked to stay topless in her room while at the desk, and started talking about walking around with a strap on in the room. Like, maybe her roommate would come back to the room after class, and see my gf wearing the strap on, maybe even under some clothes, and know she was going to get fucked. Then I started wondering what a strap on would feel like. Pretty soon she was asking me if I'd let her fuck me, and she got me to get on my hands and knees so she could put a finger in my ass. She said she thought it felt a bit stretched out and asked me if I'd been playing with my ass. So I showed her my glass dildo, which is a bit smaller than the Twisted Rimmer I've been using. She said, "We're going to the sex shop. There's a toy I want you to buy me!"

So off we went to a very female-positive sex store in downtown Toronto, last Wednesday. She wanted to get a Hitachi because she said she's always wanted to try something really strong, and spent a while asking the clerk about whether they are too strong, and whether it might desensitize her. They had an interesting conversation and she got one. Then she said, "I need to look at strap ons so I can fuck this guy's ass!" Pointing at me. The clerk smiled, maybe smirked a bit, and stayed very professional. We picked out a silicone complicated-shaped thing with a fat piece about four inches long that sockets into her cunt, and a U-curved flat "saddle" that rocks on her pubic bone on the outside of her vulva, then a seven inch tapered cock with a head that protrudes out a hole in a leather harness (to add stability). She tried it on as soon as we got home and got a lot of juice all over the four inch part up her hole, and I licked her, putting my face around the cock. She came twice but told me I'd have to wait for my first fuck on Friday night.

Friday she kept texting me that she hoped I was really hot to get fucked. After a nice dinner out, we went back to my place and opened a bottle of wine. Soon we were naked and she put the strap on into her cunt, and told me to do up the buckles and lick her ass. She was moaning and rocking the strap on iinside her by holding the cock and moving it up and down. She told me she was tired of jerking off and wanted to fuck. She put a lot of lube on her cock, and told me to get on the bed on all fours and spread my ass. Then she spit on my asshole, and told me to rub it in. I think that was for effect, because she lubed my ass nicely with her fingers, using the same lube she used on the cock. Then she gently, slowly, but without stopping, pushed the entire thing up my ass!! I could tell she was really excited by her breathing and she kept telling me to take her cock deep. After a few minutes, she told me to lie down on my back with my ass on a pillow. She shoved it in fast and it hurt a bit but felt really good. She fucked me deep for a few minutes then told me to stroke my cock. She kept leaning over my cock and drooling spit onto it from her mouth. We hadn't really ever played with spit before and I didn't know she got aroused by the thought of spitting on me. She leaned down over me, with her hands on my shoulders, and told me to open my mouth, then drooled a long stream of spit in my mouth. Then she asked if I liked getting fucked and I said, uh huh. She said, answer me properly and I said Yeah, I liked having her fuck me. She slapped my cheek a bit and told me she wanted to see me cum, and I said I'd have to stroke some more for that to happen. She got back up on her knees and fucked me while I jerked off. It felt great and I came a lot. (I'd held back for 3 days.) Then she took off the harness, pulled the strap on out of her hole, and sat on my face. I kept stroking the whole time I ate her. She kept asking me how my ass felt and I said, "Used."

Thanks for your vivid report making me quite envious while giving me a nice hard-on, too. You seem to have helped her to untie all her fetters. Now she can let go and give in to her deepest desires. Keep us posted, what will come next! Good luck and good vibes!

Stroker and oldernewb, thanks for your positive comments. Last weekend, I got up the nerve to tell my gf of two years that I'd like to try pegging. We were talking during sex, her on the bottom face down and me on top fucking her from behind. One of our talk fantasies is about her going beyond masturbating in bed in her double dorm room in college. She told me once she and her roommate were swapping first time stories, and both masturbating in their own beds at night in the dark under the covers, but not acknowledging it, except my gf told her she was so wet and she liked to taste her juice sometimes, and was often so wet she kept a T shirt under her pillow to wipe her pussy. (Fuck me, that's pretty hot to be telling your roommate at age 18.) So, I started talking about whether she ever thought of fucking her roommate with a dildo, or maybe a vibrator, or maybe a strap on. She got into the whole idea of a strap on. I know she liked to stay topless in her room while at the desk, and started talking about walking around with a strap on in the room. Like, maybe her roommate would come back to the room after class, and see my gf wearing the strap on, maybe even under some clothes, and know she was going to get fucked. Then I started wondering what a strap on would feel like. Pretty soon she was asking me if I'd let her fuck me, and she got me to get on my hands and knees so she could put a finger in my ass. She said she thought it felt a bit stretched out and asked me if I'd been playing with my ass. So I showed her my glass dildo, which is a bit smaller than the Twisted Rimmer I've been using. She said, "We're going to the sex shop. There's a toy I want you to buy me!"

So off we went to a very female-positive sex store in downtown Toronto, last Wednesday. She wanted to get a Hitachi because she said she's always wanted to try something really strong, and spent a while asking the clerk about whether they are too strong, and whether it might desensitize her. They had an interesting conversation and she got one. Then she said, "I need to look at strap ons so I can fuck this guy's ass!" Pointing at me. The clerk smiled, maybe smirked a bit, and stayed very professional. We picked out a silicone complicated-shaped thing with a fat piece about four inches long that sockets into her cunt, and a U-curved flat "saddle" that rocks on her pubic bone on the outside of her vulva, then a seven inch tapered cock with a head that protrudes out a hole in a leather harness (to add stability). She tried it on as soon as we got home and got a lot of juice all over the four inch part up her hole, and I licked her, putting my face around the cock. She came twice but told me I'd have to wait for my first fuck on Friday night.

Friday she kept texting me that she hoped I was really hot to get fucked. After a nice dinner out, we went back to my place and opened a bottle of wine. Soon we were naked and she put the strap on into her cunt, and told me to do up the buckles and lick her ass. She was moaning and rocking the strap on iinside her by holding the cock and moving it up and down. She told me she was tired of jerking off and wanted to fuck. She put a lot of lube on her cock, and told me to get on the bed on all fours and spread my ass. Then she spit on my asshole, and told me to rub it in. I think that was for effect, because she lubed my ass nicely with her fingers, using the same lube she used on the cock. Then she gently, slowly, but without stopping, pushed the entire thing up my ass!! I could tell she was really excited by her breathing and she kept telling me to take her cock deep. After a few minutes, she told me to lie down on my back with my ass on a pillow. She shoved it in fast and it hurt a bit but felt really good. She fucked me deep for a few minutes then told me to stroke my cock. She kept leaning over my cock and drooling spit onto it from her mouth. We hadn't really ever played with spit before and I didn't know she got aroused by the thought of spitting on me. She leaned down over me, with her hands on my shoulders, and told me to open my mouth, then drooled a long stream of spit in my mouth. Then she asked if I liked getting fucked and I said, uh huh. She said, answer me properly and I said Yeah, I liked having her fuck me. She slapped my cheek a bit and told me she wanted to see me cum, and I said I'd have to stroke some more for that to happen. She got back up on her knees and fucked me while I jerked off. It felt great and I came a lot. (I'd held back for 3 days.) Then she took off the harness, pulled the strap on out of her hole, and sat on my face. I kept stroking the whole time I ate her. She kept asking me how my ass felt and I said, "Used."

THAT is an unreal and amazing introduction to pegging!!!! Wow man I'm jealous, even though my wife has been very good at pegging me over the years (just wish we did it more, more often...). You've got a real keeper there man, she must love you deeply and honestly. Thanks for sharing and so happy this worked out in such an erotic way for you!!!

She pegged me again last night. I told her my ass felt so used. I'm starting to really like how it feels when she fucks me.

THAT is an unreal and amazing introduction to pegging!!!! [Affirmative!] Wow man I'm jealous, [Me too!] Thanks for sharing and so happy this worked out in such an erotic way for you!!! [So damn right!]

@Twisted, visualizing your pegging initiation and how she used your ass again last night, it came to my mind, that (if you both are still into involving another man into a threesome and let him fuck you) she, too, should be pegging you, perhaps both of them taking you in turns. Most of all I thought of this as a good idea to avoid feelings of jealousy and to make clear that she keeps in control of the situation and ... of your ass as well. 😉
You missed to mention, how she felt after her second pegging, did she too enjoy to use you?
Oh, fuck, this all makes my gland starting Aless again! So jealous!!! 😮
As fast, as you started with pegging, I hope to hear about your threesome soon, 😎 sooo cool!

I think she's really enjoying pegging me. At a restaurant on Halloween she started whispering to me that maybe I should have dressed as an ass slut, because she wants to fuck me again, and knows I want it. She knows I have some anal toys and has started saying she wants to inspect them to see if I've been playing with my ass. Of course I have -- I'm getting addicted to feeling my ass full and have a glass dildo up my ass right now. So I told her I really want to take her cock, and she fucked me about midnight on Halloween. She spit on my ass, and used lots of lube, and spit on my ass cheeks and back as she fucked me while I was face down. Eventually she rolled me over and shoved it up me hard, too hard, and I yelled and she slapped me hard. She said she didn't care if I came, and when she was done fucking, she straddled my chest and used the part of the strap on that fits in her cunt to get herself off. Then she pulled it out, straddled my mouth and said to lick and eat whatever comes out of her pussy. She was very wet with juice and lube and I licked it happily. Then she fed me a squirt of pee. I asked if she peed and she wouldn't admit it. God, I love this, I love how my ass feels open and a bit sore, really used. Don't think I want a guy fucking me though.

I used to have to work to get the glass dildo up me, and now it just slides right in my ass. I'm getting stretched.

I think she's really enjoying pegging me. [...] She knows I have some anal toys and has started saying she wants to inspect them to see if I've been playing with my ass. [...] She said she didn't care if I came, [...] Then she pulled it out, straddled my mouth and said to lick and eat whatever comes out of her pussy. [...] God, I love this, I love how my ass feels open and a bit sore, really used. Don't think I want a guy fucking me though.

Instead you seem to slide into a femdom relationship, not far and you will learn to know chastity, too! :p
She already showed the skills to dom you and to teach you to become a GOOD BOY.

Thanks for your vivid and detailed report! Hope, she will allow you to keep us posted.

"Don't think I want a guy fucking me though"?

Maybe it's NOT YOUR DECISION any longer? 😮

I want this lol

This is exactly how she spit in my mouth the first time she pegged me:
http://femdom-dreamer.tumblr.com/post/165234400269