The Tug O' War method: Some clarification

what you actually need to do, and im not sure why nobody ever clarifies this, is push out on the middle perineum muscle, while at the same time pulling down the muscle group closer to your asshole... closer to your asshole. one goes out, and the other goes down. this creates the 'tug of war' effect immediately every single time. you will not need to do much of anything after figuring this out, as your body will naturally 'cramp up' kind of like a charlie horse in your foot, except in your prostate region, and it will twitch on its own without any input. as you continue to do this your muscles will get 'better' at spasming and staying in that state without getting fatigued. this is when stuff starts getting fun.

what you actually need to do, and im not sure why nobody ever clarifies this, is push out on the middle perineum muscle, while at the same time pulling down the muscle group closer to your asshole... closer to your asshole. one goes out, and the other goes down. this creates the 'tug of war' effect immediately every single time. you will not need to do much of anything after figuring this out, as your body will naturally 'cramp up' kind of like a charlie horse in your foot, except in your prostate region, and it will twitch on its own without any input. as you continue to do this your muscles will get 'better' at spasming and staying in that state without getting fatigued. this is when stuff starts getting fun.

If this is true then its a bit of a shocker and the person that wrote that initial guide really should have been more careful in the dissemination of advice/guidance regarding the technique as this is, if true, is something ive been doing wrong for a number of years. Unbeleiveable.

Hey @The_Fury and @aneros_user92471,

I have had trouble identifying the two different muscles

There is a very handy solution for this which I only posted in a dozen threads already (it was even added to the wiki in the meantime):

▶ Pelvic Floor Part 1 - The Pelvic Diaphragm - 3D Anatomy Tutorial - YouTube
▶ Pelvic Floor Part 2 - Perineal Membrane and Deep Perineal Pouch - 3D Anatomy Tutorial - YouTube

Do a regular Kegel workout (3x a day, 20-30 reps) and you will gain muscle memory fairly quickly. It's not just two muscles, but 10+ !

and im not sure why nobody ever clarifies this, is push out on the middle perineum muscle, while at the same time pulling down the muscle group closer to your asshole... closer to your asshole. one goes out, and the other goes down. this creates the 'tug of war' effect immediately every single time

I tried this while reading and it worked surprisingly well. Kudos for that! 🙂 Your description is a bit vague though.

push out on the middle perineum muscle

Bulbospongiosus?

pulling down the muscle group closer to your asshole

Traversus superifcialis (outer traverse muscle)?

Cheers, Unfug

without me guessing which muscles - i would say that you are pushing out like you are going to urinate just below the base of the penis, while also pulling your rectum downward. you dont have to push very hard for either muscle. be aware that the rectum flex is unusual and takes practice.
also try to take deep breaths and imagine them filling the area that is above the base of the penis, the spot up top where your abdomen meets your pubic region. the combination of these things should help.

Is the Aneros supposed to move in and out of you with contractions, or just gently "rock" back and forth? I seemed to have gotten that hang of make it go in and out a ways without it falling out. Not sure this is the intention though.