Telling Wife bad experience

I'm guessing she was taken by surprise and had a jerk reaction. Understandable. Calm down. She's known you long enough to know who you really are. Now she knows you like anal play so you don't have to hide it or feel guilty. Good for you for being open with her. You don't have to share the same sexual likes but it's nice when that works out.

I agree with @euphemistic on this, I think she was just surprised. Bringing the subject up during love making may not have been the best setting. While you were in the toy shop may have worked better. You could have shown it to her and if she agreed, would have been involved rather than threatened. The "gay" comment is a common reaction.

If you go to sex toy shops together and pick out toys, you must have pretty open communications between you. You might just give it some time and gently work back to it. She just needs to get over the shock. If she does, she'll be intrigued with the amount of pleasure she can give you and Aneros use or more may become a regular part of your time together.

Xileh

I had a very similar reaction from my wife when I told her. She seemed very negative to start with but we are now talking about it and after discussing what my orgasms felt like last night I even had a dry orgasm with her for the first time ever. It's actually made us a lot closer but it took time.
Well done for telling her, you are over the worst bit she will (hopefully) come to understand what it is all about once she is over the shock. it sounds as if she doesn't quite know what to think about it at the moment and is presuming the worst - maybe you are gay, maybe you won't be interested in her any more, those are the sort of vibes I got from my wife to start with. I remember expecting her to be interested when I first mentioned it and had the exact same thought as you 'that didn't go as I had hoped'.

Good luck, I think you have done the right thing.

I'm not sure that i did the right thing in telling her. I prefer to be open and honest but it didn't really go as i had hoped. I'm pretty sure she doesnt think i'm gay anymore but is still very much into vanilla only stuff (except her vibrator which we use sometimes on her....Any thoughts?

IMHO, you did the RIGHT thing! I agree with the other responders above, being open and honest with your feelings makes it possible for you to continue without guilt and more importantly keeps open the possibility for further communication, understanding and intimacy with your wife. This journey you have embarked upon is more significant than you may now yet realize, follow your intuition and the adventure will expand.
Good Vibes to You !

Hi all, my wife and I are also very open and talk about sex and toys, all the time! I recently, asked her if she knew what pegging and prostate massage were. She didn't really know, so I sent her a couple of tumblr links! She was very intrigued and wanted to know more! So far, so good! we then talked about pegging while making love, and she loved the idea!
I found the Aneros site one day and read about men having boatloads of orgasms, and showed her the site! She could not believe the experiences, that some men were having! I couldn't either, and have always told her that I wish men could have multiples as well!
Last week I ordered the Paridise set of 4 and the Helix Syn! Ive tried the Helix Syn, once, but didn't really feel anything, more than a pleasurable feeling! Now everyday, when she comes home, she asks me, did you play with your new toy today! Ha ha! I asked her last night if she was going to ask me that every day! She said, I just know I'm going to ask you one day, and you're going to say, OMG, I had 25 orgasms today
Tell your wife, that being straight or gay, is determined by who you have sex with, and not the sexual acts themselves!

I hope this helped!

Dolphin#1 : keep it up. It gets better.
User 48013: she'll get it eventually. Keep it up.

In my case I had discussed the aneros experience with my wife before I ordered one. I was completely honest about my interest in it. I told her that I was looking on the internet about ways for men to have great orgasms, and I came across prostate massage...leading to the aneros. (it's true, I had never heard of prostate massage before)
She was curious but interested when I told her about the health benefits to my prostate, and quite intrigued with the pleasurable side effects that could involve great orgasms for me and extra side effects that she would enjoy. At that point she said I should get one! Of course, now since I've had it for several months and we both have enjoyed the results of my using it, both alone and when I'm with her, she loves my helix as much as I do.
For you guys that don't have one yet, I would definitely let her in on the decision right from the start. If she can see that it's fun for so many of us, and that it's healthy too, chances are she'll encourage you to get one!
For you guys who have already secretly had one for a while, it could be touchier. Once you approach her about your interest and explain all the benefits, assuming she wants you to get one, you'll need to decide how to proceed from there. At least at that point, you'll know she's receptive to the idea.
Of course if she is against it, then you have other decisions to make. At least you'll know where she stands on the subject without jumping in head first and landing on a rock.

Hello, all.

Telling your wife or SO about Aneros is a great idea that should be handled very carefully. To make the topic easy to discuss, start with the health aspects. Point your lady to the High Island Health website: http://www.highisland.com/
After she gets the message about health benefits, then the discussion of pleasurable "side effects" can begin, slowly.

Cheers,

Dave

@aneros_user48013

What did you expect ? You might aswell have told her you cheated on her. It could have been a non-issue or even a kink for her if you kept her in the loop. But by making it a secret sex life you both lied to her and made it clear you were ashamed of it. Her conclusion and reaction makes perfect sense. This is no way to treat your wife. A couple's life is not about selfishly taking pleasure from anything, it is about sharing.

Sorry to be harsh. Truth hurts. As a matter of fact, you have hurt your wife with hidden truth, she has hurt you with blunt truth. Live and learn.

Most people here who talked about it with their partner BEFORE the purchase found great support, to the point they are envied by the single anerosers. See, aneros is nothing but an amplifier. Aneros doesn't bring pleasure, it amplifies pleasure. Bring in a great bound, it becomes a bigger bond. Bring lies and secrecy, it becomes even more lies and secrecy. Bring a broken relationship, it becomes even more broken. Bring in isolation and a bachelor life it tends to become even more isolation. But, because making Aneros work demands that you learn deep relaxation, it can also bring peace and balance. Which means, things eventually come out for the best as you learn to accept the new situation and adapt.

Relax, be true to your wife and enjoy !

Thanks everyone for your input. I feel that i have done the right thing in telling her....@Canacan
I Admit I should have told her from the start, but this was my way of trying to introduce it to her without letting her know that i already had one.
When i bought the toy and got her bad reaction she had no idea i already had one and i guess fear of this kind of reaction was why i kept it from her in the first place. Her reaction was not at finding out i had been up to something in secret, it was with me introducing the toy as a new thing. I did broach the topic a little bit first... i guess i misjudged her position on this kind of thing. In an ideal world i agree it is best to share everything with your life partner but relationships are all different.

So @aneros_user48013, how are you and your wife doing now?

After inserting my eupho (in the bathroom) i settled in next to her and tryed to get some contractions going.
She began to laugh and then cry... then said "Oh my god your gay!!!"

Not to sound insulting or rude, but that's an ignorant assumption of hers.

Do you eat her out? Lesbians eat each other out.

If the correlation that Gay people penetrate male anuses, then males that like anal penetration are gay;

then tell her that Lesbians eat pussy, so if she likes her pussy eaten then that means she's a lesbian.

Next time you're getting it on, give her a lick, and if she moans yell "Oh My God You're A Lesbian!?!"

Not to sound insulting or rude, but...

But you are... And making a stupid comment too.
... But I don't mean to sound insulting or rude, of course. 😉

My relationship with my wife is fine now. We get along and have normal, regular, good sex. Just no mention of aneros by either of us....@flippitybop I see what you mean and didnt find it rude, perhaps a bit crude but oh well... she is making assumptions which are not true and i could make similar assumptions with her. Although arguably cunnilingus is a more common part of hetro relationships than 'on him' anal play.....