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I know I'm relatively a newbie at this but, maybe you want it too badly and are concentrating on those feelings too hard. Have you tried changing up your routine? Maybe try some intense cardio before hand so you get a runners high. This could help get you into a relaxed, feel-good state and may be enough to get you there. Also try changing up your diet to include foods that help with male performance. I know I've read this many times and you probably have as well, but you have to accept the sessions and pleasure for what they are. Some are going to be better than others.

Try doing a session during a full moon. Sometimes when I've been abnormally horny I've looked up whether there was a full moon coming up. Almost always there was one within a few days. July 2nd is the next one.

@smudgefish, I hate to say it but get used to the lulls. Seems like everyone reports them including me. They will pass and you'll be back to something new and maybe better. At least that's my experience. Meanwhile the spiritual healing should help, your intimacy with your wife also (notice prostate pleasure during traditional sex? Deeper closeness? ), and @aneros_user120711's suggestions sound good. I know it's disappointing to have a lull. I was in one recently. It will pass 🙂

"Slow down, you move too fast, you've gotta make the morning last"
🙂

Thanks everyone. Just posting on here makes me feel better already (although still having problems).

@euphemistic I thought most people didn't get problems like this, reassuring to know it's not just me. Can't wait for it to pass though.
Never been so close to my wife. Traditional orgasm during sex is different now, lasts longer and more 'prostate based' but still doesn't compare to a good dry orgasm. Tried to start up a prostate orgasm during lovemaking (she was aware) but started to lose my erection, too much to concentrate on, might have to work on that one in the future.

@aneros_user120711 I appreciate your advice. I usually run long distance, had to pull out of a half marathon a month ago due to a foot injury but trying to build up the distance again now. Went for a run yesterday but it didn't help. I think it's all psychological. Maybe it is something to do with the cycle of the moon. But I'm wondering if it's just my body telling me to stop having orgasms and do something useful for a change!

I was driving into work and thinking. It occured to me that there must be a reason for this block so I concentrated on the feelings and started to realise that there is something much deeper needing to be shifted. I started crying and this time there were no words just a feeling of loneliness and being abandoned, it felt as if I had connected with something. I couldn't sink into it too deeply because I was driving but it felt as if something had 'connected', and as I felt it my prostate almost woke up, I was crying, feeling some deep emotions yet I started feeling turned on. A very strange mix of emotions.

When my solar plexus opened I let out my feelings of fear, probably related to being bullied. This feels like something much deeper, and I think I am slowly being 'cleared out' and connecting with everything inside me that needs to be felt emotionally and not repressed any more. The block on orgasming is a clue that things need to happen, I just need to start feeling it. Hopefully I will have time to come back to this later, I'm at work now just about to start Saturday clinic, looking at a long list of patients booked in, luckily it looks like just medical problems, not sure I could cope with any more depressed or suicidal people today, I had that all last week. I could really do with some free time but never get it.

@smudgefish, your post was most helpful. I have just got my copy of Hands of Light. I am going to review my lower chakras. I think that my Base Chakra condition is the reason why the sun is taking so long in rising!! I can check the various chakra conditions so I will chart my energy flow - we'll see.

Added later. Yep C1 and C2 are compromised. I think as we get older we start to loose energy in the lower chakras. Possibly why Aneros use is helpful as we age. I also think that the lower chakras need to be cared for. Security and sexuality will help so will Aneros use, though this is unexpected!

@smudgefish, the other standard work on kundalini and chakras:
Wheels Of Light, by Rosalyn Bruyere.
This is still in print.
I have found my copy and will now work with it as well. Amazing that I am revisiting this realm of energy after many years. The Aneros experience is pushing me forward again.

@isvara Hands of Light is an incredible read, lots of really interesting information in it, very helpful thanks. Might tkae a look at the other one you mention. How do you chart your own chakras? I think my C6 has closed off again, getting lots of brow pressure and feels stuck but I'm not sure. I can feel the vortices by hand now, it feels counterclockwise and weak. My spiritual healer mentioned they often revert back to what they are used to without care.Good luck with sorting yourself out! It's worth it.

Wow @isvara and @smudgefish, just got Hands of Light and only got as far as looking at the illustrations. This is a very advanced book!

I was asked for this, I am not sure the forum is the place it does fit into the topic of OP and thread.


@smudgefish, Personal Chakra Assessment.
1. Some guys some time ago on the Aneros Chat were ‘sending’ orgasmic energy to fellow chatters! (non-local)
2. Based on the premiss that we are all interconnected at some deep level non-local might be possible after all.
3. I have developed some basic skill with the pendulum (See Hands of Light)
4. For self assessment indication only: I simply write the Chakra Numbers in order on a piece of paper
5. I put one finger on a number and watch the pendulum swing.
7. The intention is to determine the condition. Then the next.
8. Getting the mind into neutral is the challenge.
9. Interestingly I have tried this ‘at a distance’ with another consenting person.
10. Critical for me is that this for an indication only not used for diagnostic purposes
11. I then follow up on the indication. It usually proves to be correct.


PS. If you feel C6 is compromised check its partner C2

@isvara thanks for that, might try it combined with using hands. I think we are all totally connected. I like the 'string' way of thinking about connections between us, everyone you have any interaction with in any way you form a string and can communicate and exchange energy.When I was being diagnosed with the pendulum my healer told me even is she tries to make it go the wrong way it won't, they have a mind of their own.
Thanks for the pointer to C2 I never realised they were paired up, I will take a look at it. Have to say I'm feeling anything but sexual right now.

@euphemistic happy reading. It gets a bit weird towards the second half of the book when she talks about God and the higher planes of existence, it starts to get almost religious but not quite.

I made the mistake of reading some people's super-O experiences on here last night and ended up being incredibly jealous - added to the stress of work and children I'm stressed out, and anything but grateful and allowing things to happen. There should be a warning on that super-O thread to only read it if you are doing well yourself, otherwise it just makes things worse! I need to get back to basics and start 'feeling the love' again.

EDIT: using pendulum: C7 open, C6 counterclockwise narrow, C5,4,3 wide open, C2 no movement (really bad)!, C1 open. Works really well thanks, sort of what I expected. I'm messed up again. Is it a sort of rebound from the spiritual healing? or is it some sort of 'close down' after the intensity of making love to my wife a few days ago which left me feeling somewhat overwhelmed as I had never felt sex at that level of connection before - some sort of internal conflict as if I don't feel I can take it or deserve it so shut off. Interesting.....

@smudgefish. My C2 is down.
I believe that ejaculation depletes C2 energy, however, arousal and erection increase C2 energy. This is fairly consistent with many Aneros post though they don't mention Chakras. On the upside bonding intimacy with partner is also extremely important. It is possible this that causes some of the swing that we experience. Eventually if we can orgasm without ejaculation with a partner we will hit a pinnacle - some users have experienced this - drat it!
As human beings I also think that we need to experience the lows so we can fully experience the highs. Just a bit worried I might run out of time!
I am grateful that you have reminded me of the subtle energy fields and chakras, for older folk this may be far more important than for younger folk who usually have huge reserves of energy. I see too many old folk living half-lives.
My wife is most amused and expects great things.

@isvara this is interesting. I've re-energised my C2 using stretching exercises and visualisation. Found it to be going counter-clockwise using the pendulum, and re-inforcing the right rotation using visualisation I can change its direction and energise it further. Two minutes later and it's going the wrong way again. It's a fickle thing. I suppose it just takes time to get the hang of controlling it and organising the energy flow properly.When it's going the right way I feel sexually energised, when it goes wrong I feel blocked. Could be onto something here. You have certainly pointed me in a very interesting directions thanks.
I'm looking forward to being able to share this with my wife, just need to get back to basics on my own first. I hope your wife is suitably impressed at some point.

EDIT: It's working... Shame I am child minding today wife is out visiting. Locked myself away for 5 minutes, got C2 rotating properly front and back, concentrated on the energy, colour and rotation, tried to get into orgasm and bang within minutes almost felt like a full body orgasm coming on, slightly spoilt by having to keep one ear open waiting for the inevitable fight between children and screams, had to cut short as they all came upstairs, but very encouraging. I could feel the vortex changing direction and pulled it back and it really kicked things off. Could be psychology but it works whatever.

Got to break out my pendulum agan. Thanks all for reminding me. I didn't know how to use it previously, just what my reiki healer did. Hope the Hands of Light book helps understand it. The qigong doesn't have the detailed information about the energy centers that the Indian system has. Doing lots of microcosmic orbit lately seems to recharge me though.

I noticed that ejaculation really depresses me recently, maybe the whole emotional lability thing. With spouse home from surgery, no time to ride until later. We'll see if the no ejaculation thing reenergizes my sessions. Until then I'm reading that book 🙂

@euphemistic hope it works for you. I think ejaculation messes everything up.

I told the children I wanted 30 minutes peace to lie down. Despite the dog and a cat jumping on me, and my eldest daughter shouting to me just as I started to orgasm I got into one of the best pelvic orgasms I have ever had, different to my previous ones, 'pure' and satisfying with no overtones of something trying to break through. C2 now wide open and healthy.

I think I need to keep an eye on these chakras it certainly makes a difference, "anti-clockwise rotation = block". Going to look at buying some crystals to keep things open - I thought it was rubbish but they do seem to work.

I've read through a lot of those super o posts, but usually stick to the first experience ones. I certainly understand the jealous part because when you want something so bad that comes to others so easily it is frustrating. Glad to see you finally got it back. I'm going to take some time off so I'm not so damn tired this week lol.

I assume you're talking about vertebra when you mention C2? What is the pendulum being mentioned? Any recommendations for a book or website for beginners?

@aneros_user120711 C2 refers to Chakra 2 or the sacral chakra which is supposed to be where sexual energy comes from. A pendulum is being used (like dowsing) to detect how open the chakra is and its rotation.I have learnt all this from a book recommended to me by @isvara 'Hands of Light' by Barbara Brennan, which is very detailed, but there are plenty of similar books out there I'm sure.

@smudgefish Thanks. Just looked it up to see if my local library has it, but no such luck. I'll have to look at B&N and see if they have it in stores. Otherwise, I may be making another internet purchase.

I've read about this off and on, but most of the sites I have visited haven't really gone into too much detail other than the standard graphics of the Chakras. Maybe detailed is what I need.

@smudgefish, surprised you can ride at all nevermind have orgasms LOL.

@euphemistic I would do anything to get some time on my own! Never going to happen.

PS My C2 technique has failed! Didn't work last night, so confidence gone again, but probably I was overdoing it. Maybe it's not magic. Like @aneros_user120711 I'm taking a break for a few days.

@smudgefish, I have just discovered that my C2 has been compromised for 60+ years. Looks like I'm in for the long haul. The indication is it can be repaired with regular use of Aneros P-Ice and estim (!) and other things. Again I thank my deeper self for leading me to the Aneros website. Miracles do happen. I am NOT going to feel down about this.
But I do!!!
I don't think problems in the energy systems can be simply fixed, as with many medical problems. The difference is I think they can be, unlike medical problems. It not just thought matter! At least you have had some very good energy orgasmic experiences! So 🙂

@isvara i have been reading more about chakra rotation, my C2 keeps going back to counter clockwise which I read can be normal for some people, or can indicate ongoing 'issues' that are slowly being resolved. A bit confusing really. Maybe I need to discuss it with my spiritual healer as I would like to get it in balance again not least of all because I might have better orgasms once it is functioning properly, my sexual function is still very hit and miss and not right. I think there are probably some deep seated problems (maybe past life?) that need to be brought out.
Do you know much about this?
Have to say like you it does get me down a bit but at least there is something to work on and think about. Interested to hear your progress as we both have a similar issue.

@isvara, I'm sorry about your c2 being compromised. How does that happen if you don't mind talking about it? Good to hear about the solution though. So much to learn, glad I'm retired and have the rest of my life to learn 🙂

@euphemistic. A lot of the lower chakras problem stem from childhood experiences. So any times of fear or stress can add up and create problems to the developing energy centers. Bullying and sexual abuse may cause 2C dysfunction depending on level and response. These fears or feelings of rejection can be real or imaginary. It depends on the way the developing person interprets the experience.
Most people will have some energy imbalance likewise most will not enjoy perfect health. It is simply part of our differences.
For many the orgasmic experience is not important or even desired, but for those who seek it these imbalances can cause problems, so we seek to get that flow running good, if it seems to be in the way of that elusive super 'o'.
I do believe that the energy flow can be restored, but it takes some knowledge, time and effort. But it is worth it.

@isvara, good to hear it can be restored. That's my situation with the early traumas. I worked on them with the emotional healing practice (Reevaluation Counseling) for several decades and either didn't finish the process or it was not effective just discharging emotions in itself. I suspect the latter. I'm just learning about the energy and spiritual healing practices and diving into them, reiki, acupuncture, qigong, tai chi, shiatsu. Reading Brennan's book last night I recognized something of what she was saying about listening to oneself. This is more than about just orgasms but the orgasms got me moving. I'm learning to trust my intuition and writing things down extensively. It's been a life long process for me but wound up in many dead ends. Some of them turned out to be useful anyway. It just seems such a long confusing process!

This may not make a lot of sense. Please only read if interested in the thread.

@euphemistic wrote: "This is more than about just orgasms but the orgasms got me moving."

The discovery of self-pleasure at the orgasmic level (actual or aspiring to) and the self-permission to explore and enjoy takes us to a new level of "being, consciousness and bliss" (satchitananda). For some it will require fine tuning of many levels of our being. The good news is that we have the support of 'all- there- is" (THAT) to make the most of this life. But the waters are uncharted and the consensus reality is in ignorance, even fear. The Aneros forum community is almost unique in its amazingly level headed approach to high self pleasure - which is after all the reason we are here.
The Aneros prostate massaging breaks through any 2C barriers releasing new energy (kundalini) that enables the super 'o' for starters.
I am really telling myself this but sharing it in case it helps

This is turning into a fascinating thread thanks particularly @isvara for sharing this information, and @euphemistic.

I discussed the power and rotation of chakras with a clairvoyant to day. She showed me how to use the pendulum correctly and I thought I had a tremor, but over my sacral chakra the pendulum was shaking as it rotated which means energy is surging through! Still counter clockwise but she assured me it doesn't really matter so I'm just going to let it do what it wants and go with it, apparently they change minute to minute. I think this rotation must indicate some process ongoing.

Interesting how the C2 is so bound with emotions, and probably explains why this is experienced as such an emotionally uplifting, or upsetting thing.

This is a fascinating topic. I think that in order to fully enjoy orgasmic pleasure the C2 has to be energised and be working to its full potential. Not quite sure how to achieve that so it's time to experiment and learn as much as I can about how to do it. I suspect that people who take quickly to the aneros and achieve easy super-Os are probably blessed with good functioning open C2s from the start and are psychologically 'clean' and balanced, the rest of us need to work on it - either with years of practice, which essentially energises and organises flow, or by meditation and emotional cleansing. That's my theory at the moment, but my theories change as I learn. If anyone has any pointers to how to achieve this they would be gratefully received.

I have shared much of this with my wife, her pearls of wisdom:

"Go with the flow ........ and be surprised"

Thank you @smudgefish and @euphemistic, the flood gates are opening I have much to work on.

I have thought how totally emotional this all is. I can't orgasm because I feel so bad deep inside. I'm on the verge of tears again but I can't let it out because I never get any time alone.
I can't remember how many times I have driven back from work past everyone else walking home from a night out after starting at 7am myself, with no break even to eat lunch, feeling like I wanted to cry. I spend all day sorting out people's stress, depression and personal problems - taking on all the emotion myself. I work extra to cover for other doctors. Never had a day off sick. Even as a teenager I volunteered to help people in all my spare time. At home my children never leave me alone, I love them, but it goes on until midnight and starts again at 6am. My wife is stressed and I hear all about it and take it all on. I have had enough. I need some time to myself before I burst.
This is what it is all about. I can never enjoy myself I spend every waking hour taking on other people's problems and have done all my life. Until now it has made me feel useful and given me a purpose but it's not the real me, I want to enjoy myself and just be myself for the first time ever. I can't do it any longer I'm totally trapped and I need to change my life before I die of stress.
At least I am recognising it now, I have handed in my notice at work but still have 6 weeks to go. I wish I could really feel the desperation, it's close to the surface but if I let it all out I won't be able to function, but I desperately want to cry and cry there is so much wanting to come out. I have to forget it and get on with work again, empathise with suicidal patients, and sorting out the children and listen to my wife when I get home. I want to cry but I have to push it down again and just feel as as 'stress'. I just hope I can access it again I'm worried I won't be able to I have suppressed it for 30 years.
Writing this has been upsetting I never realised how bad I felt and how false my life has been until now, I feel totally used and pointless.