Spouse involvement?

Perhaps invite her AFTER the 30 minutes.
I have done this, getting an epic BJ.

Pop in the aneros and while you wait eat her for 30 min. I am sure the feelings will start think and fast. Sexual excitement breeds pwaves.

liquidflow,

I think @braveneworld offered you an excellent suggestion for involving your wife. First, this gets her involved at the very outset of your session in a pleasing and loving way. Secondly, it immediately stimulates all your senses into heightened states of arousal, an essential mental state for generating Super-O's. Thirdly, it encourages you to "Just Let Go !" of egocentric control issues as you slide into merging your pleasure with your wife's.
After 30 minutes of providing her with multiple orgasms, I'm pretty confident she will be more than happy to reciprocate by appropriately stimulating you. Just be sure to tell her to avoid too much penile stimulation so as to avoid a session ending ejaculation (at least until you are both ready for an explosive finish).
Good Vibes to You !

@liquidflow
Be sure to arrange a big chunk of together-time with zero distraction. Think at the very least 2h. And don't do it on your sleep time or you'll sure end up doing just that: sleeping.

This is often the toughest to set up for most people. The rest will work one way or another as long as you both are in neither stress nor hurry.

In the first stages for me, it helped to have a quiet 30 minutes to get used to the Aneros. Now almost a year in. It doesn't matter, I can put it in and we can immediately start playing..

Here are some of my earlier experiences from a couples point of view..
https://community.aneros.com/blogs/aneroscouple/


Trust me, she will not be bored, quite the opposite!