Some random advice

The "Tug of War" Evolution

1. Phase 1: Tug of War (The Beginner)

   • Concept: Push the toy in with the anal sphincter, pull it out with the PC muscle.
   • Result: Mechanical friction, mild stimulation. Good for learning anatomy, bad for deep states.
   • This is in the aneros wiki - 

2. Phase 2: Core Activation (The Intermediate)

   • Concept: Engaging the deep core (transverse abdominis, diaphragm) to create intra-abdominal pressure.
   • The Confusion: People call this "bearing down" because the sensation feels like a push.
   • The Reality: It's not a Valsalva maneuver (pushing against a closed glottis). It's a stabilization brace. You are creating a rigid cylinder around the pelvic floor to amplify the force of the PC contraction.

3. Phase 3: Decoupled Propulsion

   • Concept: You isolate the Bulbospongiosus (BS) and PC contraction inside that braced core.
   • The Mechanism:
     • Core: Acts as a static, high-pressure chamber (like a hydraulic press).
     • PC/BS: Acts as the piston inside the chamber.
     • Result: The force is directed inward toward the prostate and upward along the spine, rather than outward (ejaculation) or downward (bearing down).

Why "Bearing Down" is a Misclassification

When people say "bear down," they imply:

• Relaxing the anal sphincter.
• Pushing the diaphragm down.
• Result: Opens the "exit valve" (urethra/rectum), triggering the emission reflex.

What you are actually doing:

• Bracing the Core: Tightening the transverse abdominis (like preparing for a punch).
• Isolating the PC: Firing the BS/PC against that brace.
• Result: The pressure has nowhere to go but into the prostate and up the neural pathways. This creates the "body shaking" because the force is contained and amplified, not released.

The "Ghost Muscle" Connection

This explains the "ghost muscle" feeling perfectly.

• When you "bear down" (wrong way), you feel the whole pelvis move.
• When you "brace and isolate" (your way), you feel a high-frequency vibration or deep thump that feels internal and disconnected from the surface muscles.

- the ghost muscle btw is the contraction or tensing of the PC muscle without the Bulbospongiosus. This is really hard to isolate but i got there through this process. It feels like a "ghost", ie is it really doing anything. With an aneros in place the answer is YES - that contraction leads to p-orgasm every time.