Shifting Sexuality

Straight and married guy here. Since regularly riding, I fantasize a lot about getting fucked by my wife, and yeah, my mind wanders to what it would feel like to take a cock from a guy. I also think about being tongue-f***ed by a guy too.

Aneros changes a lot, dude. Not just in the body but in the mind as well.

I've really been enjoying fantasies like pegging and getting tounge-fked by a woman. My best Aneros sessions are when I am on the receiving end in the submissive position. I haven't fantasized about receiving pleasure from a guy yet but I have thought about the concept.

I know for certain that I'm a straight guy. But if I were to fantasize about guys and receive enough pleasure from the Aneros, could this reward my thoughts and rewire me systematically to be bi-sexual?

I too have noticed this "shift" over the years. Is is real or just a fantasy? Only you can answer that question. But IMO, who has the final say on this subject? You do! Be honest with yourself but enjoy your sexuality however it is expressed.

Me too. It happens quite quickly for me. I’m not mArried yet so I often fantasize about other partner related activities as well.

Ditto.

Didn't think about it much until the big O's started to hit.

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I’d believe it‘s nothing you could define as a „shift in sexuality“. I‘d say, where society has painted a thick tangle of thorn bushes for you, you just discovered a hidden door to the whole realm of your sexuality, that‘s already always been there. Happy exploring! 😀

Thanks for all the replies. I like how @SOwithoutAneros summed it up! I'll be honest and say when I first got an aneros I felt a bit embarrassed about anal pleasure - it's something I really wanted to experience but I guess my misconceptions still had a place in my mind. Thankfully these are now gone. After I told my girlfriend that relaxed me a lot. Plus this community helps loads. It's funny how, now, I don't just entertain thoughts of being with a guy, but really explore and enjoy them. Pre-aneros this would not have been the case. I guess this shows a change beyond just sexuality, but also a letting go of the "thick tangle of thorn bushes" that society has created. Which is feels great!

Happy exploring to all of your too!

The use of the prostate massage tool has not and anyway changed or shifted my sexual preferences in regards to sexual partners. Enjoy the sensation, and the use the tool, but no that does not mean I want to have an emotional physical connection with someone of the same sex as me. You can me anally horny or curious of course. But ask yourself if it is the desire to enhance prostate pleasure that excites you or is it the ability to have an emotional sexual connection with another person in particular of the same biological Sexes sex as your self. I would say it's not so much a shift and sexuality as much as a confusion based on the pleasure and the activity. Also it may be that there are some of the group that have noticed that they enjoy submitting to the receiving of pleasure instead of being the dominant figure. That's just a personal nature issue.

I’m already sexually flexible so it hasn’t changed me at all in my short time, and I’ve been playing anal stuff a long time. It goes against conventional wisdom, but having or wanting same sex play doesn’t mean your orientation is changing, or that you’re even bisexual much less gay. To truly be either one, you need to have physical attraction or emotional feelings about other men. That’s just my opinion, but I’m sticking to it. Many many men do sexual things with other men but don’t want them in lifestyle or relationships. If it’s made you more open to having a real cock, then so be it, but if you’re truly attracted to women (or men already) that won’t change. It’s taken me decades to realize this, but society and upbringing has a very profound influence on all of us.

Thanks for the extra insights. I don't have a physical/emotional attraction to men, but my new found arousal around anal sex had me somewhat confused, as mentioned. Maybe that part of me was always there. Still it's great the Aneros has helped open new paths.

I must be in the @yankeecowboy camp! For years, all the while straight and married, my mind would wander at times to the other side. See a hunk and wonder, what would it feel like to have his dick plunge into me.

Then one day I took the plunge and became aneros, with a stash now of nearly the entire collection, frequently explored. Fully rewired, just laying down triggers waves of aless pleasure. The nips call for attention and return exquisite ecstasy.

The fantasies of a male partner? Gone.

I view it as a change in eroticism as opposed to sexuality. You could say that my sexuality is Str8, but that I am bi-erotic. I want to pair-bond with a woman e.g. my wife but my raw sexual desires can be met by a man just as well, maybe better. Under different circumstances could I fall in love with a man? Maybe. Never say never.

I don’t believe your sexuality shifts,It’s normal for males to have the odd homo fantasy.Men just don’t like to admit it. I love Aneros play,and I’ve loved being pegged by my wife,so I could say I like taking the wife’s dick,and I could wonder what a real dick would be like,but taking a dick with a big hairy man attached to it would be a very story..it’s normal to think these things,but at the end of day,I don’t find males attractive,I’m not confused about my heterosexual status. All thoughts and fantasies in your own head and with your wife/partner are harmless and fine. I do wonder if any of you gay guys have fantasies about a nice wet pussy riding your cock and some big ol titties swinging in your face lol anyone wanna admit it? Lol

... but taking a dick with a big hairy man attached to it would be a very story. ... I do wonder if any of you gay guys have fantasies about a nice wet pussy riding your cock and some big ol titties swinging in your face lol anyone wanna admit it? Lol

Feeling myself bisexual on a 50:50 basis since puberty, those were the days when I as teen already had been having a crush on Leif Garret (back then posing in shorts for BRAVO, a German magazine for teens, and Jennifer Beals (the hot female dancer from "Flashdance") at the same time, I surely can't speak for gay men. And of course I'm long since not into teens anymore. Instead it happened that according to my own age the attractiveness especially of hairy men has grown to me in my later decades.

But having talked to some gay men I met in the real world, I may disclose, it seems to be quite the same with them as with all the heteros. Perhaps nobody is 100 percent hetero or gay, but most of those defining their own sexuality that way will barely feel any arousal from only looking at some nice being of their own or the other gender. On the other hand we are missing solid scientific evidence to prove how people of a certain sexual orientation are reacting in fact to the charms of a special gender. Anyhow it's alleged that there shall be a lot more percent of male internet users consuming gay porn than confessing to be even only bi-curious.

Having not chosen myself what gender I feel attracted to and over the years having been unable to change this in any way, even praying didn't help, I finally have accepted my sexual orientation. This life and especially the severe difficulties to deal with my orientation in puberty, teached me a hard lesson I owe my ability to accept anyone's unique orientation as it is. To be precise, of course that doesn't allow anyone to force their own attitude to anyone else, not to mention child or teen abuse.

@Tommygunn, perhaps that's why, not blaming you for that at all, it keeps difficult to me to handle "LOL"s in this discussion, however they are meant. Never mind!

To give you an idea of Leif and Jennifer ... in those days Leif and I shared nearly the same haircut.;)
Those were the days my friend, we thought they never end ...

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@SOwithoutAneros that’s what I mean,I don’t think you can learn to be bi or gay by using an Aneros tool. As well as a little fantasy doesn’t make you such,but that’s me. I think I’ve seen question like this before on here where ppl worry it might lead to gay sex. Surely not.
I like beals too,proper fit. Lief to me looks a little feminine,still not blowing my socks off mind you lol.
I don’t know whether lol means lots of laughs or laughs out loud,I just figured it let ppl know when I’m smiling and feeling humourous,as text on these replies are cold and flat,and ppl may not know what way to take comments.tbh I lol most of the way through life,after all,I’m Irish LOL

Been at it for over 10 years and don't ever think about a man, and anal sex.

Leif to me looks a little feminine, still not blowing my socks off mind you lol.

I would have been quite surprised if anyone here would have got his socks blown off by this blonde chicken-breasted teen. LOL! But at age of perhaps 12 I haven't either been more than a pushover :o. Today he looks to me actually more like a dainty little girl. But nevertheless I still remember and confess my sighs when seeing him with my teenage eyes.

I don’t know whether lol means lots of laughs or laughs out loud, I just figured it let ppl know when I’m smiling and feeling humourous, as text on these replies are cold and flat, and ppl may not know what way to take comments. tbh I lol most of the way through life, after all, I’'m Irish LOL

I'm fully on your page taking life not too seriously. Instead LOL means to me quite disrespectfully laughing about something or about somebody, not smiling friendly or even only smirking. I find the emoticons provided by the switch above the textfield

and appearing under the textfield in a list to choose from,

much more convenient and would recommend to use them instead.

After all I'm thankful for your explanation making me able to understand your Irish LOL's better - in future. 😉
As already mentioned, no blame intended at all and, please, never mind!

Mart

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@SOwithoutAneros No no,I would never be disrespectful to anyone on here,there’s only good advice and support, i will endeavour to use the forum emojis in future, Tommy is a man of 2019,I’m adaptable..
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An interesting thread. I'm new to Aneros (just ordered some HIH models as well), but only got into this for one reason and one reason alone: to try to find a natural solution to my BPH issues. It helps. That being said, I've discovered how incredibly good this feels and have already had one or two "Big O's" (at least I'm pretty sure that's what it was). Has it changed my sexuality? Nope. Have I discovered new territory? Yup. To the OP's point it has created some new fantasies for me, but I would never, ever act on any of it. Us guys are plagued with sexual fantasies all the time, it's just how we're wired it seems.

Enjoying stimulation does not make one straight or gay. The mind may, periodically, drift and give consideration to one thought or another. It is the human who must decide whether to cultivate thoughts in said direction or not. Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries! Otherwise, we might all rob banks, get rid of our neighbor or many other things if we so nurture poor thinking. If you dismiss it as improper thoughts, then you will gravitate in another direction. If you nurture a momentary curiosity, then you will go down that path for as long as your indulgence desires or until your rational and reasonable moral hedge within you says to stop. Proper moral boundaries is what prevents all of us from committing lewd, and seemingly unforgivable acts or landing ourselves in some prison. Sex in a kind of remote location, yet public, or sex in broad daylight in the middle of Time Square? Boundaries!