Rubbing my clit?

Welcome clitboy!

What a great and meaningful alias in this forum. First, comments are possible on the blogs, although not nearly as common as on the threads here.

Your alias is a powerful reminder of the homologous nature of the tissues, the skin, muscle, organs, webs of nerves and the piping that makes us the whole male and female genitalia. Your penis IS your clit as you seem to know, gone hysterical mind you and engulfed your eurethra while you were developing as a baby. Of course clits, like penises can be erect too. There is a great article on the homologous tissue patterns with illustrations on Caitlin'sCorner site: http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/view/550/55/

However, you still seem to be focusing on ejaculation, as I did too initially here. Being responsive while being flaccid I think reflects your earlier anal focusing solo and with your wife, and is a sign of it already contributing to your rewiring. Has she massaged your prostate yet with her finger(s)? My wife and I began over a year and a half ago on our mutual prostate focused adventures and the results have been relatively rapid and spectacular. She gave me my first Super-O with her finger, and many more since!

As your journey continues with aneros and your wife, you may, like many others here, experience more reduction of erections during the aneros practice, and that is generally taken as a sign of progress in rewiring. I find that my penis shrinks more than it ever has now during my sessions, which are now focused completely away from ejaculation and onto orgasmic energies moving through the body/mind creating the dry-Os, and the more whole body earthshaking Super-Os which are dry too. Except of course, when we or I decide a Super-T ejaculatory is what is called for! I find the Eupho gives the best results then for me.

Because I've earlier had the type of sensations and feelings you experienced and the empathy with female orgasmic response, I occasionally practice full retraction of my penis and fold the bunched up shaft skin at the surface to help restrain penis from its natural tendency to be stimulated by this and return semi-erect. I lightly carress this folded, now very labial skin applying a gentle pressure and the subtle movement is a fabulous massage of my prostate! Very slight engorgement of the penis in there just adds "fullness" and a bit more pressure at the prostate.

We are the only species with a non-retracting penis, which has produced myriad cultural responses to what to do with the thing when not in use! But it still is an inheritance from our penis retracting ancestors and it can be manually retracted and used occasionally as yet another enhancement to this aneros practice.

I just had a great session with my Helix and my "clit" massage technique enhancing the massage from the Helix! We had the prostate surrounded (gently!!) with very energetic (dry) results. I am also looking forward to any unique after-effects later today or tomorrow...

Thanks again for your great alias and all the best on your journey here and as it expands your practices and pleasures with your wife.

artform

My wife doesn't even know I have the aneros yet. I've been enjoying it on my own. I think she'll be pissed that I spent a fair chunk of change on it. When we were at the store together, I wanted to buy it and she told me not to. She said she could do a better job with her finger, and I believe her. But, she never got around to it and my ass can't wait any longer. I bought her a g-spot stimulator, so hopefully that works well enough that she forgives my private assplay shenanigans.
The only concern I have is can the Aneros start to make it more difficult to have erections? It seems like my erections aren't as hard since I started using it...maybe I'm just not horny enough because of all my solo assplay.
Feedback appreciated.
Clitboy

Hi again CB.

Every individual and every couple is unique, but we do have things in common too. I bet you can find common ground for this adventure with your wife. Until we decided to pursue our new sexual goals together, mrs. a, apart from some stroking my anus and perineum on occasion during our sessions, had not previously participated in my prostate massage activities; they were my solo gig. We each need to *own* our own sexuality in a relationship in order to bring the best of ourselves to that relationship. Caitlain again: http://www.caitlainscorner.com/content/view/266/55/

But since prostate (G-spot) sex has key similar characteristics for both men and women: common ground and very big mutual rewards, mrs. a and I have been able to build beautifully together as we each expand our repertoire. You will get to Super-Os faster if you are able to openly relax about your sexual relationship with your wife, while sharing in each other's progress together. When mrs. a does not feel like being right there with her finger, in goes my Eupho, and we are all happily moving on to that version of ecstasy. Just like a solo aneros session, you may find you are taking much more time together.

No, the Aneros doesn't make it more difficult to have erections. However to succeed with the rewiring to reliably have Super-Os, you have to relax deeply and let your body show you the way. Erections are not part of that, except incidentally. As you separate ejaculation response/trigger from orgasm response/trigger, erections are no longer the important focus. You do need solo sessions as well as coupling, but that is much more agreeable as the benefits expand when you are together, in our experience.

You can still have great wood and great humping pumping sex, and your Aneros can make it even better helping you produce Super-Ts; superior traditional ejaculatory orgasms. Balance your sources of arousal. Increase those you have with your wife.

Relax, don't worry, as you get to know the joys of orgasmic energy after-effects the day after a session (and it is a good idea to try giving your body at least a day in between aneros sessions) and the joys of dry-Os and the more dramatic but still dry Super-Os, or the incredible "above and beyond" full body still bliss of Calm Seas-Os you won't be disturbed by lesser erections and flaccid bliss; and nor will your wife! If you explore prostate sex for both of you together your condition will be just right for her needs and wants too, as opposed to it always having to be humping pumping hard and fast.

You are in training and being trained by your body to use the multiple nervous systems involved in sexual responses in a different way. The things you report and have you worried at the moment are in fact signs that your body's actions/responses are well ahead of your thinking on this whole process. Listen to your body's subtle messages and trust it! That is the fastest route to Super-O heaven! All this IMHO. Just one other guy's experience. Be sure to read the introductory Sticky threads at the beginning of the forum here.

All the best to you both CB.

artform

I haven't taken a day off since i bought it about a week ago...maybe that'll help. I think I'm pushing too hard for the super-O. I go into a trance like state and wake up finding myself wiggling around the floor in various positions trying to cum without touching myself. Very strange. I think I'm having several internal orgasms and I find little cumshots around the room when I'm done, so I'm getting fluid out. Anyway, thanks for the advice.

RELAX buddy. You cannot force a Super-O. It has to come (not cum) to you when it and your body are ready. For almost all men this is a slow learning process with many delights along the way to a Super-O.

I was off checking the Polls on your topic while you were posting. Hope this poll on "Erection frequency" helps put things in perspective: http://www.aneros.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1997

Cum spots are counter-indicKative for Super-Os!

Have a good read of the WIKI too. Use button in the red bar at the top of the page.

Take care CB and RELAX...

artform

clitboy,

Taking a break would be an excellent idea, even your prostate needs time off for good behavior. Remember, you can not force a Super-O upon yourself, it needs to emerge from within you freely.

Right on rumel! Hi, how are you?

clitboy, it sounds as though you may actually be looking for a hands-free WET orgasm, which is not a Super-O, but a hands-free Super-T traditional ejaculation! If so, here is current thread on that technique: http://www.aneros.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=90

It may not contribute to getting you to a true dry Super-O, but it has its own rewards.

What do you think?

All the best rumel and to you CB.

artform