"Quick rewiring" - some potentially helpful advice

If you have read my previous posts you may well know that I started having non-ejaculatory orgasms in my 6th aneros session.

I'm blessed and happy that my results came quickly and I've spent some time wondering why I've had early-ish success whilst others are years into the process and haven't had the same.

I've come to some conclusions which I'll go into here.

Most of what I'm about to say is completely speculative - I don't know whether what I've done prior to getting aneros actually helped me or I'm just "genetically lucky" so please take what I'm about to say with a pinch of salt.

BUT, there is ONE thing that I absolutely believe is vital for all people struggling to do to re-wire and I'll explain what that is at the end.

Some stuff that "might" have helped me

I first discovered the joy of sticking things in my ass over a decade ago when I was in my late teens. Thanks to a mens health forum post I learnt that the prostate was a pleasure center to men.

So, that night I lubed up and stuck a finger where the sun don't shine. The thrill and taboo of penetrating my ass was exciting but when I tried to stroke my prostate all I got was a achy/wierd feeling and I didn't come from prostate stimulation alone.

So after a few minutes of rubbing my prostate I decided to masturbate normally with my finger still stimulating my prostate. As I stroked I got more aroused and I felt my prostate balloon up against my finger. I ejaculated and it was great.

For a while after that I would always masturbate doing that but I could never get myself off just via prostate stimulation alone with my finger.

After a while it fell out of favor with me unless I was feeling extra horny because the sensation of orgasming was nearly the same as just normal masturbation and it was a bit of a pain having to lube up and then wash afterwards.

Several years later in my mid-twenties I became interested in male multiple orgasms and I purchased "The Muli-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia and Douglas Adams.

The methods involved are essentially edging until the point of orgasm and then straining with your PC muscle and deep breathing to rest on the edge of ejaculation and that sensation.

The method of having full body orgasms was to draw that energy up the body from the genitals using your PC muscles and breathing.

I could never have full body orgasms doing this BUT it did create a problem for me in coupled sex because I was so used to not ejaculating that I had to almost "relearn" to relax and ejaculate.

So after less than a year I stopped the practice.

The only "benefit" from that book was that I was able to, with a few pulses of my PC muscle and deep breathing, send a shiver of pleasure up my body even when I wasn't aroused.

I'm still able to do this to this day. But, I cannot build on that wave because I can only do it once every few minutes and it is completely "forced" with deliberate breathing and strong contractions of my PC muscle.

In fact I don't use it at all when using Aneros or very often in my day to day life.

So, why do I tell you this?

Because it is possible that this ability might have helped me re-wire my body for non-ejaculatory orgasms.

I'm not saying buy the book and do the practice because I think it is overkill but I would recommend edging and then using your PC muscle to hold yourself back and using deep breathing to "draw" the sexual energy up your body.

For those of you who aren't having any success, this might help open up some channels in your body.

Again, maybe the connection is a coincidence. But, if you are struggling it is worth a try.

Something that definitely helped me

Remember when I talked earlier about stimulating my prostate with my finger?

Well, whilst I never had an orgasm from that stimulation alone the big benefit I got out of it is that I knew what the prostate sensation felt like.

The reason this is important is because EVEN AFTER THAT, my first aneros experience I had no sensation of my prostate being stimulated even though it was being stimulated by the toy!

When you stick a finger in there, you can feel the prostate and because you can feel it with your own finger, you become aware of the sensation.

But with aneros, because there is no bio feedback loop, it takes a little while for your body to realise that your prostate is being touched.

I think by using your finger to feel your prostate, you speed up that process because you become aware of what it feels like. So, when the aneros is in you'll know what to look for.

So, if you are struggling to feel any prostate sensation with your aneros, get a finger in there! Stimulate the front wall where your prostate is. You will know instantly when you find it because the sensation it produces when you touch it is sensitive.

Related and maybe helpful

Now, I used to masturbate and stimulate my prostate with my finger until I ejaculated. MAYBE that helped me speed up the process of re-wiring.

Now, bear in mind the last time I did that was 1 year before I bought the Helix....so if you are in the process of using the Aneros products then maybe don't do this.

Or do.

All I can say is that, for example, my nipples were never sensitive before but I decided I wanted them to be so I masturbated to ejaculation a few times when rubbing my nipples and now lo and behold I get turned on when rubbing my nipples and they can push me over the edge if I am close to cumming (aneros or normally).

Like Pavlov's dogs I think you can train your body to respond to stimulus by getting it to expect certain things when you touch parts of your body.

It might be helpful for some of you to masturbate to ejaculation using your finger to stimulate your prostate as well. Then your body might create a link between sexual pleasure and prostate stim.

Again this goes against the manufacturer's instructions a little bit - though you won't be using the aneros, only your finger so this might help to break the connection and not "ruin" any re-wiring.

So to recap

Maybe do:

1. edging with PC muscle control and then deep breathing to draw energy up. Look at buying The Multi Orgasmic Man for full details on how to do this.

2. Masturbate to ejaculation with your finger stimulating your prostate at the same time

Absolutely do:

Get a finger into your ass and against your prostate to feel what prostate stimulation feels like.

Potentially masturbate a little bit as well without ejaculating so you can feel the prostate balloon with arousal and the change in sensation you get when that happens.

Hope this helps!