Prostate Stigma - Should Men Feel Cheated?

@darkbond I initially heard that the Aneros "journey" is life-long; I now know what that means. IMHO, the Aneros website (forums and blogs) are an invaluable tool to help guys like us learn about our sexuality and especially our prostates and how to properly stimulate them. We have ready access to where we can anonymously share our opinions and our activities.

Anyone who has been at this a while (like me) should appreciate what an asset this website is. The Aneros team ("newbies" and "experts" alike) are really helping me in my "journey" and they will be there for you and others as well!

You've heard the expression: "Seeing Is Believing"? With Aneros, then: "Feeling Is Believing"!

@goldenboy This is true. We are the lucky few. What about the rest of the world. This feels like eating at a buffet while you know there are starving children. I feel so fortunate but what can be done to change the stigma against prostate play?

@darkbond, yes, men should feel cheated by a supposed prostate stigma. I do not think that many boys in Sex Education classes do not hear much helpful information about the prostate, its functions, and dysfunctions and diseases that may happen to perhaps one of the most important sexual/urinary gland in males. Oh, I suppose many guys in their annual physicals by their doctors may receive important information about this gland and important updates. But often when health problems arise with the prostate, it may be too late with BPH and prostate cancer. Also I do not know if many guys talk among themselves about the prostate. It may be a taboo subject even for men!

We all know that the Pro-State massagers of High Island Health LLC was originally developed by a Japanese urologist in the mid 1990's as a medical device. Its erotic ramifications developed soon after into the Aneros which we all know and love.

Talking about prostate issues and the Aneros at church would cause alarm and dismay even among men there. I have used the Aneros since early June 2012 to great success, but I have not met any men into Aneros here in DC! 🙁

@BigGlansDC the level of taboo the subject of prostate and the pleasures it gives is so unreal.

Leta compare it to the foreskin lovers movement and how the focus there is pleasure. As a person who has experienced sex both with and without a foreskin I can asure you...my smallest prostate orgasm beats any penile orgasm. It really should be a fight to inform and educate men of where their true pleasure center is.

I have discussed prostate massage and Aneros devices with many of my friends. I also have shared my devices (covered in condom) with e friends.

I think its up to us to spread the word.

I was EXACTLY like you! Unfortunately nobody could have told me anything that would have changed my mind on the subject. But every once in a while I'd be reminded about prostate orgasms. That and the fact that 1/3 of men will have prostate problems. There's no way in hell I'd ever take that medication. I never had any problems, but one day on a whim I decided to research alternative prostate therapies just in case. That led me here, and reading the "My first Super-O" thread made me curious enough to try one. I haven't looked back since, and like you I have tried talking to a couple people about it, including my father. With him I approached it from the health standpoint. But, as expected, he rejected the idea outright. He doesn't talk about it, but about a year later I started noticing something different. He's definitely a user now 🙂

...I guess my point is, all you need to do is have the conversation. No matter what the outcome is, that thought has been planted. Maybe curiosity will get the better of them eventually. Or maybe they will remember and consider it as an alternative to the extremely harmful pharmaceutical prostate "therapy". If they eventually find their way here because of something you said, that's all that matters. ...Just resist the urge to preach about it lol 😉

@Wandering_Smoke damn. I could never have this conversation with my dad. Like he would honestly rather his prostate removed. He gets all up in arms when my mother talks about him getting his prostate checked. He is 65 and has never had it done. I'm 37 and Ive had it checked 3 times already.

How do you all feel about this? How do we change the world of men?

This might be a good time to resurrect a thread from 9 years ago. Please see the thread Ideas for Spreading the Word..., which is an excellent location to add your thoughts about disseminating information about Aneros usage and demystifying anal/prostate play.
Good Vibes to You !

@rumel thanks for that. Going to read it now.

So I haven't been on this site for awhile and would really like to excel at Aless and nipple play. I have had some experience in both, but would love some feedback and help on how to gain a regular supply of Super O's without Aneros penetration.

@darkbond -

Damned good question. I posit that this stigma has a lot to do with homophobia and stereotyping.

We men are biologically built to transmit, not to receive. If all people did was procreate, nothing would ever go up our bums- our penises would go into vaginas, and that would be that. But we have all these wonderful nerves and nexuses down under that do so much more than make us occasionally ejaculate.

Trouble is, we're bombarded by messages throughout our lives about what's 'manly' and what's not. Crying, walking away from a fight, not playing sports- all are tickets to perceived wussiness and social isolation. And anal play? God no. That's 'gay,' and gay is wrong, abominable, or deadly, depending upon your zip code or country. So the short story is that rear end exploration is out for us. Penetrating is what 'real' men do; being penetrated is taboo.

Where does that toxic message come from? Look no further than people who justify their bigotry and zealotry with religion, in that they claim being homosexual is forbidden by Christianity et al. So is divorce, planting the wrong crops next to each other, eating shellfish, working on Sunday, and wizardry...this not to knock religion in general, only to say that the blinders and inhibitions come from people who use religious precepts to divide us and scare us. But if we learned that ass play is wrong, then we can learn otherwise, right?

I'm with you. I wish I could talk about our southern joys more openly, but it would color even my closest relationships. I prefer to keep things to myself, just the way I wish people would keep their religions to themselves. You want to come to my doorstep and talk about salvation? OK- I'll come to yours and talk about prostate orgasms. I know which would make people happier.

Good luck communicating your pleasures if you choose to, but proceed with caution- make sure you weigh the consequences of changes in your current relationships. If I were to spread the gospel of Aneros, I'd probably talk a bit about prostate health and some interesting reading I've come across about the homologue between a vagina and a prostate- both started out as the same thing, before we made our entrances- and how some clinical prostate health devices are supposed to be quite pleasurable, and that I'm considering trying one. Maybe this way I could gauge reactions, and get some feedback about how/if to move forward.
Either way, you've got a solid community of support here, my good man.

Best of Pleasures.

Z

PS- I don't want to start a religious shitstorm, and my comments aren't intended as a slight against any faithful people of any denomination- only against bigotry and narrowness, which comes in all shapes and colors. Tend your own garden, I say, and the more pleasure the better. Amen.

@Zenopause

Great feedback. I have had twxt converaations with close buddies of mine about the book The Multiorgasmic Man. Obviously this book teaches you about the pleasures of the prostate without depending on penetration. Couple that with the depiction of orgasmic response being something that can increase the book alone piqued their interest.

I would never talk with them about Aneros. I know them well. They would all outright reject it.

@rumel read through the thread. Lots of great ideas. I could feel the slight frustration Im feeling in that thread. And not for me. But for men in this world. For my friends. My coworkers.

Like there is whole other world out there. One that has such great benefits and unreal amounts of pleasure.