(copy of my blog entry)
I know this topic has been written about many times and there are as many opinions about it as Carter’s got pills so here goes.
Before my Aneros and back door discoveries, porn was my good reliable friend to achieve my pleasurable moments. I reflect on the fact that, probably due to age, my sex drive was forever low. I could always rely on porn to give me back a little of the spark I needed to achieve positive and, what was at the time, my ultimate (but elusive) pleasure.
Along comes Aneros and all the pro & con advises that comes with the Wiki and Forum. The correct answer to this is ‘to each his own’. Now, having said all that, I will outline my own experience.
In my early Aneros sessions, I continued to rely on my crutch and the toy helped expand my pleasures. With limited progress, I eventually realized (referring to forum’s expert opinions for advice) that porn was in fact preventing me from appreciating all the feelings and sensations happening in my lower innards. Pleasure was plentiful but it was mostly externally penile. Eventually, while practicing pornless (is this a word?) sessions, I feel I progressed by encountering feelings I never had before and for me, the proof was evident that my old friend should remain in the past and to be re-invited only periodically for a good masturbate session.
Last night, I entered into a session and I felt I was not quite as aroused as I would have liked so I decided to just have a peek at some of my favorite clips. Once started, it’s like an addiction, you can’t stop. Again, the feelings were great but not where they needed to be. I hardly felt my Helix Syn working and missed all its direct effects. All in all, a good session but one that I could have had by just masturbating.
Again, for me, it was a lesson learned one again; my goal to achieve Super-O is lessen if I am not concentrating on what my toy is doing to me. I miss out on my body’s gifts to me, gifts I had never experienced before the beginning of this whole Aneros experience. I thought I had learned this lesson a few times before but to me, porn is sometimes GREAT!
Tonight, my Progasm Ice is going in and my laptop stays upstairs.
As always, your opinion is always welcome!
@GGringo, pornography can be addictive if we allow it. In earlier years before the advent of the Internet, I had a huge stash of porn here at the apartment. In those years, I was a serious masturbator, jacking off three to four times a week. One day, I just threw most of it out becaise it had become an eyesore. There is good porn and there is bad porn which is subjective to the individual user of porn. Generally I stay away from porn that degrades and view porn that elevates. Now, I use porn sparingly and moderately like alcoholic beverages which I seldom drink anymore. I view pics which fuel my bate sessions.
When I began my Aneros sessions in early June 2012, I left pornography completely out of the picture and also masturbation because I consider both major distractions. But I have began regimen of masturbation and edging with the Kegels to take advantage of my Aless!
My use of porn is totally detached from aneros use...I learned early on that "in-session" it is a distraction preventing the concentration and mindset I need to savor the sensations generated by Aneros. I do use porn for my edging sessions each week and find it very helpful in maintaining a rigid erection and producing full body orgasms without ejaculating.
In some of my sessions I have had a bump forward in my success by choosing a type of porn that will to identify with it to my experience at hand. Take for instance pegging. Just looking up hands free pegging orgasm and next thing I know I'm using this to identify with the male as he is being banged by strapon, dildos, fingers........u get the point. There I see porn, as a tool to elevate my session as I feel the tool pressing and holding over the sweet spots.
Glans is right though some porn is just plain bad. I refer to the ones where you can read the body language and facial gestures that she is faking it for the film. Boring as hell. It's why I like hclips and pornhub community because they are homemade. Usually deeply into what they are doing.
This is of interest to me.
I think I'm addicted to porn, and have been for a long time.
During my first 18 months of Aneros use, I would watch porn during the session.
Recently I don't do that anymore.
I'm trying to cut down how much I watch. I'm also doing masturbation sessions (with porn) a lot less than before. Perhaps, once a week or so. Used to be once a day with porn. I'm hoping, over time, to be able to use fantasy in my mind instead of porn to get me aroused for aneros sessions and in general.
I am essentially off porn but have substituted binaural audios which are also stimulating. I don't know about the rest of the guys, but in solo "sessions" I need to be aroused before attempting Aneros. I guess whatever "floats your boat" as far as arousal goes.
Yes, porn can be addictive as it relates to male sexual response. But it is tricky with Aneros use since prostate orgasms require stimulation which porn can provide.
I do not use porn at all when I have my Aneros sessions mostly because in the last year or so, I have sexualized my Aneros tools. Just looking them while I am prepping for a session is enough to arouse me.
I too never use porn before or during my Aneros sessions. Porn is basically penis orientated with it's emphasis on erection, penetration and ejaculation, all of which are distractions from what I regard as the key sensations of prostate stimulation. I find it arousing enough simply to insert the Aneros and wait for it to make its presence felt. If the feelings are slow in coming then a few gentle kegels will generally get things going. After that, mental focus on the sensations generated will intensify them far more effectively than relying on porn.
@GGringo IMHO, porn is addictive. It's a cheap, easy thrill that leaves you craving more without satisfying. It may not be as physically destructive as cocaine, but it does cause permanent changes to the brain. The immediate effects are like sugar or caffeine, but over time the brain becomes conditioned to it. And like drugs, it takes more and more to get the same jolt. In the end, it's a lie. Porn is about the salacious, not about pleasure or exploration or love. Yes, it may help produce an erection, but it has side effects. It's like using drugs to reduce blood pressure - yes, that works, but diet and exercise are better, healthier, and longer term solutions. Porn isn't capturing real life and translating it to you, it's preying upon a natural human desire and presenting it in a way that is completely unrealistic. "Appealing to prurient interests, I think it was once called. And, ironically, while the activity it portrays would indeed be fun, it isn't nearly as good as sharing multiple orgasms for a couple hours with your wife of 35 years.
@GGringo IMHO, porn is addictive. It's a cheap, easy thrill that leaves you craving more without satisfying. It may not be as physically destructive as cocaine, but it does cause permanent changes to the brain. The immediate effects are like sugar or caffeine, but over time the brain becomes conditioned to it. And like drugs, it takes more and more to get the same jolt. In the end, it's a lie. Porn is about the salacious, not about pleasure or exploration or love. Yes, it may help produce an erection, but it has side effects. It's like using drugs to reduce blood pressure - yes, that works, but diet and exercise are better, healthier, and longer term solutions. Porn isn't capturing real life and translating it to you, it's preying upon a natural human desire and presenting it in a way that is completely unrealistic. "Appealing to prurient interests, I think it was once called. And, ironically, while the activity it portrays would indeed be fun, it isn't nearly as good as sharing multiple orgasms for a couple hours with your wife of 35 years.
Very well put; I have found porn to be distracting for the most part; it usually leads me down the penis-centered pleasure path I am trying to avoid in my Aneros sessions,
I like to put on a long video that is mostly softcore, light masturbation or teasing and is near an hour or longer in length. I usually turn off the sound.
Of all the things I do during, I need it to be sensual and sorta light on the senses. I can't deal with hardcore fucking during a session. I also can't deal with short clips because it promote's zapping behaviour, where you continually want to see something else and are more involved with the porn than with your body.
The point that I'm trying to make, is that I watch different things than what I use when I'm jerking it.
The reason why I want it long is that I close my eyes most of the time, or just sorta half watch it; It shouldn't grab my full attention. When my session sorta lulls a bit, I like to look at it until something happens. Without sound I can easily just ignore it and don't even have to turn it off.
I use porn, binaurals, erotic hypnosis or asmr; not because I need to, but because I like some varation in my sessions. Some days I need something to keep it erotic, or to keep my mind occupied. Other days I want nothing to do with external stimuli whatsoever.
Of course, porn is addictive. As is sex by itself and all it's facets. When something is addictive though it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to get rid of it entirely I think (unless you do). If you were to cut out all things that are addictive there isn't a whole lot that you can do (or eat :/). Also, life would be pretty boring, wouldn't it? All things in moderation and you're golden I guess.