Porn

Thanks for posting this as its an interesting question that i'll look forwards to hearing tbe views of others over.

for me watching porn whilst prostate playing leads to over stimulation and i lose focus and end up masterbating and cant stop with the result being a wet orgasm. These are normally tons more intense, i develop a really hard penis and my ejaculant a lot harder and thicker, resulting in far more satisfaction than a simple wank - so i dont ever see it as failure or a waste as im having fun with my body which is the overall goal.

ive also noticed that sex with my partner has become a lot more intense since i started prostate massage, i feel thicker and harder inside her, i can feel my prostate when i clench up, my penis feels loads more sensative and again my actual orgasm when either inside her or manually stimulated by her are a lot harder and intense, this can only be as a result of my aneros play, so if i never achieve the elussive super O i have achieved something which is making me happy

I have noticed that my sessions are most successful when I achieve a kind of wakeful dream-state with an ongoing fantasy. I feel watching porn, while inducing arousal, keeps one from looking inward like this. My conclusion is that it is better to nurture the imagination and develop fantasies.

I have noticed that my sessions are most successful when I achieve a kind of wakeful dream-state with an ongoing fantasy. I feel watching porn, while inducing arousal, keeps one from looking inward like this. My conclusion is that it is better to nurture the imagination and develop fantasies.

whilst i agree with you i feel i must say this from my perspective fantasies just dont cut it anymore! nothing i can imagine is enough to keep me focused and aroused for longer than 30 seconds. I dont know why, but its just the way it is and has always been, so i turn to porn as well which i hate having to do. Porn though, is the same, it only lasts for a few mins before it gets utter boring tosh. Makes my sessions so much more difficult trying to keep focus when nothing works for very long!

Thanks guys i appreciate the comments i have tried other things like hypnosis, relaxation, sleeping with the anerous inserted but i just dont have right kind of dreams when its in. I mean when its not in i dream of black widow from avengers cat woman all the things that give me the old morning glory but not when its in its more like an episode of big bang theory i just feel awkward but very slightly aroused

how often do you guys if ever sleep with it inserted and wat kind of lube do you use im in the uk so if brands are us they may not be availible to me and watvkind of stuff happens wen its in wen you sleep . Thanks guys

I find porn a distraction. I focus on breathing and my body and it hasn't failed me. I believe everyone's experiences are different.

One thing I have used successfully is the audio from porn, with my eyes closed. This allows me to keep my focus, but also enjoy some aural stimulation.

How bad is it to watch porn while having a session?

I'll avoid making a value judgement about porn being "bad" but will say generating arousal is an essential component for a successful Anerosession (see Are you "aroused"?) The methods used to generate that arousal can include pornography and there is a user poll which has a number of responses you may find illuminating in arriving at your own judgement (see Are you aroused by porn?). Good Vibes to You !

If porn is generally considered to generate over stimulation, and thus counterproductive to aneros play, could you then not employ the use of porn to drive stimulation and fantasy pre aneros session, so prepare your environment, kit etc, settle down and watch half hour of porn focussing inwardly on sensations, fantasy and arousal, switch the porn of so removing that 'over stimulating medium' and then begin your aneros session in the now aroused state of mind and use those images and memories to drive fantasy and stimulation.

I have noticed that my sessions are most successful when I achieve a kind of wakeful dream-state with an ongoing fantasy. I feel watching porn, while inducing arousal, keeps one from looking inward like this. My conclusion is that it is better to nurture the imagination and develop fantasies.

this is what i do too. unfortunately, i have the best success with this dream-state, in which i am having virtual sex, by puffing a couple of tokes of weed.

i'd prefer to be able to do it as well without weed.

how do you do it?

Darwin

I think that personality is a major driver in this game. While I strive to be open and receptive enough to sense what's happening during a session, the session is mine to nurture, to guide and shape so that I can cherish an orgasmic state. I do occasionally visit websites that I view as erotic but I think my fantasy building is better done after I leave and immerse myself in my own happenings.

On the other hand, we have many excellent story-tellers in this Forum and their fantasies expand on reality and really help.

A great example of fantasy was a "Prison fantasy." It was blogged here some time ago... maybe in 2010 or 2011. I think it was by @darwin and I don't recall if that employed a bit of substance to accompany it.

@TinyTom, I myself love porn and enjoy masturbating to porn but concerning Aneros and Aless sessions I would find it a sheer distraction.

Instead I only lie down for a while, close my eyes, then touch some body part very slightly. Focusing on this bodypart I try to remember the best feelings I had when being touched there or having played with that spot by myself. Soon some wonderful feelings arise and the pure imagination brings back feelings I experienced before and with it comes the arousal. Perhaps I switch to another spot or I only let go and find myself already generally aroused.

As this arousal feeds itself it's not subsiding but stays at my side supporting me enjoying my Aneros tools or Aless.

Perhaps you'll, too, find helpful what @MO_Bosco commented to another post.

To me his words were an epiphanic realization and helped me to refine my described technique:

You can make yourself angry by thinking of things that make you mad. You can access great happiness or deep sadness just by listening to a certain song and letting your thoughts focus on the raw emotion . You can also experience incredible ecstasy by leading your mind on a path of pleasure that you define.

Turn away from distractions and think of how you feel when you're really turned on.
Not what turns you on but HOW you feel.

What tingles, remember what your mind and body feel like when you are about to orgasm? Focus on just that feeling. Recreate it in your mind. Lose yourself in it. Breath like you're gonna cum. Never mind an end result, enjoy what you feel right then. Ride out any good feelings. Try to feed the fire. Turn them into feelings of ecstasy. Learn to multiply them and you will be amazed at what you can experience. Add some tactile stimulation and/or the Aneros if it helps, but your mind is what drives this type of experience.

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Finally "I kissed myself! And I liked it!"

Well thanks for all the comments guys i do apreciate them.

last night i tried to have a session without the porn tv phone i just lay back with some relaxing music i must say definatly diffrent i ended up getting auto fucked no orgasm but involteries were crazy...

it got me thinking if you guys have an orgasm off the auto fuck or the gentle pulsings i keep thinking that with all the talk on relax do nothing that i should be having it off the gentles and any movement i make will disrupt this because in the past if i adjust myself the involenterues die off fast so sometimes i tense to stop moving and know that this also stops the involenteries...... any thoughts?

@TinyTom, thanks for sharing your last experiences and congrats to your progresses. Take every little step as a gift helping you to reach the next level of your further journey.

It is difficult to describe, what I do to keep my involuntaries and my vibes going. I would best compare it with surfing, I wait for my wave and try to get on that volatile chance hoping it will carry me away. As you mentioned I, too, come to that point where I want to adjust myself. To hold the connection I only dare to make very slight motions on my own, like a puppet on a string I try to find out where my player wants me next sensing for every little hint. Step by step I get a hunch and listening to my vibes growing or subsiding I again and again try to do the right thing as to let go or help with little motions. Sometimes there comes a thought like an idea but also like a command. To me these hints are most helpful cause my subconscious mind already knows where my gland wants me. For example I hear "spread your legs" and doing it is followed by nice p-waves, then I know this was the right motion.

There is one other hurdle you have to take, especially as you wrote that something comes to stop. I, too, experience that usually every now and then but this only means a short rest before you are taking another run, like waiting for the next wave to come. If this stop lasts longer than about 15 to 30 seconds I try some titillating to avoid dozing off. For example I touch one of my nipples very slightly or only put my hand on my outer thigh or any other not especially sensitive bodypart.

Best vibes on your way!

SOwithoutAneros, the surfing analogy is perfect. While waiting for the building waves, I actively focus on pleasure and gently flex the pelvic muscles. An ache in the prostate area and subseqent adrenalin rush usually gets things really happening.

I find porn a distraction. I focus on breathing and my body and it hasn't failed me. I believe everyone's experiences are different.

Cool, I've been thinking about it! Maybe we could share our porn tracks. What are your porn preferences ? I dislike very professional ones, where woman sounds like she's being murdered and penetration starts with the words "Oh my god!". I like amateur porn, masturbation, sounds of a wet pussy, masturbation, vibrators, pussy licking, blowjobs. Music is a bit of a turn-off too, it makes it too repetitive and obscures lusty noises.

I like a bit of everything from skinny girls bbws teens milfs.. my favroite videos are the cock heros they get me revved up but because the scene changes quickly it keeps me interested wat are you guys thoughts on this type of video

I hate anything fake and 'produced' I prefer subtlety and taking it slow, not a fan of fat hard/loud fake moans/anything violent.

amatuer but also high def as well, amazed there isn't more out there considering most cameras have been HD for years.

Theres some good amaturs with quality camaras on pornhub

The verified amaturs are the best

What does verified members mean @TinyTom

Just that its a person that makes regular high quality amatyr videos i will put a link in http://www.pornhub.com/pornstar/daisy-dabs

Just that its a person that makes regular high quality amatyr videos i will put a link in http://www.pornhub.com/pornstar/daisy-dabs

Sooo.... porn stars then. Still fake as all sh!t. They still arrange a video shoot , paid actors and crap. What i mean is two, or more people, that want to film themselves for fun and enjoyment, not money, it always feels disengenous and they dont have any kind of connection, it sucks!

Its a great question and one that I have struggled with myself - I like having some visuals to bump it up but videos are too distracting since they end and you have to mess with searching or restarting, likewise pics are too static. So I find a lovely lady on a cam with the ipad nearby, turn down the sound and close my eyes with an occasional glance to bump up the fantasy again. The real point to success for me is a mental excitement to help build/maintain that energy - and my brain drifts too much without the occasional bump by cam/porn.
Enjoy the journey!