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My journey with prostate play has come to a point where I feel like, in some ways, prostate pleasure is a more 'authentic' part of my sexuality and that penile pleasure is auxiliary. This is not how I feel every day, but when I feel this way I feel much happier, sexier, and more myself. I want to find every way possible to bring this part of myself into sex with my partners (who both have vaginas.) Both are into it but will need some education and guidance! I am still discovering much for myself. 

Things I have tried (and liked):

parallel play where I have an aneros in and they play with a vibrator

perineum massage

some light pegging

penetrative sex with toy inserted

Questions I have:

Anyone have luck having prostate orgasms while having penetrative sex? With toy or without? 

What strap on dildos feel best for prostate stim? Any advice for communication around pacing/rhythm? any luck having dry-O's in this context?

Both of these experiences I deeply desire in fantasy, though I know they can be challenging.

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I also want to share an experience I had with my newer partner. This has happened a few times. We are spooning on the couch fully clothed and I am the little spoon. I slip into a deep state of relaxation and a feeling of warm golden liquid light begins to emanate from my prostate. The quality of is somehow so much richer than what I feel in other contexts. As I begin to moan and gyrate, she follows with her pelvis and her pelvic bone presses into my anus. The feeling spreads through me and I feel utterly held. The liquid light is what I imagine a distillation of love to feel like. If I could, I would want every sexual experience to feel like this. However, it has only happened to me in this context. 


   
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Sounds so good! And, wow you have 2 female lovers?!!? You go man that's outstanding!

I'll answer your questions here:

Anyone have luck having prostate orgasms while having penetrative sex? For sure, but it took practice and several sessions to be able to do this. I have had and still do have prostate orgasms while getting oral sex. It almost feels like I'm cumming out of my penis but its all internal and dry, just prostate. These are very strong Os and they feel like I'm cumming full force into my wife's mouth, but not a drop comes out (well, the Aneros will milk my prostate into her mouth from time to time, but not a full ejaculation).

Sex with Aneros in, for sure I have prostate Os. I have them easier when she rides me. I can have several prostate Os if she's on top of me, and depending on what she's doing, some of them last a long time and I can have a string of them back to back. If I'm thrusting and on top I have them, but not as easily or often because I'm not relaxing, I'm fucking, sorry for the curse word, but the act of thrusting and penetrating puts my mind on my cock and I can feel the Aneros in me grinding and autofucking me for sure as I do my wife, but its "too busy" to have prostate Os; they happen, but maybe only one or two when I'm in control of the PIV sex. 

With toy or without? I have prostate Os every time I have a toy in me and I'm getting head from my wife, or if she's on top; I can also have prostate Os without a toy in me when she gives me head mostly but sometimes, rarely, when she's on top. I never have prostate Os when I'm on top or behind her, me doing the thrusting. I think the hip movement prevents it.

Now I will say, when she's just lightly touching my legs, ass, body, and everything but my penis, that's when I have the most Os I can have even more usually than when I'm alone. Sometimes I have like 10 in a row with almost no down time, maybe 2 seconds and another kicks in. Its wild! 

What strap on dildos feel best for prostate stim? Hmmmmm good question! I have found a few different dual density silicone realistic penis dildos on Amazon and other sites, actually pretty cheap models between $20-40 dollars, of differing sizes and lengths and my wife pegs me with those wearing a tight fitting harness. They all feel very good. I ride them solo too, and I'm to the point now where almost anything I ride is making me have very deep, profound orgasms. Really big ones, very long lasting. They are prostate and anal/rectum focused, everything inside me is having an orgasm. I can't say my prostate is having an orgasm when I'm riding or getting pegged. Its like a massive internal explosion. There are also some different shapes that are not realistic penis-like, just go for the ones that don't have the biggest flaring bumps, heads or nodes as they can wear your prostate out. You'll get plenty of stimulation from a standard realistic dildo, but the smaller bumps/heads on some g-spot strap on dildos can work good, it depends on what you need to get off.

Any advice for communication around pacing/rhythm? Honestly, I let my wife do me and just go with the flow. If I'm on the edge of orgasm I'll tell her to fuck me deeper or harder or faster or slower, whatever I know I need to orgasm, but mainly I let her have fun and try things out. I talk to her like a woman might tell her man what she wants him to do to her; what she needs him to do to cum. The sex talk becomes very naughty and dirty very fast!! But it helps. And, its fun!

any luck having dry-O's in this context? OMG yes, sometimes when a dry O comes on while she's doing me, it feels even bigger than when a massive O/ejaculation is imminent during a normal PIV sex session with her, if sex is going beyond 20 minutes of intercourse, I'll cum for well over 30 seconds sometimes 45+ seconds. When she's pegging me and I haven't had an O in a few minutes, one will start to build and it will feel like that "oh shit I'm gonna cum!!!" feeling and then it hits and its like fireworks and melting and nothingness all together, and I have to tell her, barely  getting it out, to slow down or stop, or just pull out of me, so I can enjoy it and let the convulsions happen and subside. I have lots of smaller dry Os while she's pegging me too, they are big ones, but not the "I need a break!" kind of big in power and duration.

Next time you are being spooned by one of your female lovers, you should get her to peg you in that position, and just go slow like you did as the light flowed through you. That sounds like a magical way to enjoy her and yourself! There are strapless strap on dildos that go inside a woman's vagina, too, not sure if y'all have seen these, but they are very good now and the dildo become more a part of her and the biofeedback during pegging really helps, and she cums from it too! Look some up, there is a lot on the market nowadays. Have fun!


   
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Anyone have luck having prostate orgasms while having penetrative sex? For sure, but it took practice and several sessions to be able to do this. I have had and still do have prostate orgasms while getting oral sex. It almost feels like I'm cumming out of my penis but its all internal and dry, just prostate. These are very strong Os and they feel like I'm cumming full force into my wife's mouth, but not a drop comes out (well, the Aneros will milk my prostate into her mouth from time to time, but not a full ejaculation).

Sex with Aneros in, for sure I have prostate Os. I have them easier when she rides me. I can have several prostate Os if she's on top of me, and depending on what she's doing, some of them last a long time and I can have a string of them back to back. If I'm thrusting and on top I have them, but not as easily or often because I'm not relaxing, I'm fucking, sorry for the curse word, but the act of thrusting and penetrating puts my mind on my cock and I can feel the Aneros in me grinding and autofucking me for sure as I do my wife, but its "too busy" to have prostate Os; they happen, but maybe only one or two when I'm in control of the PIV sex. 

With toy or without? I have prostate Os every time I have a toy in me and I'm getting head from my wife, or if she's on top; I can also have prostate Os without a toy in me when she gives me head mostly but sometimes, rarely, when she's on top. I never have prostate Os when I'm on top or behind her, me doing the thrusting. I think the hip movement prevents it.

Now I will say, when she's just lightly touching my legs, ass, body, and everything but my penis, that's when I have the most Os I can have even more usually than when I'm alone. Sometimes I have like 10 in a row with almost no down time, maybe 2 seconds and another kicks in. Its wild! 

@techpump you must have some incredibly sexy stories.  I wish you had a blog, or would start a thread on the couples' corner and just tell us all of your escapades!


   
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Posted by: @techpump

Anyone have luck having prostate orgasms while having penetrative sex? For sure, but it took practice and several sessions to be able to do this. I have had and still do have prostate orgasms while getting oral sex. It almost feels like I'm cumming out of my penis but its all internal and dry, just prostate. These are very strong Os and they feel like I'm cumming full force into my wife's mouth, but not a drop comes out (well, the Aneros will milk my prostate into her mouth from time to time, but not a full ejaculation).

Sex with Aneros in, for sure I have prostate Os. I have them easier when she rides me. I can have several prostate Os if she's on top of me, and depending on what she's doing, some of them last a long time and I can have a string of them back to back. If I'm thrusting and on top I have them, but not as easily or often because I'm not relaxing, I'm fucking, sorry for the curse word, but the act of thrusting and penetrating puts my mind on my cock and I can feel the Aneros in me grinding and autofucking me for sure as I do my wife, but its "too busy" to have prostate Os; they happen, but maybe only one or two when I'm in control of the PIV sex. 

With toy or without? I have prostate Os every time I have a toy in me and I'm getting head from my wife, or if she's on top; I can also have prostate Os without a toy in me when she gives me head mostly but sometimes, rarely, when she's on top. I never have prostate Os when I'm on top or behind her, me doing the thrusting. I think the hip movement prevents it.

Now I will say, when she's just lightly touching my legs, ass, body, and everything but my penis, that's when I have the most Os I can have even more usually than when I'm alone. Sometimes I have like 10 in a row with almost no down time, maybe 2 seconds and another kicks in. Its wild! 

@techpump you must have some incredibly sexy stories.  I wish you had a blog, or would start a thread on the couples' corner and just tell us all of your escapades!

Thanks for that! I have put a little in the Couples' Corner, but started to lose time for posting here. I've thought about a blog for sure! I have some wild stories, and I love to write, I write a lot for a living as is. Who knows maybe I'll find an outlet and put more up!

 


   
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I would buy yourself a dildo and practice with it solo. It's a unique feeling down there that does take some practice in knowing what feels good to you and what will make you O. I would suggest anything with a curve in it as it helps it the prostate better. Glass is stiffer and more pressure. Silicone is flexible and not as much pressure. I flip between what I like best down there due to my preference towards silicone lube. Make sure you douche to help you relax more 


   
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Thanks for that! I have put a little in the Couples' Corner, but started to lose time for posting here. I've thought about a blog for sure! I have some wild stories, and I love to write, I write a lot for a living as is. Who knows maybe I'll find an outlet and put more up!

Please do, I'd enjoy reading and I'm sure others would be inspired by your example too!


   
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