Orgasm competition

Posted by: @helghast

She has suggested we buy a strap on and she will Fuck me to orgasm. Is this doable guys?

Yes, it is "...doable...". For further information on pegging practices you may find the following links helpfully informative. First, get your wife to listen to this podcast by Ruby Ryder ->Podcast #112 for the Ladies. You can then view these online articles about pegging -> Pegging Your Boyfriend Is Good and Healthy, A Step-By-Step Guide to Giving Your First Pegging & The 30 Day Anal Orgasm Test. You can also purchase Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men.

Posted by: @helghast

Does anyone do this?

Evidently quite a few people do and the high interest in this activity is reflected in these two forum threads (two of the most viewed threads on this Forum) -> Pegging & Pegging 2.

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@helghast, there's no magic really, I've just been a participant in this forum for almost 14 years now and there have been many common topics repeatedly discussed, Pegging being one of them and I have kept references to many of the posts and articles of some of these common topics. You can see more of these references in my blog entry Rumel's Ruminations - Part V.

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@rumel surely has a database of all posts organized by topic and key word. Thus he can retrieve links quickly and efficiently, that much is obvious. What is less clear is what tool he uses to do so.  I think instead of a keyboard he has an aneros joystick-like controller that he manipulates with subtle contractions of various PC muscles for efficient and stress-free responses.  

@helghast

You are most certainly a very lucky guy, because from what I’ve read and occasionally experienced, not every woman is willing to take part in this aspect of our lives.  Also not every woman is not as in touch with her body as your wife is.

Whether or not pegging is for you, you can only find out by trying it yourself.  You can start all alone if you want to make sure you like it, by buying a flanged dildo that can later be used as a pegging dildo. Then you can practice by suctioning it on the wall of the shower, or by using your hand. That way you can learn what you like alone.  When you do start doing this with her, I highly recommend being exceptionally clean, unless you know she doesn’t care.  I say this because I was once with a girl who was squeamish, and I wasn’t squeaky clean when she fucked me and she never did it again. This is also important because if you end up liking harder pegging, it can get things moving in your gut after a few minutes.  My current partner and I can’t be bothered to get extra clean, but it doesn’t matter as much because we go slowly with anal play. 

I personally like very slow movement when my partner fingers or fucks me with a dildo.  If you think about the whole prostate orgasm thing, it is about micro-sensations and amplifying them, as well as moving around a practically still toy.  So I like when my partner mimics a toy with her fingers by resting relatively still, or does very gentle movements.  And when she uses a dildo I like when she just moves it ever so slightly about.  My experience with rapid movement and with heavy pressure is always the same: I go numb and get bored.  But this is me, and you might be completely different. Many men love been fucked hard in the ass, and I am actually curious if they have prostate/rectal orgasms that way or if what is exciting is mainly the idea of being fucked/dominated, without orgasmic pleasure per se.

Otherwise there are many other ways to enjoy prostate orgasms with your partner. I myself have almost no time alone to use a toy these days, and for the last six months, most of my prostate play has been with my partner (except for quick aless, which I do all day).  At first it wasn’t obvious how to reconcile prostate pleasure with another person.  Because prostate pleasure takes so much concentration and it is so meditative, something as little as an unexpected movement or sound that my partner would make would break my concentration.  Through persistence I have learned how to make it happen, but even nowadays occasionally there are moments when I am at the brink of something big and she makes a movement that distracts me and I lose it all.

One very common thing we do is, with a toy in, my partner caresses me and kisses me all over. This is usually the most “efficient” and is good for non-stop orgasms until I can’t take it anymore.   Sometimes we do the same thing while she uses a toy on herself, but this is less frequent, as often she likes to be concentrated on me during this time. I also like to have a toy in when I am playing with her, but because I’m concentrating on her I don’t have many orgasms this way. Since I have become adept at non-genital orgasms through amplification, there is also no need for a toy in any of the above acts for me to experience orgasmic pleasure.  So any sexual act, from genital stimulation to nipple sucking to even kissing or caressing fully clothed, can lead to very intense orgasms.  For example, she loves playing with my nipples through my shirt while passing by each other in the apartment, and that sends me to outer space immediately.  Or she might just caress the back of my hand, or my lips, and that is enough To drive me wild.

So in the end most of the prostate or prostate-related pleasure I receive with my partner is not with her directly stimulating my prostate, rather it is with or without a toy in, through orgasmic techniques that I have learned over the last couple years of aneros play and aless.  Though my partner isn’t thrusting or pounding away at me, she still feels that she has a large role in making me come so much. And she does.  And I tell her... if I am capable of speaking!

Posted by: @helghast

The reason I ask is it doable. The wife thinks it’s going to be easy, I’m not so sure. I’m not sure her ‘doing’ it will turn out the same, don’t want her to be disappointed.

I'm willing to bet if you both follow the steps in the The 30 Day Anal Orgasm Test neither of you will be disappointed. While that article was meant to instill a female dominant relationship, the conditioning exercises will make it likely that you will experience multiple prostate orgasms and possibly Super-O's during the process. I hope you let us know how it goes for you and your wife.

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Posted by: @divine_o

@rumel surely has a database of all posts organized by topic and key word. Thus he can retrieve links quickly and efficiently, that much is obvious. What is less clear is what tool he uses to do so. I think instead of a keyboard he has an aneros joystick-like controller that he manipulates with subtle contractions of various PC muscles for efficient and stress-free responses.

That's absolutely hilarious ! We're not there yet but with the rapid evolution of electronic devices, sensory apparatus and sophisticated micro machinery such a device is not inconceivable. Who knows what magic Aneros devices will be developed in the coming years ?

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And she has every right to want to be involved!  Just, you will find out over time what exactly she will be involved with.  It is normal for you two to think that pegging is the way to go, because that is sort of the opposite of vaginal penetrative sex. But just as vaginal penetrative sex brings only a small percentage of women to orgasm, pegging isn’t necessarily be the key to orgasms for all men.  Think how different solo prostate play is to normal masturbation, and that gap might be the same as the one between normal sex and coupled prostate play. However, by all means try pegging and let us know how it goes, it might be what works best for you. 

How to get squeaky clean... I am not the best person to ask because I have only successfully done it a couple times, but it takes a lot of effort. Many of us just do a quick enema to clean out the rectum. But there is a much more intense and intrusive way of cleaning that involves pushing water pretty far up into the colon and holding it and then releasing it, sometimes several times. It is something that is apparently very frequent amongst bottoms in the gay community. It is also something that pornographic stars do in professional movies, which is why buttholes are mysteriously clean in those videos, even after hard anal sex and even gaping.   They’re not just having a day with no intestinal activity; they have cleaned a large part of their colon in preparation for peristalsis-inducing anal sex.

@rumel I think has a link to a comic that explains deep cleaning very well… And otherwise type it into Google and you will find explanations on gay websites and on pegging sites. 

This is all something you can talk about with your partner: maybe she doesn’t care so much, and that is ideal, so you can avoid deep cleaning.  Most of my partners have cared way less than I have. It is also good to try things out alone to see how your body reacts, so you don’t have bad surprises. For example sometimes when rectal douching, you don’t realize that you have left a fair amount of water further up in the colon, and that comes gushing out at a very inopportune moment.  It is better to figure out what this feels like alone, and not with your partner.

Posted by: @helghast

@7sdoor Not really,I’m sure she’s no different to most wives. she’s up for most things. 

Not so for my better half; quite on the contrary! 

I fully agree with @7sdoor, you @helgast and @divine_o are very lucky to have wives interested in your prostate pleasures.  I would love for mine to be interested in sex period.  I  gess we can't have everything. 

I do however really enjoy reading about your escapades.

 @helgast, no worries!   After 44 years married, nothing will change but I've made my peace with that years ago.  I'm certainly not complaining and I wouldn't change her or anything re my situation.

Aneros and prostate play has been a great help for over 5 years.

Posted by: @helghast

As a side question,how does one get squeaky clean?

Here's the link to How to Clean Your Ass Before Anal Sex as @divine_o noted, I agree with his comments about the process as well. Pegging, nice and naughty ?

Good Vibes to You!

Posted by: @helghast

@ggringo Dayum!! 44 yrs? That’s fantastic! See,your avatar made me think of you as a youngen lol She must be very special! 

 

Yup, 44 years in August and yup,  she's very special even if sex is not her forte. 

My avatar reflects how I feel about life and not my 66 years of age.

Thanks for the positive comments.

@helghast

If you need more resources, there's a bunch of Reddit subs devoted to related topics, like r/CumFromAnal which is pretty much solo guys reaching wet or dry orgasms from riding dildos. Lots of gay and sissy oriented content but if this does not bother you there's some interesting info there, and you'll see videos proving it's absolutely possible. Might be worth checking out. 

@helghast

Getting an actual orgasm with ejaculation might be easier than you think as the stimulation will be lot more intense than with the Aneros, then you have the fact that your wife won't know how close you are and won't stop at the wrong time, a lot of people doing it solo have trouble when things get on the "slightly uncomfortable" side of intense and can't cross over. I think that happens with the Aneros too, but that's another story... Bottom line is that it's very possible that you'll enjoy it right from the start. Keep us posted ! 

Curious, what did you end up buying? The Tantus Acute is close to perfect for that kind of use but maybe a bit much to start with, I guess if you're comfortable with the Progasm you should be good to go. Personally I think it's a great choice in that size range and the quality is top notch.