Nurselady

I'm not a older member but I do like making friends. It's weird how you describe it we are open here about are sexual desires and orientation, but in the real world we are closed off. I just want to mention you bring up a good point and I'm sorry for your loss

A beautifully written and touching story. Thank you for sharing. It is unfortunate that many of us have to maintain confidentiality, but it is in my case an absolute necessity. Nevertheless, I have made a number of close friends despite the drawbacks. And the confidentiality allows us to be totally open about aspects of our erotic lives which we could never divulge in public. That in itself is a blessing.

Oh I forgot to mention that I have enjoyed shoving things up my butt since I was five years old. It is heartening to know that there are a lot of other guys out there with the same proclivities.

He He He ..... on the shoving things up my butt remark ....... ditto.... same here.

So sorry to read about the loss of your friend. Why does it always seem to happen to the nice people, when there are dxxckheads walking the streets.

Such a wonderful story...you were fortunate to share part of your life with her...im sorry for your loss.

RIP, "nurselady".

Oh, gnawdol:

Your story demonstrates (as if we really did not know this) that though there is a lot of "horsing around" her, lightheartedness , sometimes crazy off the wall stuff , sometimes an apparent lack of taking our fellow Anerosers seriously or giving them respect and sometimes downright meanness and "smallness of mind", there are a host of really good and insightful and caring people here.
Like you, gnawdol, I have been able, during the 6 years I've been around to forge some friendships beyond the polite "howdie-do's" and joking. I have discovered that there are guys who are not whom they appear to be---"jokers" who are thoughtful when they write and teach well. Flippant chatters who really, really care and are willing to do things for their fellow anerosers that, even if it is done through the veil of anonymity, it is done with humanity and true caring. I have recently been the personal recipient of such kindness from a host of Anerosers in the face of my wife's ongoing life threatening illness and my personal attempt to come to terms with it . I have received real emotional support and advice that has kept me going. Like you, gnawdol, I have "dropped my mask" a few times and revealed my identity, if by location or profession or by name. It is a risk to render oneself utterly vulnerable to strangers, and sometimes while revealing the deepest secrets we hold. Whether it has been wise on my part or not, I can say that I have not been disappointed by the honesty and trust that I have been able to experience with the several guys I have become friendly with. Also, like you, I have been exceedingly fortunate to have met several of our friends in person and would gladly do it again. In this strange "new world" of the internet where we hid behind false names and personas, where we do strip ourselves down "anonymously" and show ourselves, warts and all, and yet remain behind some sort of mask, I have felt that I want to feel that I have truly become friends with men all over the world, of the most remarkably wide spectrum of views and orientations and ages and sexualities. It has made my life richer, if more complicated in some ways, but I am glad of my having come to this unusual place with unusual men who share the excitement of discovering their bodies.
Thanks for commemorating "nurselady" here and for making this important point about what we can do here.

Gnawdol, I was very touched by your thoughtful post. You were blessed to have a friend like Connie, with whom to share things. The post by Armon-neat reflects a kindred spirit. I have very much enjoyed his friendship on the infrequent occasions I come here. If not already think about adding him to the people with whom you have intimate thoughtful discussions

Thanks all ....... there are many of you out there who are special to me as friends and erotic compatriots. We all share something special.

There are a few on here (past and present) where I have also dropped the mask: male and female. Some I'm still in contact with, and some have unfortunately disappeared off the net. In each case, I feel I have been most fortunate to have made these friendships.

Hi gnawdol please excuse me spelling i am dyslexic and this spell check ant to good very sade i lost my wife 7 years ago a very different thing than you and peepal always say the loss will fade with time but when your in love or very close i don't think so.you just get better at hiding it .if i hadn't av lost my wife .i might not have contracted prostate cancer perhaps i am looking for sumthing to blame haw i fawned aneros must have been on another sit .probebly looking for kegel exerciser WAT a find a new werld all the best

All of you, and especially you Gnawdol, reveal the best of our humanity when you tell a story or post a comment as you all have done above. Very touching. I also echo that it is so very much a part of our humanity to be sexual yet we hide our true desires and eroticisms from full light. It is unfortunate that we as a society do not believe that all of us humans, no matter how we are oriented sexually, cannot show our our true selves and be accepted as we truly are at our core. Of course I never met Connie but I now know the world has lost a dear and vibrant person.

That is the wonderful thing about these sexual sites ,,,, people think of them as dirty or dark and perverted but they are places to be open and discover the essence of our humanity.