Hello everyone! I've got my Helix almost 2 month ago, started with contractions which didnt work well and now doint relaxed mode. From session to session it got better and better but once I had my fisrt P-wave (single one, but daem good and warm one) I've got stuck.
I've tried contraction method and do nothing one. First one doesnt feel bad but I don't feel real "prostate pleasure" from contracting sphincter or pc mussles tho I definetely feel pressaure against prostate when contracting.
So here comes my question: Are rectal contractions that important? Because I can't really figure out how to contract them. Some say that when you contract them, aneros gets pushed out of you. I can do that but only with my abs tensing up which makes me sore and does not let me to relax tho I can contract my PC mussles easy and for a long time (feel only preassure against my prostate, not much good feelings)
Do nothing but deep breathing method feels better and somewhat closer to prostate pleasure. Once I insert aneros and get warmed up after 5 minutes of deep breathing I relax my anus to the point where device almost starts to falling out. Thats where super short lived fun begins, I start to feel some good building up tension on my prostate for 5-10 seconds and at the same time my penis is starting to get hard which always takes all attention from prostate and I irretrievably lose all my pleasure, then my penis becomes soft again and I just lay there for hour or two trying to get this feeling back. I can catch it back for 1 or 2 times but with same success. Oh by the way, my first p wave happened when I relaxed for the first time, no luck to get it back.
I almost always lay on my right side because Im kinda skinny and device touches the bed when I lie on my back which steals my attention and I don't feel comfortable with a pillow under my back.
Give me some advices please.
@Revan
Try different things: Even tho its not your fave, lay on your back, legs spread like this with feet together:
Try relaxing for a while, then try contracting for a while, Then, contract with all your strength for as long as you can hold it, like you are trying to suck the toy completely in. Then, relax and see how your prostate thanks you!
I like circling my nipples with my fingers after I am good and warmed up
Don't expect anything! Just enjoy and feel! No 'one size fits all' Your body is complex and awesome. It will take time to figure out what it craves from you.
Try those things, let me know how your body liked it.
Do you ever fantasise when masturbating? The same idea can help you here.
Generally speaking it just takes time for the muscles in your ass to become good friends with the Aneros. However, if you feel like you're at a plateau, the general practice of building arousal and excitement may push you past that. Like mentioned above, fantasising and role-playing in a sense can help. Anything that turns you on that isn't explicitly sexual activity (ex. parts of the body, including private, a fetish, etc) are one thing. I note "isn't explicitly sex" because you want to build arousal, and sexual thoughts skip a lot of it which is why members here forego looking at porno.
To be honest, past few sessions were rough. I just dont feel pleasure while contracting my mussles, then I just relax and breathe, then this feeling comes: warm web that keep building up until my penis gets hard and I lose everything. After that I feel nearly nothing.
I still enjoy doing this sessions, its fun, but im starting to lose real passion from prostate pleasure since I cant get to feel one 🙁
Hi Revan! By your postings, I get the feeling that your expectations might be a little too high. I suffered from this too, at the beginning, and there were a few things that helped me through. First, your prostate isn't your dick. That was a problem I had--when we masturbate or are involved in sex, we can often control what happens, for the most part. We know when we're about to cum, we know when we're aroused (and its various levels), and we respond accordingly. With the Aneros and prostate play, this isn't the case. I find that my best sessions (and I haven't had a bad one in a very long time), happen when I just let go, get completely relaxed, forget about my dick, and just let things happen. You might try listening to monaural/binaural beats with headphones; they helped me to really focus and block out everything but the feelings I got from my Progasm or my Helix. Try exploring other parts of your body and see if you find a connection between it and your prostate. Also, give it some time, both during sessions and big picture. Try giving it an hour (or more if that works for you), and see what happens. Don't expect anything. Sexual fantasizing works for me too, though more and more I find it isn't necessary, just fun. Connected to that, your state of arousal is key--if you're not "feeling it," little is likely to happen. Lastly, don't worry about the Super-O. I've yet to achieve one, and the more I enjoy the Aneros, the less I worry about it. I've been able to get the most exquisite waves of pleasure (perhaps they're dry-O's, I'm not sure, and I don't care), and if and when the super-O comes, great. If not, the journey is amazing. I hope this helps you--the effort is well worth it!