newbie asks: how do you keep learn self control?

bess,
When you are new, many folks have the greatest wet orgasms when using the Aneros... but sometimes that may subsides just a bit.

As I told you in the other post, self control is a must, but it is OK to cheat on the self control at times.
As a hard core "User" I know exactly what you mean, need, and feel, really!

It feels so fucking good that you think you will blow up if you don't help with the hand, so from time to time, take out the mgx and do the regular hand job. The reason I say to take out the mgx when you are going to masturbate is that you want your body and mind to understand the difference.
Then next time, you have a session, try and use the mgx only, no hand jobs afterwards, unless it is just to much.

bess, you want your body and mind to understand the difference in the two types of play.
One is for Hands on... and the other is for total body and prostate orgasms with the mgx.

If you think you are getting great, and amazing, orgasms now... just wait until your are "rewired" and you have a super-T (giving yourself a hand job).

So the incentive to have the self control is the next level of orgasms when you are "rewired".

Trust me bud, you do not need to have a partner to have super-O's, don't get me wrong, it is very very nice, but you can have the most wonderful time with yourself and your mgx.

Have some patients and fun, and I hope it helped.

bess,

😆 You sound like a young man who discovers by accident one day the immense pleasures to be had from that sensitive appendage between his legs. Now you have found a wonderful new device that amplifies that pleasure and are becoming seduced by Mistress Aneros’ sensual call to play with her. It is your choice to easily succumb to her inviting charms and develop a pattern of behavior that while very satisfying and pleasing may limit even greater pleasures in the future. My advice to you at this early stage is to go completely HANDS OFF your penis while you rewire yourself for greater pleasure.
Like any motor skill we develop once a behavior is learned it is nearly impossible to “un-learn” it. Can you, right now, even conceive of un-learning how to masturbate? I doubt it, you’ve so firmly ingrained the neural pathways the stimulus-response is probably automatic by now. With this new massager you have a chance to develop new stimulus-response patterns quite different from the traditional “hands-on” approach. Why don’t you challenge yourself to learn this other way to achieve orgasms that will far exceed what you currently experience.
If you continue on the path you are on, it will become increasingly difficult to rewire yourself to this other mode thus making it less likely you will be able to experience the great bliss afforded by the Super-O. This is just the opinion of one old goat who is still undergoing his own rewiring process, but I would like to make it easier for you. To specifically answer your question – “…you think going for hands on orgasm inhibits reaching other orgasms in the longer term?” IMHO, YES!
I also suspect you do have the self control necessary to try this alternate path to fulfillment.

The Jedi way...use The Force Luke! 😀