New and seeking advice

Hi JackinAz,
Welcome.
What to look for:
-- The Aneros will add a new dimension to your couples foreplay.
-- Regarding "self love" and masturbation: read "Penis Not" by cockadoodle Link: -- http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/penis-not-13035/index8.html --
-- Concerning model choices, Helix might be your best choice for 'dual duty' it's more sensitive to body position and posture than MGX and SGX (other good starting tools)

rook

To add to what Rook said:

-Helix was my first model; the consensus seems to be that it's a good choice assuming you're not less than 5'6"
-Plan on spending an extended period of time with it "solo" before using it during intercourse. I think you'll want to get the rewiring process started first.
-Don't hesitate; buy an aneros. It has the potential to change your life