Hi,
I am new to Aneros and Prostate milking, but have been toying
with small amounts anal play for years both solo and with my partner. I have never
really had any issues with mess short of small amounts of mess on the
toy or her finger etc.
Since discovering the Aneros, I have been
using other toys at the same time, a ridged buttplug and now a Lelo Bruno alone to try and achieve anal
orgasams, I have started i believe to have these orgasm's but also have
developed a mess issues.
I am preparing my self ahead of time,
maybe 30 minutes before starting anything I am evacuating, but am
finding that once I decide to become a bit more rigorous in my play, maybe after
10-20 minutes of foreplay penetrative like play I am either needing to go to the
toilet again, or a small amount of mess is basically dripping from me.
I have hit a point where I am achieving what I definitely consider an
Anal/Prostate/Dry orgasm through 100% anal/prostate stimulation and no
penis touching. This is requiring a lot of time to get to, and then once
I start to get very noticeable prostate sensation that comes and goes. (need to pee
sensation) I switch to more of a pumping, in and out (fucking my self)
motion with the toy, directly contacting the prostate, this goes into an
almost extreme pee sensation, then into a full body abdominal, hold my
breath euphoric contraction and sensation, which appears to intensify
and diminish as I breath. I feel it is like a female full body orgasm (It reminds me of when she has a big one)
As I involuntarily hold my breath I am
in a extremely euphoric contraction, as I take a breath it diminishes,
then as I hold my breath it comes back strong and hard. This continues
as long as I keep pumping the toy over my prostate and sphincter. The
movement in and out through my hole seems to be a very large part of the trigger. I am
able to have multiple dry orgasms doing this. But part of this
contraction seems to be a strong pushing and this in turn is basically
meaning I am, well for no better term.. Shitting my self.
I have noticed before this I get a little messy, I guess it is blending
with the lube, but by the end of the anal orgasm there is likely to be a
small nugget of shit on the floor, maybe the size of a 1/4 or smaller.
This is mildly distressing, as my girl and I both really enjoy anal plan,
and are starting to Peg, and do other things like that, but I don't feel
there is anyway I can do this with her with this side effect, and am horrified this might happen pegging.
She knows all about it and is getting a commentary, there is no hiding it,
and she really wants to experience it with me. I think particularly give
me this anal orgasm, but at present, it has to be a solo activity..
Please someone help me.. What am I doing wrong? How can I work to reduce this,
or stop it from happening?? Currently I can't even attempt this in bed, and
it is reserved for the bathroom floor, and bathtub 🙁
I have been trying:
Fiber tablets.
Going to the bathroom 30 minutes before playing.
I
tried an Enema (water from a bag) this did make it a bit cleaner, but I
still got the wet lube mixed mess, and the pushing sensation during the
orgasm.
Thanks
Bob.
I got rid of this by using an enema - but I do not recommend using clear water! This dries out the intestinal wall and leads to painful sensations.
You can mix warm water with salt our mild soap. Salt-water will make the intestine produce more of its own liquid. I guess it is the same liquid that it normally uses to defecate more easily.
Soapy-water will do the trick, too. But it won't give you the same amount of - well, sensations down there 🙂
Keep in mind that you only need to clean your rectum! That means that you do not need a great amount of liquid. 100ml to 200ml is more than enough at a time!
If you used more, the enema would rush past your rectum farther down into your guts. You would not want that as it would disturb your bowel completely leading to unexpected action of it.
Salty water will give you strong sensations when expelled! ( I use approx. 2 teaspoons in half a litre)
Soapy water won't do that (I use a drop of shower-gel in half a litre)
This is just what I do to clean anything before playtime (maybe half an hour before.)
I do not know whether putting salty or soapy water inside your rectum can cause any harm.
It would be great to read other opinions on that topic!
Anyway, have fun,
Sam.
thanks, i used a lot of water, more like 500ml-1000ml Will do less next time.
Not keen on using soap though
@bbfail10.. A few ideas that might be helpful.
--Lube: Reconsider your choice of lube and the amount you are using. You might have to make some compromises between a 'slick' lube and having better anal control.
--Rectal douche: Try this standing so that gravity helps confine this small rinse to the rectum below the Sigmoid sphincter. A pair of these 'spritzes' should do the job unless you will have extended play with something the size of Progasm or are doing deep penetration with a long wand or dildo. I douche with a shower shot and 'measure' the volume by counting seconds. I'm consistent enough that I can feel when the fluid is going to trigger the upper sphincter and I halt the flow before the Sigmoid is involved. This avoids the need for a conventional enema.
--Anal control and musculature: Choose some kegels and anal retention exercises to help you prevent the ill-timed 'discharges." Try some Kegels with the smaller Peridise and work on separating your control of the various PC groups and your outer anal sphincter. The improved control may eliminate your leaving, "landmarks."
--Salt: Salt is added to enema solutions to prevent excessive fluid absorption by the colon, minimizing dilution of body plasma. Salt and Salt with Soda buffering aren't needed in a rectal douche because the fluid volume is small and it's soon discharged after injection. Check several of the more popular enema sites for appropriate amounts of salt.
--Soap: Popular with many guys who are into large or cleansing enemas but soap must be rinsed out before it can do significant damage to the colon's mucosa. That adds up to at least two and probably three enemas (think three hours) then a couple of hours to ensure expulsion before your pegging starts.
Something like this is an ideal douche...
I have a Streem Master Bulb douche and I like it, but I rarely use it. I find dietary fiber to be more useful: brown beans and lots of vegetables. This way I defecate every morning with a tidy result so I won't be bothered by anything during evening sessions. Try squatting to defecate, it allows for more thorough evacuation of the sigmoid colon. I use Vaseline for lube btw.
Cheers...
Thanks everyone, I am now worried I have sexualized the pushing and am either confusing it with a dry orgasm, or more likely have trained my body that during orgasm to push, push push.
I am still taking fiber tablets, and I am emptying before hand, but finding I need to empty again during, I have no idea where it is all coming from lol, but even when empty it is there.
I think I am using push as my relax method as well, because I have leaned to relaxt and feel the difference in tension when I stop relaxing.
I will try another enema, but this time use much less water as above and see how it goes. Last time it help for a while.
Do people consider this an ok way to play:
Evacuate.
lube up with glove.
insert smaller toy (aneros)
move around, and in and out until strong prostate sensations, urge to pee.
Keep going, and then quickly in/out (fuck my self) until dry orgasm.
Maybe move to a bigger toy.
The in ou and sphincter are currently a very big part of the sensation and pleasure, I don't seem to be able to dry cum from prostate alone.
Cheers
Edit:
I am using "Fuckwater" the white one as lube at present. It seems ok, but near the end I seem to run out.
I have also used Aquaglide, and found the standard one too thin, the gel better, but still get dry spots.
I thought Vaseline was a bad idea as ruined the ph and did other things to the area, or is that only Vaginal?
I always coat my Helix Syn, MGX & Peridise with a thin coat of Vaseline and then smother with ample amount of water-based gel lube before inserting.??