Male Orientation?

After using and enjoying the use of Aneros devices, I now question my own sexuality, though I'm not attracted to men, I'm attracted to the sexual acts between them.

I repeat here that I am unashamedly straight and could never imagine myself in a relationship with another man.

Having said that, I still feel envious when I see the image of a well endowed man and wish that I was the same. (Clearly I am not well endowed)!

For all that, five years of Aneros experience has still not changed my sexual orientation in the slightest and I doubt that it ever will. If anything, it has put me a little more in touch with how my wife feels and has made me more aware of her needs.

For that alone, I have to thank Aneros for creating this environment.

@pommie, penis envy is normal. The average penis size is between 5-6"(erect) and 90% of the male population fall into that category. So no worries mate.

Off topic - with apologies:
If you were very big you could give yourself an oral - that is if you didn't faint through blood loss. Fancy never knowing.
Could not resist it - lead me not into.......!

@Pommie

Always remember an overly endowed man, is in the same boat, as a man that is under endowed.

@Pspotsquirter, so true! lmao

@ineverknew

HA HA!!!! Most people fail to realize this. In my time, I have met a woman, that did not want anything over six inches. Conversely, I have also met a woman, that did not want anything under ten inches. Oh the perils, of having a penis, whether it is big or small!
:-B

@Ehm
I find your posts, to be quite dubious, as well as troubling. The majority of homosexuality, in Ancient Greece (from what I've read), was between ADULT men and PUBESCENT boys. This is nothing to be lauded. Am I to gather, that you would find this behavior acceptable today, as well?

I'm not really in the business of 'lauding' any sexual orientation but as Isvara was saying about the evolutionary advantages of bonding thru sex, the fact that men(not just homosexual men) have evolved an erogenous zone in the anus suggests to me that homosexual activity wasn't just the pleasurable activity of a minority, i.e the homosexuals, but was something practised by all. Because sexually bonding with men obviously would strengthen groupcohesion. And again this isn't something I'm advocating or lauding it's something that makes sense. But as I mentioned men become fixed after their developmental phase, which to me is a shame as I can't experience the arousal homosexuals get from either the phantasy or actually being fucked by a man and possibly(coming back to pederasty)the real sexual abuse is being limited in scope, strictly heterosexual, instead of being able to experience the full range of sexual orientation. And I don't think this has any scientific reasoning, but is still a remnant of our religious past. And you know religions are about taking over one's mind and body(sexual repression). And in a way limiting our focus in the developmental phase is a bit like what Jesuit Priests said about getting them young so they'll be believers for life. The same goes for sexual orientation and it's the mental equivalent of circumcision, i.e. childmutilation
And it wasn't just homosexual activity between men and boys, although this was common as well, some citystates even had armies of lovers.

Mmm, a bit off topic.
It was just the other day I was talking with isvarason and we felt our circumcision was the best thing that happened to us. Isvarason did remind me that it was done properly by a doctor who knew what he was doing. I asked isvarason did he have any regrets. He looked up at me with his little face and said 'none'.

Not a day goes by without me regretting not having had part of my penis hacked off:)

@isvara
Thank you for going off topic! It was the only just thing, one could do. I'm glad to hear that Isvarason is enjoying his circumcision.

@isvara

I just asked Li'l Junior (not to be confused with the rapper) how he felt about being circumsized. And he replied,"Hell! I'm ecstatic that mum got it done. 'Cause you would have beat it off me, by now, anyway!"
:">

@Ehm

Robin Williams once said,"It's either a snake with a sweater! Or a snail with a helmet!"

I personally disagree with circumcision. There is really no reason for it as the previous reasons have been debunked(infection). Your also robbing the male of more pleasure from his penis by cutting off some of the most sensitive skin. They also say(not sure, but read this somewhere) that by having the head of the penis covered throughout the day by skin it makes the penis head extremely sensitive, whereas without the skin the head becomes dried out and loses sensitivity by rubbing on your underwear incessantly. I dont know, it just makes sense to me now. Seems barbaric to cut a childs penis, and for what purpose??

@ineverknew I would tend to agree with the sensitivity issue with circumsized men as every man i've ever known that was NOT circumcized was very sensitive. I could get them to cum so fast it was unbelievable. Those that were circumsized took longer, but thats just my experience. I guess it is just one of those things thats been being done for so long it will take a while for people to not consider it.

@devajones, thank you for your observation, I have some serious questions but not for this thread. Good to hear from the other side.

Re the thread. The sample is very small so having a mini/super O does not appear to change ones sexual orientation. It looks like most remain the same. The big difference I think is that Aneros use has made us all much more tolerant/understanding of the other. This, if it is so, is quite remarkable. What is also good is that we appear to encourage each other on our several journeys with no judgement or pressure to change the other. As said in a previous post the Poll might have been better if could have had a before and after buttons, but that complexity may not be possible on this site or easily set up.
The other blessing is that it seems as if we are all developing a deeper acceptance, understanding and enjoyment of our sexual side. Even the straights are coming "out" so as to speak.

I knew a dude that had to get circumsized, at 30 years of age. This was because, his foreskin had started to constrict about his dick head. After the circumcision, he was in extreme pain for about 20 days. I had a friend that dated an un-circumsized dude, and she was always getting yeast infections, as a result of his foreskin.
A circumsized man cannot miss something , that he has never had. If a man's ding- ding, is being rubbed dry, by his drawers, he has options:

A. Get underwear made of softer material.
B. Try some fabric softener
C. Lotion your dick. That is what shea butter is really for (lotion purposes)
D. All of the above.

Too many dudes are lamenting about not having a foreskin. If it is that bad, go to the Doctor, and get foreskin reconstruction surgery. About 25-30 years ago, there was a dude on the Sally Jessy Raphael Show;
and he was complaining how bad his life was, sans foreskin. He got his foreskin reconstructed. He had to spend six weeks, with his penis sewn to his leg, so the skin graft could work. No shit! Smh.
:-t

One thing that @Ehm mentioned is the biological curiosity of us men having erotic response in our asses. I long ago wrote about that, envisioning that in way earlier times of our natural history, perhaps dominant males subordinated less dominate by fucking them. The orgasmic response in the fucked was a way to gain favor with the fucker, because the receiver's orgasmic contractions in turn cause great pleasure in the penetrator.

I had those thoughts after a particularly intense orgasmic session in which the feeling of getting fucked was very tangible. I could not understand how I could have such a strong response without having been evolved to perform that way.

However, the thing that somewhat undermines this speculation is exactly how miraculous the aneros is as an invention. From what i have learned on this forum, from the writings of gay guys, intense multiple orgasm from gay receptive anal intercourse is rare. We take it for granted because we have been rewired. But that rewiring seems to be a consequence of the Aneros training, not something that occurs "in nature" very commonly.

To me, the mystery is:
1) has there been a time long ago in our natural history when males had anal/prostate orgasms?

2) When was the first male in our lineage to receive anal intercourse?

3) When was the first male in our lineage to have an anal orgasm?

4) Is the Aneros a novel development in our natural history, such that it greatly eases the way to having anal orgasms, and, if so, is it just a biological coincidence that our bodies can do this?

Darwin

@Pspotsquirter, yeast infections can easily be avoided by bathing properly, its called washing yo dick! lol I dont personally miss my forskin that was cut off as I dont know any differently as you mentioned but I still think its unnecessary. There are actually devices you can wear that slowly stretch the skin over the penis head restoring your foreskin. Surgery seems drastic!

@ineverknew, washing your dick is futile if your wife isn't as meticulous; I fought an infection for over 10 years, so the surgery was a relief.

The only thing I miss is the ability to squeeze out the last urine from the urethra, like I could with a foreskin. The added friction in intercourse overpowers the loss of sensitivity before circumcision, because the foreskin was so long, my penis just rolled in and out of it, dulling the ability to feel much of anything.

@ineverknew I would tend to agree with the sensitivity issue with circumsized men as every man i've ever known that was NOT circumcized was very sensitive. I could get them to cum so fast it was unbelievable. Those that were circumsized took longer, but thats just my experience. I guess it is just one of those things thats been being done for so long it will take a while for people to not consider it.

A similar thought and equally egocentric could be thought by the man whose girl-bride has been likewise 'taken care of' so he can note with satisfaction:"my wives won't be fucking around"
No it's ok men are desensitized so women can enjoy sex longer. When the fact is that humans have more in common with bonobos than with chimpansees, so it's not that men and women are sexually incompatible but that society makes it so, i.e. human beings aren't monogamous hence it wasn't a problem that men came quicker and it took women longer to 'warm up', coz once they were, they were cockhungry and so their pussies have evolved to know better than the women themselves which seed would provide the child the best immunity. So what happens after women have evolved into perfect spermsponges? Agriculture>property, women become chattle/whores, monogamy/wedding.
And it says something for the madness of the situation that cutting a chunk off your penis can make sense

OFF TOPIC ALERT!! Regarding the bad press that circumcision has taken in the press and among certain groups: Trained circumcisors have been sent to Africa to teach their skills and practice their art because AIDS transmission is drastically reduced by circumcision. As Pspotsquirter noted you can't miss something you never had and I've been missing mine since I was eight days old. But would I do it if it were not such a fundamental part of my tradition? I don't really know...

better than aneros?

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=4YMYL-G887-

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@didymus
I was thinking the same thing! If @aneros_user13872 thinks the type of action, in the video, is better than an Aneros Massager; what is his true motive for the posting of the video. He also started a separate thread regarding the video.

I finally figured it... The question was not right. I'll make another thread wich I can answer. Because my answer to this one wouldn't describe at all.

better than aneros?

http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=4YMYL-G887-

Interesting question....

My experience has been that bottoming my gay youth co-experimenter's hot cock was great fun, butt never gave me an orgasm at the levels that I had had a few years earlier from my self-fingering and improvised wild variety of dildo/massagers!!! Great video 872!!

And those lovely guys are older there than my gay lover and I when we were active, both age 17 to 19+, yet this vid stirred memories of us topping and bottoming each other, though primarily of me bottoming his beautiful hot rod and being slapped by his delicious balls!! This year is our 50th Anniversary, and because we have been good platonic friends ever since we stopped having sex together, with an ongoing life-time conversation, we celebrated with a long-distance phone call and my wife and I will be hosting him for a visit at our home again soon. Here is my 50th meditations blog post: http://www.aneros.com/blogs/ecstatic-energies-and-the-art-of-living/50th-anniversary-of-gaybi-youth-memories-celebration-sessions/

I found that it took Aneros to get my back to the mind-expanding prostate-centred to crown chakra-centred super super orgasms, both the higher order physical responses, and especially the out-of-this-world Intellectual Orgasms I experienced from age 13 to age 15!!! Hallelujah and much deep gratitude to the Aneros inventor, the refinement team.!. 😀 , and all the Aneros Support staff!!! Here is the Intellectual Orgasms post in my blog here: http://www.aneros.com/blogs/ecstatic-energies-and-the-art-of-living/early-post-of-youth-experiences/

I think that a skilled focused top or flip-flop partners could refine their glans to rectal prostate contact area sensitivities and motion actions to fully stim the receiver's prostate to at least equal, and perhaps better, a skilled soloist male's Aneros practice results. When in live intercourse, the other partner's needs and responses are very much part of the dance, and that can simply be too much distraction, no matter the good intentions of both partners.

My wife's fingering of my prostate has reached a very high level of skill, and she is now comfortable with me taking an active part and riding her finger while she keeps the contact precisely ecstatic!!!! We are gradually experimenting toward her fully pegging me with our Realdoe Slim, yet fun though that will be, I don't know if we will be able to attain the same levels without the skin to skin contact of skilled fingering. Here is the previous blog post of the second to most recent Wedding Band tantric-like session and near boundless ecstatics: http://www.aneros.com/blogs/ecstatic-energies-and-the-art-of-living/wedding-band-position-astounding-developments/

Post of our most recent astoundings will happen soon!! 😉

all the most ecstatic above and beyond orgasmic energies voyaging solo and/or partnered all

as we rewire
we are all reconnected

Thanks very much BigOluver for this Poll question, and the conversation here!! 😀 😀

I wish that one could click at least two of the buttons. I wanted to vote both "still straight" because that has not changed for me physically, and my Aneros and complementary practices have opened me and my wife's couples practice to un-imagined new heights of deeply loving ecstatics!! And this is the most important advance for me/us!!

I voted "bi" however, since pioneering and spreading the whole orgasmic energies sharing/synching has opened a vast range of male/male remote, at-a-distance, ecstatic experiences and new and deep friendships and male/male bonds with ongoing lifetime conversations, all virtually in weblife.

And with a few, we share so much in common aside form all this, we now share in the real world in our real identities, still remote at-a-distance and so non-physical. Since reaching the spiritual orgasmic levels that include healing abilities and sharing those, both remotely from here, and openly in the real world with both friends and strangers, I am working toward bringing the Tao of Aneros and the related healing energies practices to the whole world!!

all the very best Whole Male Health and Whole Male Being personally and sharing with care with all

as we rewire
we are all reconnected