Knowing you have had a dry/super

What I call my dry-O is a discrete event. Some might say I'm using the term incorrectly, and I should be calling it a mini-O. A tremor in my abdomen escapes control, my ass clamps down on the aneros, my pelvis thrusts and spasms, and my body's muscles go rigid for a moment. It has many qualities of an ejaculatory orgasm, but I generally find it to be unsatisfying and disruptive. I do enjoy getting several in a row with only seconds between them, though.


Identifying the beginning or end of my super-O isn't usually possible. Or useful. But it's easy to know when I'm in the middle of it, or to know when it's evaporated and isn't coming back. Getting another super-O mostly depends on whether I feel like resetting and starting again.


My super-O is that same long-duration warmth you've had. It climbs and falls in intensity as yours does, but generally climbs more than it falls. I couldn't say when it crosses the notional boundary between plain-O and super-O. When I had an O whose super-ness couldn't be denied or dismissed, I saw many previous ones as being super-Os. Just not quite as super.

I'm pretty much the same. It's a sensation that rises and falls very smoothly and gradually. Any peaks are small relative to what I was feeling seconds before. And there are no huge or sudden drops in arousal either. This smooth pleasure curve takes me to high altitudes, so I'm happy with it for what it is.

Having said that, I have had a small number of aneros sessions that reached (what I think the Wiki refers to as) a cascade. Like when a traditional orgasm kicks in and seems to take over, and dumps a load of pleasure on me at once, whether I want it or not, I'm just on this ride. Then fizzles out. I'd count these as distinct orgasm events.

But as satisfying as those peaks are, they don't feel as deep as the calm-seas I ride 99% of the time.

This has screwed with my whole perception of what a super-orgasm is, and I've mostly abandoned even using the term. By the loosest definition of super-o, I have them all the time. But I've had glimpses of things that lead me to believe I've never had a super-o.
If the deep core sensations I ride as "calm-seas" were to ever cascade the way a typical orgasm does... I'm actually afraid of what that might feel like.
Is that what a super-orgasm is? Is that why people flop around the place? Is that what they're feeling?
I don't even know what people are talking about any more... there's so much room for subjectivity.

I've caught hints of that cascade freakout. A strange quiver that feels like it would erupt if I simply breathed on it the right way.

Knowing or even suspecting it exists doesn't diminish what I currently define as my super-O. As you said, it's very subjective.

There is no term that has caused more confusion then the super O or dry O but these are the terms we are stuck with. Pleasure is subjective but we have two known's, the edge and the point of no return or orgasm and ejaculation. Lets talk super O, there is never any fear of going over the edge with the aneros, there is a point of no return but who cares the next orgasm will be around the corner. If a super O lasted the same length of time as a traditional O then it would not be be very super at all, so the length of time is important. If the intensity was less then your last traditional orgasm then it would not be very super. For me intensity must be equal to or higher and the length of time must be greater for me to class the orgasm as super. The dry O, or what I call a dry O feels exactly like a traditional O, raging hard on, throbbing and pulsating just like a regular O but no ejaculation. I love these dry O's and have had several but for me they are very rare....very rare, I have maybe had 6

Everyone's definition of a super O is relative! I think that there is a continuous spectrum of orgasm starting at just a mild pleasure ranging to a whole body ecstatic experience, quite at what point you call it a super O is individual. I would certainly call some of my earlier experiences super O's because they were a sudden leap beyond anything I could have imagined possible before.

For me I think there is a scale, I feel as if I am having a level 1,2,3,4 or whatever orgasm and almost feel myself rating it each time. This is actually a problem because I know that I'm not fully enjoying it when I am scoring myself, and always comparing it to the last one. I could probably also rate it according to where it happens, how long it lasts, how good I feel emotionally about it, and how satisfying it is. So I could have a grade 2, lower pelvic, emotionally intense, moderately satisfying, 5 minute orgasm one day and something totally different another day. For me that wouldn't be a super O, someone else might think that it is.

Like @Clenchy I don't think that the term super O is actually very helpful there is way too much variation and subjectivity. It does make it sound exciting though.

I wouldn't call what i have for orgasms for one reason. I always fell like im missing out, like there is more to be had. Two days ago I had my best session so far. It was the first time ever i felt statisfied afterwards and even though i was statisfied i knew that i still haven't reached my full potential of pleasure.

It's kind of like having a cheap microwave pizza. You just know that there is better food out there.

Inhope, I think we have very similar problems. You are the only one in this forum that i realy feel like i can relate to. There are some diffrences but i think we share a lot of the same problems. I think that the solution has something to do with relaxing. I have come to change my understanding of what realxing realy is in the last year and i still have a lot to learn.

@tantricTraveler I think everyone has potential for infinite levels of pleasure inside them. It's finding the way to unlock it, and I don't think you can consciously do that. I had amazing super-Os the moment I started in fact I think I would now call my first every dry orgasm a super-O, they got better, then vanished, then I could orgasm again with difficulty, now I can it it at will, but I still haven't touched what I managed a month ago in terms of explosive pleasure. Why? I don't have a clue, and I'm caring less and less because I know I'm going somewhere and I'm enjoying the ride. It's a whole body and mind journey and I have never been this happy ever. I'm just letting if happen, and the more I trust it to happen the more it does. It's a case of 'if you seek you will find'.This probably hasn't helped you in the slightest bit, but I think if you give in to it things sort themselves out in the end.

@tantricTraveler I think everyone has potential for infinite levels of pleasure inside them. It's finding the way to unlock it, and I don't think you can consciously do that. I had amazing super-Os the moment I started in fact I think I would now call my first every dry orgasm a super-O, they got better, then vanished, then I could orgasm again with difficulty, now I can it it at will, but I still haven't touched what I managed a month ago in terms of explosive pleasure. Why? I don't have a clue, and I'm caring less and less because I know I'm going somewhere and I'm enjoying the ride. It's a whole body and mind journey and I have never been this happy ever. I'm just letting if happen, and the more I trust it to happen the more it does. It's a case of 'if you seek you will find'.This probably hasn't helped you in the slightest bit, but I think if you give in to it things sort themselves out in the end.

I'm glad things are working out for you but what you are describing is just not my path.

Things have been falling in peoples heads for as long as there has been people. One day an apple hit Newton in the head and he didn't just say ouch. he sorted the shit out. If Newton hadn't done what he did we would probably never have gotten around to making aneroses. Some of us just can't let things be and enjoy them as they are.

I think I'm about to sort this shit out and when I'm done I will probably write a book about it. Just enjoying the ride is not enjoying the ride for me.

@tantricTraveler apologies if it sounded like I was lecturing you or being big headed. I hope it didn't come across like that but I think it might have. I was a bit high yesterday on all my experiences and I certainly don't know it all. We all find our own way.

I hope you find what you are looking for.