Having had the Helix Trident and the Progasm Black going on two months without her knowledge I had to find a way to bring her into the fold. She would NOT have been pleased to find I'd had these behind her back, so.....
I ordered a PS-New from High Island, had it shipped to the house, got it yesterday. We were in the bedroom putting away laundry and I said, "Oh, I ordered a prostate massager and it showed up today". She was a little taken aback but I told her, "You know, I'm 59, I've had a few prostate infections, I had an epididimis infection the urologist blamed on the prostate infection, and I'm tired of getting up to pee four and five times a night. If this prevents one more round of anti-biotics and / or means I get up half as much to pee at night I think it's a good investment". Told her there can be sex benefits too which made her smile. I told her all High Island makes is prostate massagers so it's a medical device, not really a sex toy but can have benefits.
So, let it do its magic. Down the road she can get introduced to the Helix Trident and Progasm Black once she starts seeing that I'm healthier.
I've always been into fun sex. My wife is much more interested in connection and emotional sharing. We don't do what the other wants terribly well. Fun and playing to me develops a trust of the other person which then makes me feel more connected and trusting of them. I can get to emotional and connected but she still never gets to fun. Buying a sex toy for us to share is playful, to me. To her it's trying to compensate for a lack of emotional connecting and sharing.
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I asked my wife to read some posts in the "Aneros women" channel. That really helped her understand and put to rest her concern with the possibility of a device taking her place in meeting my needs. We now work ( play) together and discuss ways to incorporate using this Aneros prostate massager (Eupho trident). Sometimes together and the times I need to use it alone in order to accomplish my rewiring properly.